[opiche]

Originally Posted by jajuok

@frag,were u reading ma mind or something? Anyway from the many shrink articles i have read,gals tend to go for men who somehow resemble daddy characters.If daddy was a useless fellow,the lady subconsciously attracts useless fellows, if the dadddy was a real man,the lady subconsciously goes for real men. So all you men out there, be really careful how you relate with your daughters. You are the first male relation she has in her life and how u relate with her really determines a lot in her life.

hey also find out about this Theory ''Oedipus Complex''

Note: Keep off calling men Dogs coz we would also be glad to call you as Bit.ches. Anyway both shows disrespect to human dignity , keep off.

[karl marx]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

Reminds me of a little incident I had last week. We were 3 ladies having some girl talk one afternoon. One of the ladies goes on and on about her friends husband and how nice he is. She goes on to praise him until my other pal and I feel like we really want to meet this angel of a man. As fate would have it she mentioned where he works which happens to be the place I used to work before I moved to my current place. With that I was curious and asked for his name, what department he worked etc. Lady was so sure I wouldn’t know him so she told me. Surprise surpise I almost choked on my tea, what a small world we live in! The alleged Mr nice, Mr perfect, Mr faithful, Mr would-never-even-look-at-another-woman happened to be the same man who flirted with me day in day out. The man would even come to my department just to stare at me. The whole office would have a hearty laugh because he never hid that fact. He was such a clown and he did it all in good humor. When he came he would have every one know he has just come to ‘have his morning ray of sunshine’ after which we would go on and on to flirt. It was harmless flirting, I never let anything happen beyond that. Mind you at that time he was still married to the same lady and every one knew it.

What am I driving at? Men are by nature visual. They will not fail to appreciate beauty in a woman simply because they are happily married. When I say beauty I don’t just mean physical beauty, but also inner beauty. Appreciating beauty by looking, and maybe flirting doesn’t amount to cheating. I mean really!!!! Its his nature. Unless a wife is very insecure this shouldn’t be an issue of concern to her. The man is married to her not the woman in the street or in the office or where ever. He comes home to you every night doesn’t he?? So be easy.

Another thing, men are by nature polygamous. He may love his wife with everything he’s got but still have this need to ‘conquer’ a ‘new young thing’ thing. What I know is that its not in the affair per se but in the man. His need to feel he has still got it??? Or something like that. He never does this to hurt his wife infact if anything he will never let her find out unless there are deeper issues in that marriage.

That said and done, I want to mention that it is possible for a man to have feeling for multiple women. Note that these are distinct feelings…not that he feels the same for them all. His wife however will be waaaaaay up on a high pedestal. No other woman can reach her level. After all this is the one he decided to marry, to be the mother of her children, to go home to every night etc. The other women play a special yet important role in his life. Who knows, they are probably what the doctor prescribed fro his marriage. These other women may not just be ‘accomplishments/trophies’ for the man’s ego but they could be playing a vital role in his life. His well being and his marriages’ survival.

Every situation is different and should be looked at on a case to case basis. We can’t judge them all ‘kiwhole sale’. Some we may never even understand whats going on or why the man does what he is doing. What you need to do carolecarole is walk into that marriage or relationship realistically. Men will not always be dogs but they will always be men. Don’t expect an angel. The men we call dogs are ….well lets just say they are in a class of their own. Or they are undergoing midlife crisis, adolescence or some **** like that. Tends to mess around with the screws in their head…. I mean how do you sleep with 3 women in a day in the same bed????( ok story for another day)

you dont have to use wordy sentences to cyclically repeat the same message
Brush up your linguistic ecnomies skills, idiot

[Shyloxx26]

Originally Posted by karl marx

you dont have to use wordy sentences to cyclically repeat the same message
Brush up your linguistic ecnomies skills, idiot

what do you know?! this word keeps popping up in so many places lately.

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by Shyloxx26

what do you know?! this word keeps popping up in so many places lately.

Yeah shy!! I mean.... whats up with that? *read with that dumb-blond-Paris Hilton accent*

[charlokam]

Originally Posted by karl marx

you dont have to use wordy sentences to cyclically repeat the same message
Brush up your linguistic ecnomies skills, idiot

kweli nyani haoni kundule

[jaykam]

Originally Posted by charlokam

kweli nyani haoni kundule

Hahahahaahahahaha.... Damn these spelling cops!!!

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by charlokam

kweli nyani haoni kundule

Hahahaha I thought that was some conc English that couldnt even be googled! LOL Kumbe even him he needs to ""brush up his linguistic ecnomies"" skills, LOL idiot right back atcha!! karl marx

[wanaume]

Originally Posted by Genuwine

My neiba (pseudonym: Sheila) - an alma mater of Daystar, intelligent, a Christian and working for a big bank. Juzi, she read me the Riot Act about all the DOGGISH no good men who have hurt her.

Observing this woman on the surface, you wouldn’t dream in a million yrs that she is a poster gal for a failed relationship. This furious sister ended her male bashing diatribe by stating that if she pieced all of her worthless ex-boyfriends together, she still couldn’t produce one single solitary good man.

Sheila insisted that ALL MEN are dogs and blamed ALL OF US MEN for her pain. She refused to consider the thought that her recurring love traumas could also be her own making.

I’ve heard numerous tales of misogynistic from women and like a recurring nightmare; certain women can’t seem to break the cycle of attracting men who are bona fide dogs.

These women seem to have a penchant for ending up in risky relationships and/or miserable marriages with loathsome males, but why?

Why are dishonorable males constantly drawn to these women? Why do the men they attract turn out to be abusers, liars, cheaters, fakes and men who end up ripping their hearts out?

I think women are mistaken to blame men for such relationships. There is no woman in her right mind who wants a good guy for a boyfriend or husband, they all want the mystery of a bad boy, who by the way attracts more women than a lamp attracts moths in the dark. So, if its a bad boy you want get the bad boy and deal with the consequences quietly!!!!!1

[daflava]

Mwanaume mzuri ni yule yuko futi sita chini atleast wherever u are u know ur man is safely tucked sumwhere hakuna kuhanya.... Ama those ****ty things they do...

[YB*]

If you want to know a clueless man, find one one who will tell you "You see this/my mama, nilimkimbiza, nikamkatia mpaka nikampata". Men can't hunt a woman to save their lives!! The men present themselves and the ladies select them - its that simple, unless you are used to bullying women into relationships

That said, the heading of this thread is misleading, a woman attracts all types - dogs, angels, weirdos etc. At any one time in her life a woman (even a married or engaged one) has one or more men hitting on her even if not overtly.

It is the woman who chooses the man she wants to "mate" with not the other way round. So your friend can't be helped by others only by herself.