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[b]what if your abuser is a mzee wa kanisa ama pastor?
abusers come from all walks of life.mostly they hide in the church using the ephesians verse of women submission.you know the devil and the snake?
if you are in this category educate yourself and move on.you are created special in the image of God.so do not accept abuse.
Domestic Violence Domestic Abuse Help Illinois also has good resources for church going women and pastors wives.also see peace and safety in the christian home[PASCH] at www.peaceandsafety.com
abuse=domestic violence is a widespread social problem

[mo-uk]

women in pysical abusive relationships

Here are common Symptoms

1- Scared
2- Financially insecure
3- In love
4- Plain stup!d [this women doesn't even see it as abuse]
5- Comes from dysfunctional family
6- I am tired you continue...ok


Women who are in abusive relationships are often trapped by many things, inexperience in the real world, psychological issues,she may think she cant function in the real world, her need to produce children are not for the sake of loving the abuser, but rather building human assets because she lacks the conventional mechanisms of gaining capital, thus children are seen as assets and money making tools, i.e. investments

[OOWITI]

Originally Posted by mo-uk

women in pysical abusive relationships

Here are common Symptoms

1- Scared
2- Financially insecure
3- In love
4- Plain stup!d [this women doesn't even see it as abuse]
5- Comes from dysfunctional family
6- I am tired you continue...ok


Women who are in abusive relationships are often trapped by many things, inexperience in the real world, psychological issues,she may think she cant function in the real world, her need to produce children are not for the sake of loving the abuser, but rather building human assets because she lacks the conventional mechanisms of gaining capital, thus children are seen as assets and money making tools, i.e. investments

mo-uk what you have described above is called myths of domestic violence not symtoms.
Domestic Violence Myths

[OOWITI]

Originally Posted by kenyansenorita

CRAZINESS...WHAT ELSE

well a certain percetage of abusive men suffer from a mental condition called borderline personality disorder.the sad bit is they never accept they are mentally sick and never take any form of treatment.yet there is hope if they agree to therapy.to be honest many therapist are not well trained to handle BPD and a lot of them hardly want to deal with one because of the rollercoaster games this kind of people play with the therapist but a lot of research is going on.for more information go to-

BPD Central - borderline personality disorder resources - basics

[mo-uk]

We cant just state the obvious or stereotypical reasons as to why women stay in abusive relationships. There must be other influencing factors that are unique in their own way or rather unique to each case. Perhaps they're taught or perhaps both individuals grew up in an abusive relationship, and they might think those sort of behaviours are perfectly normal.

Or maybe its just tough love.

[OOWITI]

If you want to learn about domestic violence[recomended] there are a lot of books out there that will help you understand that domestic violence is not acceptable and can be eradicted with people joining together in communities to fight it.It is like an evil spirit in the communities by men in the society spreading it like wildfire.it breaks homes and communities.it happens behind closed doors .women are safer on the streets at night than in their own homes.One child who witnessed domestic violence said this in sunday school" if my heavenly Father is like my earthly Father then am not coming to church again.i dont want to see women in church being beaten by men in church like my father at home beats my mother".That was description of domestic violence thru a chid's eye.how sad.
list of books;

violence among us -ministry to families in crisis by brenda branson and paula j silva
the emotionally destructive relationship,seeing it ,stopping it,by leslie vernick
refuge-a pathway out of domestic violence and abuse by donald stewart
inside the minds of an angry and controlling men by lundy bancroft

these books are available in your local library if you are in usa or online at Amazon.com: Online Shopping for Electronics, Apparel, Computers, Books, DVDs & more or at Christianbook.com - Shop for Christian Books, Bibles, Music, Homeschool Products, Gifts & more

[OOWITI]

Originally Posted by mo-uk

We cant just state the obvious or stereotypical reasons as to why women stay in abusive relationships. There must be other influencing factors that are unique in their own way or rather unique to each case. Perhaps they're taught or perhaps both individuals grew up in an abusive relationship, and they might think those sort of behaviours are perfectly normal.

Or maybe its just tough love.

mo-uk am so glad with this reply.i can now see you seeing things on a broad perspective.these are not "stereotypical reasons " in domestic violence but they are backed up by research statistics for many years.domestic violence is not about 2 people it is about this man using power and control tactics to dominate the relationship while confusing the society with jekylle hyde personality.I agree there are also many other factors and I would recomend this book mothers and sons and lovers by michael gurian available at Amazon.com: Online Shopping for Electronics, Apparel, Computers, Books, DVDs & more its a must read for all guys and fathers bringing up boys.

[OOWITI]

I do hope the resources ave posted here will help others understand the dynamics of domestic violence and the tactics used by the abuser to gain power and control .Please if you have other good resources please post them here.

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