Falling in love with......

mo-uk · (#1 (**permalink**))

Can you help who you fall in love with?

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage?

We are not talking about lust here. I am talking about the feeling related to the irrationality within ourselves.

Perhaps falling in love at first sight is somewhat like a paradoxical statement.

O'jose · (#2 (**permalink**))

Sometimes am tempted to think that love is some kind of alien concept from god-knows-where that's just meant to add misery to our already miserable lives!!!

Fraglante · (#3 (**permalink**))

“Whether you married the man of your dreams, or settled for a ‘good-enough’ because the biological clock was ticking, or whether you married unashamedly for the money-regardless of the reasons and circumstances, as the woman you ALWAYS got the raw deal. When all is said and done, the man would always cheat on you. Poor or rich. You might as well choose the **** you’re going to live with”
(Bertha; Crazy Monday July 1st 2008.)

*sigh* I do not want to say that I believe in the above quote 100% because by so doing I am killing any and every shread of hope that I might still have left in men. But I must say that I do see some truth in it.I need to consciously choose the shi.t am going to live with.I must maintain a sane mind to do that.Love, will not let me.

As a woman, I cannot rely fully on love as a guiding factor or as the basis of any romantic relationship or marriage.It would be a good bonus but it is not the begining nor the end.With that said, let me answer your questions.

Can you help who you fall in love with?
No, the heart likes what it likes.Even when it is beyond reason.Thats why we say matters of the heart,none can comprehend.

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?
No you cannot.There is nothing like a destined better half.Its a stringent selection process where both parties look for specific characters in a mate.

When found, they engage in a long process of getting to know each other(good qualities and bad).If they can live with the good, the bad and the ugly, then they are compatible Better halfs.If not, then process begins again and again until a compartible better half is found.

Well, unless one is desperate enough to take whatever comes along.

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?
Yes, there is someone for every one.While you are looking for a saint, some one else is looking for the anti Christ.
Your question is not so clear though so let me add that: there is some one for everyone.Not one person for every one person.Hell that would mean if your other half dies before you meet them then you are a destined bachelor/spinster for life.Cant be the case!

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?
Ofcourse! Love grows.Lust merely happens.If you think you are inlove with some one you barely know, you need to think again.

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage?
No its not.Refer to earlier comments.^^^

kenyansenorita · (#4 (**permalink**))

Can you help who you fall in love with? YES

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half? NO

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you? YES

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them? YES

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage? OFCOURSE

barb · (#5 (**permalink**))

[quote=mo-uk;694307]Can you help who you fall in love with?

Can you meet someone once and know they are your other half?..........No, i believe pple meet, get to know each other first before making that decision.

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you?ummmm, i honestly dont know....maybe, maybe not....for what its worth i dont believe in fate, i believe in working hard to earn something so the belief that a prince charming will come for me coz its our destiny to be together is kinda b.s to me.

Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them? definately, a feeling other than that is basically infatuation

Is love a necessary ingredient for marriage? not necessarily, pple get married for diffrent reasons, like i recently learned pple get married because
-afraid of taking their time to explore what's best for them
-afraid to reach a certain age while they are still single
-kids...pple get married for the sake of their kids
-influences by our traditions and society

mo-uk · (#6 (**permalink**))

kenyasenorita---------You see things black and white?

Anyways back to the topic--------I was under the impression that whilst these qualities can exist outside of love that patience, kindness and friendship were all attributes of love? I think people have this idea that love must be some kind of irrational, hopping on pavements, flowers and candies & fireworks exploding- lets walk on water mad sort of thing? It might be some of those things in the beginning but surely it can also be steady and ordinary and part of life? I think it has been too exaggerated and if it’s not what the TV/magazines/books tell us then it must not be love, which is totally false of course.

mo-uk · (#7 (**permalink**))

[quote=Fraglante;694382]“
Do you HAVE to know a person to be in love with them?
Ofcourse! Love grows.Lust merely happens.If you think you are inlove with some one you barely know, you need to think again.

Got to agree with you frag------You can fall in love with someone and think you're made for each other, but that is not a real love. It takes years, may be, four years to feel a real love, if you're lucky, with your mate. So, unless you fill her tank or his tank as someone puts it, again and again, you would'nt know if your's the 'real one'. If ur lucky, that is when you can call each other as 'soul mates'.

My advice to ladies, keep filling him until your fourth aniversary. That's when you can sit back and reevaluate your relationship.

barb · (#8 (**permalink**))

[quote=mo-uk;694307]Can you help who you fall in love with?..........no, i don't believe i can help who i fall in love with, but i have control on the way i act towards those feelings.

YB* · (#9 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by kenyansenorita

Is it there truly only one person in the entire universe for you? YES

There are so many ways we can argue this out, but lets start with widows / widowers who remarry, and become happy, some even say happier. Of the 2 people in their lives, who is the only one true person??