Remarrying

The Schemer · (#1 (**permalink**))

Does God support this? Should christians forever be in marriage even if they are happy.

Talula · (#2 (**permalink**))

I think u meant unhappy. yes is the answer. only biblical ground for divorce is adultery but you can separate and remain unmarried if e.g ur mate is physically abusive etc

reggie_woic · (#3 (**permalink**))

christian, though i am, i don't see the point in living an unhappy life because the bible says that i should tolerate it.

chotadipo · (#4 (**permalink**))

^Then you should be going to hell since you are disobeying what the good bible says. The word of GOD, right?

Muafrica · (#5 (**permalink**))

I thought only the catholic church forbids divorce.....

ATLian · (#6 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by chotadipo

^Then you should be going to hell since you are disobeying what the good bible says. The word of GOD, right?

I second that. Reggie, you're being hypocritical.

Sugarplum · (#7 (**permalink**))

Ok...what is the reason of the unhappiness? Maybe both partners just need to put in some work and time into the marriage and it could very well be saved.

But to answer your question, the bible permit divorce only in the case of marital infidelity (cheating). Most things, you can work through. Counseling, separation watever may work for that particular situation. Divorce should be the very last resolution. Hey some people are just not cut out to be married and they don't realize that until it's rather late.

ATLian · (#8 (**permalink**))

But to answer your question, the bible permit divorce only in the case of marital infidelity (cheating).

I think that sometimes a believer should put aside his Holy Book, ignore the idiotic dogma inside it, and use his brain to act rationally.

E.g. the Bible says that you should only divorce your husband if he cheats on you. Therefore, if your husband NEVER EVER cheats on you, but he beats you, doesn't support you financially, beats your children, is a bank robber on the side, runs a child prostitution ring and a child pornography website, was actively involved in the Rwandan and Darfur genocides, is emotionally abusive, etc, then as a good Christian wife you are not allowed to divorce him. If all these evils finally catch up with him and he gets sentenced to life without parole, then as a good Christian wife, you're meant to wait until the day he dies in jail before you move on to somebody else. If he lives in jail for the next 76 years, then as a good Christian wife you are meant to deny yourself the love of another man, the joys of sex, the chance to give birth to children, the natural cycle of building a relationship, family and future with someone you love, etc. In order to make god happy and to get his blessings, the good Christian wife will wait alone, lonely, bila sex, love, etc, until that deadbeat dies in 2081 before she can go back "on the market". She will suffer all these years not for something she did, but for something another person did. And all this time, other Christians are meant to admire her as a symbol of what "unshaking" Christian faith is.

WTF? How can you be so blinded by your religion that you completely put aside all common sense and subscribe to such ludicrous dogma? I don't believe that a god who is all good can want people to suffer like that forever!

One great benefit of being an atheist is your mind is totally emancipated from these stupid irrational religious beliefs that cause so much pain and suffering to so many innocent people, especially women!

Talula · (#9 (**permalink**))

Atlian the bible does not encourage one to tolerate violence! if your husband beats you ofcourse you can separate from him but you will have to reamain unmarried! As for as i knw if your mate does anything unbiblical ( not supporting your family financially being one of them) you can leave him but not divorce him. If he/she sleeps with someone else then you can divorce.

Now anyone who reads and tries to understand the bible will grasp that. It isn´t just a catholic teaching. So if you are a good christian you will live your life to biblical standards which means alot of sacrifice in things to do with marriage too.
My advice to all believers is to take your time when choosing a mate so that you dont have to suffer too much later coz you can´t just walk out of it without sinning.

P.S You don´t have to be an aethist to use your thinking ability. I find actually believing in a God is using your brain!!!!!

KEMINOKANA · (#10 (**permalink**))

Let us be sure of one thing.

Before jesus came, divorce was not allowed under any circumstances. But as human evil evolved he laid a case for divorce. Now me thinks back then, there was no wife battery. And am thinking, since the bible condemns lewd sexual acts, what if ur man wants to dinya ur kunyi only and vice versa....do u still stay in that marriage? I dont think so.

If u divorce for rightful reasons- and am not talking from a selfish perspective such as u want ur wife to walk ngothaless yet she doesnt want- then am sure ur divorce will be acceptable before God. The laws were made for man, not man was made for the laws.