[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by Nxele

@Waithera Cherono Akoth

What guarantee does she have that the next man will not be worse than the first ?

There's no guarantee, but you can't know unless you try.

What guarantee does a college student have that they will find a good job immediately after graduation? None! Yet, they still enroll for school b/c education will increase their chances of finding a good paying job. Need I mention all the jobless graduates out there as well?

The point is she deserves better, and better doesn't always have to constitute a man. In any relationship there must be compromise and a trade off. I'm sure there are men out there who are faithful, but have other negative attributes one can live with.

If his cheating habit is something she can live with, then good for her, she can consider him as her best option of a good man.

The thing with women is while they are dating a man, they act oblivious to such bad habits and imagine a MIRACLE will happen when they tie the knot. Why expect a man who cheats on yo a.ss as a fiance to be suddenly faithful when you are married?

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

There's no guarantee, but you can't know unless you try.

What guarantee does a college student have that they will find a good job immediately after graduation? None! Yet, they still enroll for school b/c education will increase their chances of finding a good paying job. Need I mention all the jobless graduates out there as well?

The point is she deserves better, and better doesn't always have to constitute a man. In any relationship there must be compromise and a trade off. I'm sure there are men out there who are faithful, but have other negative attributes one can live with.

If his cheating habit is something she can live with, then good for her, she can consider him as her best option of a good man.

The thing with women is while they are dating a man, they act oblivious to such bad habits and imagine a MIRACLE will happen when they tie the knot. Why expect a man who cheats on yo a.ss as a fiance to be suddenly faithful when you are married?

hapo umebonga kama wazee wakumi

[Nxele]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

There's no guarantee, but you can't know unless you try.

What guarantee does a college student have that they will find a good job immediately after graduation? ........

College is to help you think and think clearly . So self-employment is also an option siyo lazima mainstream employment.

Anyway , I'm NOT implying that she sticks to the man like a tick on a Zebu cow's tail , just weighing the probables .

Pia women are NOT angels like they'd like to imply . Men r dogs & women r cats , go figure !

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

hapo umebonga kama wazee wakumi

@ MUK...Translate please! I don't understand. - thanks..

@Nxele...gotcha! I agree, some women are just as bad. Let's just not be in denial thinking someone can change such bad habits as cheating after tying the knot.

[Augustine]

mine is straight!!men cheat....even for no good reason, just to boost egos!!

women...only in extreme circumstanes.

EXTREME CIRCUMSTANCES:
-Unsatisfied
-Neglected
-Lack of devotion and commitment from a man
-Revenge

etc!!

you get my drift................
by the those extreme circumstances also apply to men

Dissatisfactions(headaches)
Neglect of body esp when kids r involved
Lack of imagination and flexibility in the bedroom we need to explore
Revenge
pretty friends

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

@ MUK...Translate please! I don't understand. - thanks..

Basically your post was a risk assesment advise, It was wise and realistic. Not condoning cheating but at the sametime making sure she understands what she is getting herself into

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

Basically your post was a risk assesment advise, It was wise and realistic. Not condoning cheating but at the sametime making sure she understands what she is getting herself into

I see...thanks by the way for translating. You see, I'm not always "okiedokes the liberator", though I can be derailed sometimes.

[majicfox]

i guess i know, the guy is going to do it again...for some reason we sometimes like to hear other people tell us what we need to do even if we know it ourselves...yenyewe love, definitely overated. Who proceeds to do the one thing the person you purpotedly love is most afraid of or hates the most...in this day and age of HIV?

I gotta admit tho, i f***ed him ...it was like some sort of retarded affirmation to myself, about what, i am still not sure. I used protection though (like its any consolation )

I shall be dumping the guy soon...will halla at the B.S-less mashadites who were very objective in their responses when i do...

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by majicfox

i guess i know, the guy is going to do it again...for some reason we sometimes like to hear other people tell us what we need to do even if we know it ourselves...yenyewe love, definitely overated. Who proceeds to do the one thing the person you purpotedly love is most afraid of or hates the most...in this day and age of HIV?

I gotta admit tho, i f***ed him ...it was like some sort of retarded affirmation to myself, about what, i am still not sure. I used protection though (like its any consolation )

I shall be dumping the guy soon...will halla at the B.S-less mashadites who were very objective in their responses when i do...

My dear, it is hard but look at it this way, at least you found out before marrying him. I'm not saying people don't deserve 2nd chances but with a cheating man, especially when he's engaged to be married, I wouldn't give him the benefit of doubt. It will only get worse after marriage and as women we don't like to fail especially in marriage so you may find yourself continuing to put up with his cheating ways so as not to appear a failure.
You are strong, and you can do it. One more day spent with him, is another day you could spend healing, and looking for that special someone. It'll be alright.

[majicfox]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

My dear, it is hard but look at it this way, at least you found out before marrying him. I'm not saying people don't deserve 2nd chances but with a cheating man, especially when he's engaged to be married, I wouldn't give him the benefit of doubt. It will only get worse after marriage and as women we don't like to fail especially in marriage so you may find yourself continuing to put up with his cheating ways so as not to appear a failure.
You are strong, and you can do it. One more day spent with him, is another day you could spend healing, and looking for that special someone. It'll be alright.

Thanks girl...your wise words, totally appreciated: