Tired Women (horekad like a non sense) a response to Sanaa's

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

true Sanaa, I was just giving the other side of the coin. Everyone needs a chance for love. Be it the tired 30 something men and the tired chics, lol

[keny@n]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

true Sanaa, I was just giving the other side of the coin. Everyone needs a chance for love. Be it the tired 30 something men and the tired chics, lol

Now you sound like a pansy! LOL too!

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Originally Posted by keny@n

Now you sound like a pansy! LOL too!

hehehehehe ati a pansy, for you info, I was not putting that to bash chics just rather to reply to sanaa's thread.

Life is not about being black and white and there is really no perfect person.

[keny@n]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

hehehehehe ati a pansy, for you info, I was not putting that to bash chics just rather to reply to sanaa's thread.

Life is not about being black and white and there is really no perfect person.

Am not talking about the post. Talking about the everyone needs love blah....
Pansier than a motherfùcker....

[Sanaa-]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

hehehehehe ati a pansy, for you info, I was not putting that to bash chics just rather to reply to sanaa's thread.

Life is not about being black and white and there is really no perfect person.

MUK, lenga this jamaa, he is just looking for a showdown.

[Dem Gal]

I would say, it serves this dude right. He is pursuing a FOB (newbie) chickdee and even proposing marriage without taking time to know her history. And yes, he can easily find out the history of this girl if he really took his time to. This is probably the kind of guy who's been intimidated by the Kenyan girls in his community because they've pursued an education, a career and a comfortable enough lifestyle just like he has. Being the macho man he is, he can't stand a woman who can go toe-to-toe with him on issues. So he jumps on whatever young girl who's just arrived with the hope of 'providing' for her and 'saving' her from getting 'spoilt' so as to satisfy his masculine ego. If he gave himself some months or a a year of dating, it wouldn't take too long before Dizzle's real characteristics come out. That would save him plenty of headaches and/or alimony and/or child support! Too bad he rushed into marriage! Who rushes into marriage any more....weather with a new girl in town or a mwenyeji?? Like I said, serves him right for making hasty decisions and presumptions!

[Sanaa-]

I slightly disagree about the knowing part, one can only find out so much, the one thing that's always been tricky is finding out a persons history while you are both away from Kenya, or didn't have common friends, and I don't think you could leave your job to go on an extended get to know your future gf, back at home. Most people will let you know just enough, a bit scary.

Tena if this tired chic has truly reformed her ways and is actually tired of her old lifestyle, you can wait all you can but you'll crack while waiting because she does an actual shift in lifestyles and there is nothing better than a new environment to help one in starting over. Unless you ask.. (and who are you asking anyway) all you have is her word.

A friend of mine had a relationship with a jamaa for almost two years, until well one day by coincidence, she found out that the jamaa has a wifey and kid back in Kenya and was living a second life abroad. They were never in Kenya at the same time due to economic reasons, and you know how backward some Kenyans can be, he didn't see it fit for her to visit his parents without him or at least that was his excuse. Anyway she was devastated , it really shook alot of people because alot of people abroad have a chance to redeem their past by starting all over without anyone knowing, some even exist under completely new names.

This same jamaa moved to a different country and recently married a Kenyan mama, we wonder how he circumvented the wifey back at home. It's very scary how deceptive people can be abroad, very very scary.

[keny@n]

Originally Posted by Dem Gal

I would say, it serves this dude right. He is pursuing a FOB (newbie) chickdee and even proposing marriage without taking time to know her history. And yes, he can easily find out the history of this girl if he really took his time to. This is probably the kind of guy who's been intimidated by the Kenyan girls in his community because they've pursued an education, a career and a comfortable enough lifestyle just like he has. Being the macho man he is, he can't stand a woman who can go toe-to-toe with him on issues. So he jumps on whatever young girl who's just arrived with the hope of 'providing' for her and 'saving' her from getting 'spoilt' so as to satisfy his masculine ego. If he gave himself some months or a a year of dating, it wouldn't take too long before Dizzle's real characteristics come out. That would save him plenty of headaches and/or alimony and/or child support! Too bad he rushed into marriage! Who rushes into marriage any more....weather with a new girl in town or a mwenyeji?? Like I said, serves him right for making hasty decisions and presumptions!

You really are posting really serious advice on this scenario ain't you dem gal?
Oh, bother.....

[Dem Gal]

Originally Posted by Sanaa-

I slightly disagree about the knowing part, one can only find out so much, the one thing that's always been tricky is finding out a persons history while you are both away from Kenya, or didn't have common friends, and I don't think you could leave your job to go on an extended get to know your future gf, back at home. Most people will let you know just enough, a bit scary.

Tena if this tired chic has truly reformed her ways and is actually tired of her old lifestyle, you can wait all you can but you'll crack while waiting because she does an actual shift in lifestyles and there is nothing better than a new environment to help one in starting over. Unless you ask.. (and who are you asking anyway) all you have is her word.

A friend of mine had a relationship with a jamaa for almost two years, until well one day by coincidence, she found out that the jamaa has a wifey and kid back in Kenya and was living a second life abroad. They were never in Kenya at the same time due to economic reasons, and you know how backward some Kenyans can be, he didn't see it fit for her to visit his parents without him or at least that was his excuse. Anyway she was devastated , it really shook alot of people because alot of people abroad have a chance to redeem their past by starting all over without anyone knowing, some even exist under completely new names.

@ Sanaa,

I agree with you to a point but the way I see it, there are two possible scenerios here. Chilling kidogo before popping the question would not kill him.

Scenerio 1: The chick is hibernating waiting for an opportunity to unleash her true self (and you know those opportunities are plenty especially abroad). In this case, waiting would give the dude enough time to know the chickdee's real character, saving him future heartaches.

Scenerio 2: The chick has really and truly reformed. In such a case, she deserves a second chance. And I would say more power to the both of them!

As for your friend, if a man you are dating or serious about does not want you to accompany him home and meet his parents or at least his siblings then major red flags and sirens should sound off in your head!

I still believe Kenyans abroad are not such a large community and its easy to get information if you really want to.

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Originally Posted by Dem Gal

I would say, it serves this dude right. He is pursuing a FOB (newbie) chickdee and even proposing marriage without taking time to know her history. And yes, he can easily find out the history of this girl if he really took his time to. This is probably the kind of guy who's been intimidated by the Kenyan girls in his community because they've pursued an education, a career and a comfortable enough lifestyle just like he has. Being the macho man he is, he can't stand a woman who can go toe-to-toe with him on issues. So he jumps on whatever young girl who's just arrived with the hope of 'providing' for her and 'saving' her from getting 'spoilt' so as to satisfy his masculine ego. If he gave himself some months or a a year of dating, it wouldn't take too long before Dizzle's real characteristics come out. That would save him plenty of headaches and/or alimony and/or child support! Too bad he rushed into marriage! Who rushes into marriage any more....weather with a new girl in town or a mwenyeji?? Like I said, serves him right for making hasty decisions and presumptions!

so quick to back, and much faster to blame the guy. It has nothing to do with FOB mentality. Its meeting someone who is tired but you can never tell. Unless you go back to college to interview people. If a chic does not want you to know anything about her. trust me you will sink hook line and sinker