[a.k.a]

Lying!!!

A relationship is built on trust/honesty and when there is no trust then there is no love at all...kaput hakuna relationship yeyote hapo!!

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by Ester

Great list; I think you've touched on almost everything.
To that I'll add expecting him/her to be like you, putting pressure (any kind) on your partner, holding grudges long after he/she apologizes etc...

That one is so common with women. We forgive but probably never forget so we keep using it against the man or whoever whenever something similar happens.

[lipstick jungle]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

That one is so common with women. We forgive but probably never forget so we keep using it against the man or whoever whenever something similar happens.

sometimes u cant help it, u need to reference the incident to make a point sometimes

[t.D.A.]

I will add:
Expecting the other person to do everything i.e. be responsible for your happiness, peace of mind, satisfaction etc etc especially if you're not putting anything into the relationship.

In my opinion when women hold on to issues even though they claim to have forgiven, it's usually based on a fear that they will do it again. It's your way of trying to control the situation and ensure he/she doesn't do it again using anger and threats.

My 0.02

[kenyansenorita]

Originally Posted by grip_daddy

Thinking that because you got things to hide, the other party must be hiding things too.

for the 1st time, i agree with you

[jajuok]

lack of trust-This leads to suspicion which can break the relationship.For example cant i have my beer with the boys,stagger home at midnight and not be suspected of having been with another woman??

Lack of communication-When ur spouse starts expressing there deepest concerns to other parties other than you,u are in deep ****.

[fiery_preacher]

Originally Posted by rayfisher

In your opinion what is the most commonly commited mistake in a relationship?

Me thinks it is "lying."

I think morbid jealousy is the most common mistake.When a lover cannot stand the partner getting close to a friend of the opposite gender.

[jungunijinga]

Right now I think that its not being feminine enough. You know, not potraying that picture of an ideal woman. Trying to be at the same level with the man, not submissive, not performing those female duties with dedication.... blah blah.

And I can only talk from a female point of view, because we honestly do always have different expecations in relationships. If men knew what women wanted n vice versa, everything would be shwari shwarara.