As an engineer , I like to take the shortest route possible if and when necessary using as few resources as possible. I don’t always approach men and sometimes when I go to the club , I can leave without paying any man any attention, however there are ocassions when I spot a man who takes my fancy, in that case, I will approach him with a very casual line, ask him if he is enjoying the night , or start a conversation by suggesting that the club should improve on their lighting.. or if he looks bored just lightly tease him by saying something like ” you know , a tinge of cayenne pepper in that drink will definitely wake you up” (of course he must look like a savy man who knows his drink for that line to work) those ”lines don’t necessarily have to work magic, they are just conversation starters.
The thing is, I’m not a promiscuous person, but I am very forward, and I love the feeling and mystery of meeting a nice jamaa in the club and then leaving without exchanging numbers or any obligation after having a blast. I remember two months ago, I met this jamaa in a club by a four star hotel and I spoke to him first ( I was buying some ciggys for a friend because there were no people on that counter) and I told him, I can bet my drink that he is new in town, and he was quite amused and asked me how did I know, was it something I did, I told him well, unless old beer is something you enjoy, no one ever buys beer from this particular counter. He even went on to tell me that he had accidentally gone to the ladies (instead of the gents). After a brief hearty laugh I was about to join my friends when he asked me ” so does that mean the next drink is on me? And I replied ”if you promise not to buy it from the old beer counter” we went on and had a great time.
You can imagine my pleasant surprise when I came to the same club some weeks later and found the same gentleman in the same spot. After paying for my coat, I approached him, stood behind him and asked him ”what are the odds, can I safely assume you have not left this seat since we met?” He laughed and explained that he was in town for business again, and thought he’d reduce the odds of meeting me if he sat in the same spot. I had an even better time than I did the first time we met, and we still never exchanged numbers or any contact. Its such a rush and a thrill to have fun without having to audit or over analyse everything.
Ladies relax on the rules of who should approach whom. It does not undermine your principles if you approach a guy first, it does not mean you want to drag him by his díck to the nearest dark corner and fúck the living daylights out of him, it simply means you are not part of the furniture in the club and you don’t stick to conventional stereotypes. Its how you approach him that matters.
You have to excuse me, I don't have much experience with black/African men. Wazungus won't crucify your personality if you approach them first. Its all about the culture and society you live in or how easily you adapt. I was very shocked when I first moved here, because I realised women here are very aggressive in going for things, professionally or socially women here are very forward, which is expected of them in this society. If you are like a panya , quietly nibbling your way around, you will be trampled on and forgotten about.
05-10-2008, 08:56 AM
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