Have we given up on love?

dotNet · (#1 (**permalink**))

From most of the threads we see in this section, its like most of us go thru a very hard time in relationships. Like most of us have really had it rough or are having it rough.

Where do you think the problem lies? Is it that we don't know how to show love? How to share it? Is it that most of us have given up on finding true love and are currently having 'fun' and not sharing love?

Does the problem lie in the society that we live in or are we just in hurry to get someone to be there and hence overlook some vital signs and later on find ourselves trapped in 'relationships' that need a new word to define them?

What is the problem?
Have we given up on love?
Do WE/YOU believe in LOVE?

Sanaa- · (#2 (**permalink**))

I'm in love with the notion of love itself. I'm a romantic, and i'd never give up on love. Theres so many ways to love someone, at least one of them has got to work and if it don't... i move on... but i can never give up on love.

God is love.

sdolphin · (#3 (**permalink**))

@ sanaa ati thers's more than one way to love somebody? huh

I suppose right now im in my single phase nothing makes sense. Cant be asked to have a "man" in my life.

Sanaa- · (#4 (**permalink**))

Sdolphin, yes there are but thats just my opinion. Even though I don't have a bf i still love and get loved. If you ever want to experience love, put the skepticism/cynicism aside other wise you'll never get love that you have not opened up to recieve, its like shaking someones hand with a closed fist.

sdolphin · (#5 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Sanaa-

Sdolphin, yes there are but thats just my opinion. Even though I don't have a bf i still love and get loved. If you ever want to experience love, put the skepticism/cynicism aside other wise you'll never get love that you have not opened up to recieve, its like shaking someones hand with a closed fist.

I thought the poster was refering bf kind of love. As for the types of love - i have plenty - i give an receive in abundance

STYLED UP · (#6 (**permalink**))

People gave up on love a while ago. Problem number one according to what i have read in this site...the chics have mostly been made to believe by men that men are generally dogs. So no matter who u're with he will end up cheating. So that has led to a lot of women to settle for whatever they find. In other words, their thoughts are like these nowadays...even if i leave this dog I will still end up with another one...so they just stay and take whatever.

I find it sooo sad. Some women don't believe in being with someone who treats you right...they have just decided to settle. And i still add...it is sooooo sad.

JINIKALI · (#7 (**permalink**))

now, tell me what amount of love you will get out of too many men watching the iraq war and too many women watching the bold and beautiful? it's like shaking someone's hand with a closed fist.lol

cee_w · (#8 (**permalink**))

I think, most of us are usually in love with the notion of love.... to love someone and be with them for the rest of your life is a big big call and it’s scary.

Women (don’t know about men) can think / feel they love someone but a time reaches when you question whether you really love them.

Solution: make a conscious decision to love njoronge, because he is kind funny and reliable. Choose not to love kamau because he is a drunk, liar etc. Point is, we take a lot f time making investment decisions, and so little time on 'love'; we should approach 'love' and the choice of person like an investment decision not based on, how 'he/she makes me feel'.

Shyloxx26 · (#9 (**permalink**))

Charity begins at home. If you were never shown love in the home-front, then, it will be very difficult if not impossible to love someone else.

I believe most of us have not been taught how to love someone else. Society celebrates on having you join their clan, then it's downhill from there. Just go back to your family setting. When was the last time you heard your mama or papa say they love you? How many of us have siblings but never share anything? If we don't learn from home then we shall never know how to handle other people out there. That's my 2 cents

kwm · (#10 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Shyloxx26

Charity begins at home. If you were never shown love in the home-front, then, it will be very difficult if not impossible to love someone else.

I believe most of us have not been taught how to love someone else. Society celebrates on having you join their clan, then it's downhill from there. Just go back to your family setting. When was the last time you heard your mama or papa say they love you? How many of us have siblings but never share anything? If we don't learn from home then we shall never know how to handle other people out there. That's my 2 cents

Shyloxx26 couldn't have said it better, indeed charity begins at home.