[kenyajuu]

I strongly believe that christians should put God first in their marriages. All marriages have problems but christians need to learn to to safely navigate around these problems. Many problems in marriages arise because they are not dealt with when they are still very small, people let them pile up until they are explosive. Immediately I got married, I went through a Study book with my wife entitled "saving your maariages before it begins" and would reccommend it to anyone who is serious on getting married and staying together.
2.Other reasons for problems in marriages include miscommunication, different love languages, too sensitive or insensitive, finances, in-laws, co-workers, friends, behaviours etc
3. Other reason is rushing into marriages when we are not psychologically prepared, overexpectations, high or low self image of one-self or spouse

The bible says that "unless the Lord builds a house, the builders work in vain". We need God's help and strength in every aspect of our lives - whether married or single.

[Tripple Seven]

Originally Posted by kenyajuu

I strongly believe that christians should put God first in their marriages. All marriages have problems but christians need to learn to to safely navigate around these problems. Many problems in marriages arise because they are not dealt with when they are still very small, people let them pile up until they are explosive. Immediately I got married, I went through a Study book with my wife entitled "saving your maariages before it begins" and would reccommend it to anyone who is serious on getting married and staying together.
2.Other reasons for problems in marriages include miscommunication, different love languages, too sensitive or insensitive, finances, in-laws, co-workers, friends, behaviours etc
3. Other reason is rushing into marriages when we are not psychologically prepared, overexpectations, high or low self image of one-self or spouse

The bible says that "unless the Lord builds a house, the builders work in vain". We need God's help and strength in every aspect of our lives - whether married or single.

I totally throw my weight behind u. Problem is this they call statistics. Christians especially in the western world have not shown any difference in this commitment. You are already aware they wed/divorce and wed/divorce and wed/divorce till u lose count.

[ATLian]

Atlian the bible does not encourage one to tolerate violence! if your husband beats you ofcourse you can separate from him but you will have to reamain unmarried! As for as i knw if your mate does anything unbiblical ( not supporting your family financially being one of them) you can leave him but not divorce him. If he/she sleeps with someone else then you can divorce.

Talula,

it's this blind irrational mindset that I am talking about. Why should you have to remain unmarried for the rest of his life because of what he does to you? How the heck can that be just?

Marriage is just like any other contract. It's as simple as that. This belief that marriage is blessed by god is just hogwash. If marriage was indeed blessed by god, divorce would not exist. That's because god would hook you up with the best potential partner for you. Do you realize that in the US most divorces are between Christian couples who had a Christian marriage "blessed by god" in a church!

Marriage, like any other contract, can fail for whatever reason. You just need to use your mind and figure out when to walk away. If you're 25, you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Just annul this bad contract, and the next thing you know is you might find yourself with the one man who was truly meant to be your husband. Don't let a mistake keep you in chains forever, especially if the mistake is on his part! But if you decide that the best thing is for you to suffer lonely and single for the next 60 years because of what some book says, then you deserve the suffering you will go through for being so simple minded!



P.S You don´t have to be an aethist to use your thinking ability. I find actually believing in a God is using your brain!!!!!

Actually, no! Believing in god means accepting bila any questions or doubts whatever you're told by your holy book and your religion concerning your god. If the Bible said that god had 9 legs, 45 hands, 37 horns and was green and yellow in color, then the Christian would believe exactly that! It's not thinking, it's being spoon-fed and swallowing bila any questions. That's why when the Bible says that god created the world in 6 days 6,000 years ago, the Christian blindly believes that. The atheist uses his brain and questions why there is so much empirical evidence pointing to the fact that the world existed millions of years before the Bible's creation date.

[milanya]

I suggest you read this article:
What God Has Joined | Christianity Today | A Magazine of Evangelical Conviction

Basically it says divorce is valid for:
1. Adultery
2. abuse
3. Neglect and Abandonment

it is a new take on scripture

[Wantai]

Originally Posted by milanya

I suggest you read this article:
What God Has Joined | Christianity Today | A Magazine of Evangelical Conviction

Basically it says divorce is valid for:
1. Adultery
2. abuse
3. Neglect and Abandonment

it is a new take on scripture

Wow! very interesting article, a good read indeed.
Hi milanya, good to 'see' you.

[connie2]

Originally Posted by The Schemer

Does God support this? Should christians forever be in marriage even if they are happy.

I think before one marries or gets married he/she must be willing to face the ups and downs of marriage.It's wrong to get married then later separate.

[mkenya asili]

what do you follow old testament or new testament?