[t.D.A.]

Two things have happened over the course of the past two months that I never thought would happen: the two long distance (he is in Kenya, she is here) relationships that I thought would work out have collapsed with the most recent one collapsing just today.

With that in mind, I am an optimist and I at least want to be able to tell anyone traveling to majuu that this type of thing can work, for the sake of my optimism, please tell me you know at least one that has worked? Ama they are just doomed?

[Kenyan Jamaa]

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Two things have happened over the course of the past two months that I never thought would happen: the two long distance (he is in Kenya, she is here) relationships that I thought would work out have collapsed with the most recent one collapsing just today.

With that in mind, I am an optimist and I at least want to be able to tell anyone traveling to majuu that this type of thing can work, for the sake of my optimism, please tell me you know at least one that has worked? Ama they are just doomed?

Hi, i thought i had quit mashada but i will give one last comment. Take it as wise counsel as someone who came from way back in kenyaniyetu and has walked the illustrious route of LDR.

First of all that is the most challenging relationship anyone can get themselves into. Second this is one relationship that feeds on hope and hope has to be tangible, there has to be a reasonable time frame during which the couple will eventually hook up. It takes too long and they get distracted, and no hope= no relationship.

So i guess in this way, the dude/chic in kenya had no hope of ever coming to the states.. or the dude/chic in the states saw him/herself not going back to kenya soon and so gave up on the relationship. this negative energy feeds off the relationship and it dies a natural death.. but it can be rekindled.

Anyway the proof of the pie is in the eating and different folks.. different strokes and sometimes people just drift apart. But in my POV i think LDR's are hope dependent and what kills em is lack of hope thereof.

[kenyansenorita]

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Two things have happened over the course of the past two months that I never thought would happen: the two long distance (he is in Kenya, she is here) relationships that I thought would work out have collapsed with the most recent one collapsing just today.

With that in mind, I am an optimist and I at least want to be able to tell anyone traveling to majuu that this type of thing can work, for the sake of my optimism, please tell me you know at least one that has worked? Ama they are just doomed?

Does anyone know of any long distance relationship that has ever worked? No, long distance relationships are a waste of time, they never work, i had a friend who was here and her bf in kenya the girl worked hard until she letad the bf here after bringing him, the guy feel for the gfs white friend and left her a month later, so anyone out there in a long distance relation should stop wasting time and energy for it can never work

[Benzema]

Long distance are the toughest thing to handle. Separation causes differences and many complications. Unless you are linking up soon, just give it a go.

[moveon]

It depends on the distance and the capability of the lovers!
Its the best way to pass time as you wait for the right person

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Two things have happened over the course of the past two months that I never thought would happen: the two long distance (he is in Kenya, she is here) relationships that I thought would work out have collapsed with the most recent one collapsing just today.

With that in mind, I am an optimist and I at least want to be able to tell anyone traveling to majuu that this type of thing can work, for the sake of my optimism, please tell me you know at least one that has worked? Ama they are just doomed?

[nat89]

Yes i know about three relationships that are going strong.

One has been going on ever since highschool, they are going on 7 years now.
Both finished university while apart He has cheated one or twice and made sure to tell her. Could be more than twice but who knows.
They see eachohter evrey 6 months. Since she can now travel to europe(papers and shyyt) they have made different plans. . . he visits her ever six months and she him after 6 and so on.
The jobs they have is what is making tihngs difficult but she plans to go back to school and she has a place offered here in Europe so i gues they will finally be together then. Personally i get the feeling that they are so used to being apart that when they are finally together, the relationship mgiht collapse.

I know another. . . about 3 years long and doesnt show any sign of breaking.

And the third is just a few months. . ..


I hear its all about trust and focusing on the future you two will build together.
All these people are studying or working and that it what keeps them apart!

[opiche]

Originally Posted by nat89

Yes i know about three relationships that are going strong.

One has been going on ever since highschool, they are going on 7 years now.
Both finished university while apart He has cheated one or twice and made sure to tell her. Could be more than twice but who knows.
They see eachohter evrey 6 months. Since she can now travel to europe(papers and shyyt) they have made different plans. . . he visits her ever six months and she him after 6 and so on.
The jobs they have is what is making tihngs difficult but she plans to go back to school and she has a place offered here in Europe so i gues they will finally be together then. Personally i get the feeling that they are so used to being apart that when they are finally together, the relationship mgiht collapse.

I know another. . . about 3 years long and doesnt show any sign of breaking.

And the third is just a few months. . ..


I hear its all about trust and focusing on the future you two will build together.
All these people are studying or working and that it what keeps them apart!

Where did you take your usual Kizungu? Post bithday trauma?

[nat89]

Originally Posted by opiche

Where did you take your usual Kizungu? Post bithday trauma?

Fix them spelling mistakes if u have such a problem with it. . . .

[t.D.A.]

Originally Posted by nat89

One has been going on ever since highschool, they are going on 7 years now.
Both finished university while apart He has cheated one or twice and made sure to tell her. Could be more than twice but who knows.

The woman must be quite smitten with the brother to not have left him after he cheated so many times......

[t.D.A.]

Originally Posted by Kenyan Jamaa

Hi, i thought i had quit mashada but i will give one last comment. Take it as wise counsel as someone who came from way back in kenyaniyetu and has walked the illustrious route of LDR.

First of all that is the most challenging relationship anyone can get themselves into. Second this is one relationship that feeds on hope and hope has to be tangible, there has to be a reasonable time frame during which the couple will eventually hook up. It takes too long and they get distracted, and no hope= no relationship.

So i guess in this way, the dude/chic in kenya had no hope of ever coming to the states.. or the dude/chic in the states saw him/herself not going back to kenya soon and so gave up on the relationship. this negative energy feeds off the relationship and it dies a natural death.. but it can be rekindled.

Anyway the proof of the pie is in the eating and different folks.. different strokes and sometimes people just drift apart. But in my POV i think LDR's are hope dependent and what kills em is lack of hope thereof.

You mentioned something that I see very few Lond distance relationships do i.e. actually put a timetable on their lives. Pre-deciding when we will see each other again....Deciding where the relationship is going....Is it going anywhere?
I think far too many people go for long distance relationships under the "let's wait and see model" and when you are young, horny, easily distracted and in a country that just thrives on distracting people with false hopes, to fail to plan is to plan to fail. Great point.