[mo-uk]

A womans place is her home

Finally you found yourself the perfect guy. Handsome young charismatic and even a great smile that will make you melt You love him he loves you. Your family loves him , the one you have been searching for all your life . You finally found him ( or he found you whatever the case maybe). Here at your feet is the 'golden man'. Too good to be true!

He thinks you are the girl he has been looking for. Things go smooth no bumps along the way. You both decide this is it, marriage next. He expects nothing form you other than to be a stay home mum. He wishes you stay home and not work , look after him and his children.
What would you do? Freak out yell I did not finish a four year degree to be a stay home mum . Or would you kindly keep quite be happy you find a wonderful husband.

So gurls my question is how many of you would drop their careers for the golden boy and how many of you will refuse to be a stay home mum. BTW there is nothing wrong with being a stay home mum. No stress carefree life , look pretty all day since you have all the time in the world. I mean there are advantages and disadvantages both ways right?


So what would you do? if your future spouse demands you will not work full-time or part-time. And out of curiousty how many guys here will demand their wives stay home?

[sdolphin]

There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home mum, but i would actually have issues with him saying that a part time job is a no no.

Why? If i can fit a part time job into my schedule why would that be a problem. This would probably mean he doesn't want me to work so he can have control of the household.

Actually with the era we're leaving in i could still work from home and still keep my career going.

[nat89]

I would leave him coz if he was really my dream guy he would accept and already know that having a career of my own is important. So really he wasnt the dream guy. So no i would not become a stay at home mum simply because i have many goals to achieve.

[grip_daddy]

And out of curiousty how many guys here will demand their wives stay home?

I have been amazed by the number of women who fancy the idea of staying at home. I don't have to demand but find the willing, who are more in number than the unwilling.

But I'd demand too.

[mo-uk]

Originally Posted by nat89

I would leave him coz if he was really my dream guy he would accept and already know that having a career of my own is important. So really he wasnt the dream guy. So no i would not become a stay at home mum simply because i have many goals to achieve.

Sad! So having a job is more pleasing and important to you than having a stable family?

[mo-uk]

Originally Posted by grip_daddy

I have been amazed by the number of women who fancy the idea of staying at home. I don't have to demand but find the willing, who are more in number than the unwilling.

But I'd demand too.

I find that majority of men, would love their women to stay home. No man likes a woman who challenges them for their manhood. There are however a few that appreciate a strong woman to help out and those good men are what I like call rare species.

[Ayania]

When I get to a point of settling down with my prince and my king , being a stay home mum is just not going to cut it. With the world we live, let me assume we are all in the U.S unless my man earns more than a million a year, it will be difficult to pay the bills, cater to the kids and all the luxuries of life. There is no way a woman cannot work and still maintain that stable family.

However, if you plan right before getting children, you can save for the one year that a mama can stay at home. This is the reason why I will have to finish medical school before saying " I do", so that I can provide for my children and still be there for them. You can also arrange a schedule for being home with the kids.

anyhow, u just have to negotiate, but both parties have to work and try to make life easier for themselves and the children.

[KEMINOKANA]

Originally Posted by Ayania

When I get to a point of settling down with my prince and my king , being a stay home mum is just not going to cut it. With the world we live, let me assume we are all in the U.S unless my man earns more than a million a year, it will be difficult to pay the bills, cater to the kids and all the luxuries of life. There is no way a woman cannot work and still maintain that stable family.

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Which world are you living in? I see plenty of families where women choose to stay home and the husband provides and everything is smooth from owning two brand new cars(benzes), house and a pretty kid. So you cant say "there is no way" when we see so many ways it happens. Just say you want to work and stop hiding behind bills. lol.


I wonder why people spend thousands in childcare expenses just to keep a job and boost their egos no matter the character of nanny raising the kids. And then u wonder why later in life the kid happily throws you in a nursing home with one montly visit. There was no bond to begin with.

[Fraglante]

Mo-uk as you put it ,if most Toms,Dic.ks and Harrys find my career "a challenge to their manhood" then am not out for the Toms Di.cks and Harry's for they are not man enough for me. Am out for the "Rare species" who will not feel threatened by my career.

I avoid insecure little men, men who are beneath me,under achievers and over possessive controlling ones.

In any case if he were 'Mr right', he would love me for who I am.Me and my career. He would appreciate that locking me up would cause me to lose my mind with bordom. Am not built for such simplistic existence.I need a challenge.I need more than "What shall I cook today, who needs a daiper change and what color of shirt will my hubby wear today". Trust me, I can manage a stable family and a career and still have more space in my plate.


He would know that demands of any kind do not work with me.He would know that only mature well thought out reasoning will do.Mutual gareements. But if he knows which buttons to press, I might just agree.But demands??Insecurites??Never! And this has nothing to do with women liberation, feminism or any of that.

And I thought we already agreed that shagz mondo babes are best suited for this? Those who really have nothing else going for them.Those who still think that marriage is the all in all in life?And afew others who naturally have the "calling"

[Ayania]

Kemi u are talking about a man earning a generous income. But as a woman, I wont sit at home and ask u for money to buy sugar or salt. I cannot waste my brains staying at home. Yea, raising children is important, very important indeed that I will sacrifice alot, but staying at home is just something I dread.

Let me reference a thread here about a man wanting to send his wife shags because he lost his job, now imagine if this woman had something going for her, then she would have helped a whole lot. What if that man who earns good gets into an accident, then u will be evicted or what if something happens to him, then u are screwed. So as a woman u gotta plan for the future and be smart.