[dotNet]

Whats wrong with parents nowadays.
Most kiddos brought up by single parents wanna issues mob sana. From emotional, self-esteem to identity issues. Is the problem with the parents or the society?

When you find a woman who spits too much fire at men, men this men that, si unajua? Ukiget boy who can't even have a one week relationship.. uliza swali utaambiwa penye kuna kasoro.

[rayfisher]

Dotnet you raised a very relevant subject,the issue of single parenting has brought about the discipline debate.Single parents get emotionally absorbed to their children and these children turn out to rule and control them.

[dotNet]

Originally Posted by rayfisher

Dotnet you raised a very relevant subject,the issue of single parenting has brought about the discipline debate.Single parents get emotionally absorbed to their children and these children turn out to rule and control them.

Achana hata na rudeness, most of these kids are just lost. Hawajijui hataa. If its a guy, atajipata anahang around mamake and her female buddies tu. Anapelekwa bash and flossed around. We all know where that leads tu.

[KrOoK3D L3Tt3rZ]

Not all. My mom (R.I.P) was a single parent and i got no issues, i know many people who were raised by single parents and are doing very well. Both financially and in relationships.

[KrOoK3D L3Tt3rZ]

Originally Posted by dotNet

Achana hata na rudeness, most of these kids are just lost. Hawajijui hataa. If its a guy, atajipata anahang around mamake and her female buddies tu. Anapelekwa bash and flossed around. We all know where that leads tu.

I also think this is a very sensitive issue. If it was our choice we would have loved to be raised in a Cute little family with both parents. So its good not to generalise. Dont get me wrong m not complaining about being raised by a single mom, i think she did a pretty good job all by herself.

[dotNet]

Originally Posted by KrOoK3D L3Tt3rZ

I also think this is a very sensitive issue. If it was our choice we would have loved to be raised in a Cute little family with both parents. So its good not to generalise. Dont get me wrong m not complaining about being raised by a single mom, i think she did a pretty good job all by herself.

I feel you and I ain't hating. I am not generalizing, I said most. Wachana na single mom's wa tenee, those mamaz believed in family virtues. Been to a bash lately? In NRB? With single mamaz around the ages of like 26? Believe me these ladies are bringin up kids 'kimajuu', its like they want to create another culture!! Kids with no respect at all!! Anafika high school ndio reality inamhit ka ako boarding. I donno if am the only person whoz come across such kind pf people.

Its like they turn their kids agaist the other gender, kwanza ka ni dem. Kid is brought up with the perception that all men are dogs while utapata it's the mom who got creative akaachwa.

KrOoK bado tuko pamoja?

[BLINGBLING]

Originally Posted by dotNet

I feel you and I ain't hating. I am not generalizing, I said most. Wachana na single mom's wa tenee, those mamaz believed in family virtues. Been to a bash lately? In NRB? With single mamaz around the ages of like 26? Believe me these ladies are bringin up kids 'kimajuu', its like they want to create another culture!! Kids with no respect at all!! Anafika high school ndio reality inamhit ka ako boarding. I donno if am the only person whoz come across such kind pf people.

Its like they turn their kids agaist the other gender, kwanza ka ni dem. Kid is brought up with the perception that all men are dogs while utapata it's the mom who got creative akaachwa.

KrOoK bado tuko pamoja?

As said in another thread on here, some mamis of nowdays jus get paged and then want nothing to do with the jamaa.
This is a scenario all too common nowdays. Problem is when that "single" mum gets a daugther and the daugther comes of age.

Try dating the daughter of a "single-mum".... utaona cha-mtemakuni. Its an absolute no go zone. ( i cud write tons on this topic but............ ) as someone said, its a very sensitive topic.

[sdolphin]

Sensitive or not, its something that everyone should feel free to address without being apologetic about. Alot of issues are raised in mashada and it seems people have decided to ignore this one and the ones who have addressed it are almost apologising for having an opinion.

I think when people come across a single parent scenario they tend to scrutinise that family setup and whatever issues come up with the kids they tend to blame the single parent.

Having said that i've seen kids brought up with both parents "happily married", but the kids are the devil's spawn. From personal experience i watched my aunt spoil her first son (she is still married to my uncle). That boy was allowed to run wild. Whenever they visited us, my mum took it upon herself to discipline him and told my aunt, "If you can't/won't, i will!"

We had a family friend who was a single parent and her daughter was the most behaved kid i've ever come across. She always dotted her i's and crossed her t's

[Ayania]

You are right. Most of the single most let their little son brats run over them. I personally know this mama, she is in the coast guard and her son just runs over her. he doesnt listen and he is so young right now when she shuld discipline him, but that kid is so hyper and runs over the mum like she is an 8 yr old.

But I am also privilleged to know ma best friend, who has two kids, but she has raised them with african morals and standards. They even call me auntie, listen to her and obey her and I believe by God's grace, they will turn out to be aiight.

It all depends on how you raise them, but they will be aiight if u be strong, but dont attach to them too much, coz that will backfire.

[KEMINOKANA]

It looks like Obama's mom did a very good job. I doubt we can say the same of George Bush's mom and dad given the carnage he's unleashed upon the earth with bushy cowboy tactics that are absolutely childish and stupid. John Mccain from a two parent family divorced his wife after 3 kids to marry a mistress.

I think it is the lessons we learn in life that matter, not where one's from. Obama has come to appreciate the importance of family due to his experience, Bill clinton didnt. We can go on about kids brought up by drunkards, wife beaters and etc. Some adopt the experiences, others grow up to despise it.