[ATLian]

I think divorce should be about common sense, not about what your society or religion says. According to Christianity, the only reason you should divorce your spouse is infidelity. Therefore, if your husband beats you, mistreats your children, is impotent, is emotionally abusive, (list any other abuse that isn't divorce here), etc, then you still have to remain with him. That is just totally facked up. Common sense should tell you that the man who has just pounded you into a semi-coma for the Nth time is not a man you should call your husband. Just because the Bible doesn't mention it doesn't mean you cannot figure it out for yourself. Common sense should tell you that your drug-dealer bank-robber husband is an evil man who you shouldn't be hanging around with. Just because there were no drugs or banks in the Bible doesn't mean you can't use your common sense and figure it out for yourself.

Religion has single handedly been responsible for the suffering of millions of women who could have been best served by a divorce. I have two aunts back home who are staunch Catholics (therefore they cannot divorce), and that's the only reason they haven't left their abusive husbands. Marriage is just like any other venture. Sometimes it will not work out. God did not unite you and your husband. If he did, there would never have been any divorces since all couplings would have been perfect. So you can either divorce and get someone else who might be the one, or you can let religion chain you into years of unhappiness. If you don't divorce a husband who totally mistreats you ONLY because of what your religion says, then you are an idiot who deserves that treatment.

[milanya]

I know what you mean ATlian. I had an aunt whose huzzie beat the hell out of her but she would not leave coz ati til death do us part. The Catolic church advised her the best they could tell her to do is a separation, but they would not grant divorce.

Another interesting thing I found out, if you are Catholic and your wife lies to you that she is fertile, but she knows she is barren and you get married and find out, you can have the marriage annulled, wacha even divorce. annullment. according to them babies are more important than your life when a man is beating the *&&^9 out of you
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