what is he?

billywong · (#1 (**permalink**))

I know of a guy personally who for since he was atleast 12 years confessed to masturbating allot. He confessed most of his fantasies were with fellow men. He has had one night stads with both sexes though no penetrative sex with either. Just oral.

He i now saved and has been for a long time. Recently he has confessed his homosexual desires have significantly lessened and his attraction to the opposite sex has increased. Allot has changed including his drinking and smoking and the way he communicates.

He says he see little surport from the Church and that most Christians would hammer him if he confessed his weaknesses. he does not know how he got the attractions he has but that is what he has gone thru. He does n ot know if he will marry though he wants to and seems to be hitting it off with a certain saved chille.

What is this brotha? Can the Church help him out? Is he gay, bi or straightening up?

reggie_woic · (#2 (**permalink**))

I question the source of your information...are YOU this 'he'? Anyway, only he knows the answer to that question; but if you ask me, i'd say he's a very brave person who lives his life with total disregard of the 'rules' in place.

I applaud his living his life how he wants to.

catskill85 · (#3 (**permalink**))

He is a FAAAGG!!
Kijiko iitwe kijiko. He is trying to difuse the word gay and "hang" somewhere in between> Nada: he is or he is not!! Only one can be ..and HE IS A HOMO!

milanya · (#4 (**permalink**))

I think the guy should consider serious therapy and counselling before he makes a huge step

crazy boo · (#5 (**permalink**))

>He is a FAAAGG!!
>Kijiko iitwe kijiko. He is trying to difuse the word gay and
>"hang" somewhere in between> Nada: he is or he is not!! Only
>one can be ..and HE IS A HOMO!

seconded! and like I've said b4 the worst place nowadays to get a jamaa esp for chicks ni kanisa.If you don't know the dude from the days ama huna clue who he is, don't be deceived cuz he's the one who says "Amen" within 2 secs of the pastor saying hallelujah.Rather a drunkard you know than a person pretending in church.

jarabuon · (#6 (**permalink**))

>
>seconded! and like I've said b4 the worst place nowadays to
>get a jamaa esp for chicks ni kanisa.

hehehehehehhehehe..... some guys say church is for reformed malayas, i guess few are buying that holier than thou crap.

Zelda · (#7 (**permalink**))

@billywong: who is asking the questions- him or you? If its you, then I suggest you abandon your quest to categorize him. You dont have to label your friend. At this point, hes just a human trying to make sense of his life. I dont know if the Church can help him out. But I think that 3 things will help him:
1) Genuine spirituality
2) A sympathetic non-judgemental listener.
3) A permanent source of stability in his life.
He may or may not find these in the church that hes attending. At any rate, he shouldnt attach too much value to judgmental attitudes. Ppl can be pretty vicious (as is evident from some of these responses). He may be feeling disillusioned, but if hes been able to turn his life around (reference to drinking, smoking and communication), then he is on the right track. If he persists, the answers hes seeking will follow.