[kenyansenorita]

Originally Posted by 3C's

This thread has good advice for woment who dont mind taking the first step.

Personally I don't mind being approached. Sometimes it intrigues me (It has happened several times).

However, it's all about HOW you do it!!

you're just talking now, if a girl approached you doesnt matter how bado utafikiri ako cheap, sema tu ukweli

[Native Son.]

There is something eerily wrong with a woman approaching a man. It is very uncomfortable experience and you (the man) keep wondering about what is going on. It goes against the natural order of things just like the sun failing to rise one morning or even set at all- hebu imagine a 50 hour day without the sun setting.

I don't understand what the guys who have no problem with this are saying.

[kenyansenorita]

Originally Posted by Native Son.

There is something eerily wrong with a woman approaching a man. It is very uncomfortable experience and you (the man) keep wondering about what is going on. It goes against the natural order of things just like the sun failing to rise one morning or even set at all- hebu imagine a 50 hour day without the sun setting.

I don't understand what the guys who have no problem with this are saying.

atleast you see what i see, women who approach men tend to be desperate and thats the last thing you want a man to think of u

[Mildred Chenane]

Itz kind of difficult approachin a jama coz u not sure kaa atakulenga!
will not risk!

[jaykam]

I approach men with ease, lakini gals its kinda hard to start a conversation with them coz for som reason they've prejudged my ass. I'm a very friendly person, who happens to luv meetin strangers, they mak my travel time worth it.

[Native Son.]

Personally, I like gals who are aloof and when I say this, I don't mean it in a negative sense. All I am talking about is someone who is just reserved and going about her own business.

Ladies, let me steal a nugget for youfrom a man's world;

You don't have to talk to a man to have him/them notice you. No!!!

We do it the moment we enter a room where you are present or the moment you enter a room that we are in. We are 'predators' so to speak. Our antenna is always up looking for women and the moment we see someone whom we think fits our profile, we approach them.

There is a certain code of conduct that the society expects of everyone. Ladies are no exception. society expects ladies to be modest, suave, full of mannerisms e.t.c.

It (society) is also ready to forgive men who go peeing by the roadside or behind buildings but would never forgive a lady for such bad behariour.

In the same breath, the society expects women to be modest. IT IS THAT SIMPLE.

Anyone who contravenes this simple etiquette appears to be what I'd call an outlier in statistics-someone who deviates from the norm.

Whereas it is true that some men would have no problem with such women who approach men, many of us would. It is an abnormal thing.

A well raised woman knows that she has to conduct herself with decorum and propriety, not trying to catch the attention of men left right and wherever.

[Sanaa-]

Native son, we don't live in the same society, Normal in your society might be otherwise in other society.

[lesbiana]

mtalala njaa...you that are waiting to be approached............. have you ever herad of a lion that is contemplating on whether to chase the antelope and eat it,,,or wait for the antelope to come closer to be eaten?...............

haaiya si if the lion does that, njaa itamdedisha? same applies to people


my 2 pence

[kenyansenorita]

Originally Posted by Mildred Chenane

Itz kind of difficult approachin a jama coz u not sure kaa atakulenga!
will not risk!

yenyewe ni aibu kulengwa na chali after taking the chance of telling him how you feel, i don't see why a girl that is secure and confident about herself should approach a man instead of being approached, i can never approach a guy period.