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How to End a Relationship -
07-31-2007, 01:35 AM
Just what are the correct words to say when you want to end a relationship?You want her/him to understand your incompartibility yet you want to avoid words that can inflict emotional pain.
Should one use one on one talk or just give distance and signs till the message sinks home?
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07-31-2007, 02:08 AM
Yeah by the way I also need to hear this.This pond is all fished out and am having a rough time fending off my man's compe seeing that am a nice person who can't stand hurting someone else by words or action.Am sort of in a tight spot coz keeping my distance and ignoring the poor dudes doesnt always work. 
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07-31-2007, 03:56 AM
see, thats the same thing i have always wanted to know. Even Milanya wasnt able to give me an answer on this one.
Share with us all yo heatrbreakers and also those who have successfully broken up with someone.
How do you tell them without making that person feel very bad!!
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07-31-2007, 04:04 AM
I think the best way to go about it is to take her or him out to a very seren place and speak the truth.be prepared to console him/her and wipe the tears,spend some time together but don't indulge in carnal activities.Yes it is going to hurt,but the person will recover and will respect you for that.
Using distance can also work but it is surely not the best way.
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07-31-2007, 07:30 AM
Yes please somebody help on how to solve this and also consider the case of a person whose both sides' families know of the relationship and are even expecting a wedding but you are sure that you want out...
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07-31-2007, 08:15 AM
My opinion would be that,if you have an option,its better to use signs and symptoms strategy.It lessens the pain.
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07-31-2007, 08:49 AM
Here I use what that representative from Penn called Murtha calls a "SLOW-BLEED" strategy. You start by reducing communication.....like a curve, not a corner. Increase disagreements in your lessening communications. After a while come up with new future plans that make it harder for the relationship to carry out. Then you can easily come to a mutual agreement to call it off. Calling it off when the other party thinks everything is going great is harder to pull off.
But then, not even all that works perfectly....I've never had a peaceful, respectful breakup. So I'm accustomed to receiving all sorts of cries which turn into tantrums then harsh insults. LOL.
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07-31-2007, 09:00 AM
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Originally Posted by KEMINOKANA
Here I use what that representative from Penn called Murtha calls a "SLOW-BLEED" strategy. You start by reducing communication.....like a curve, not a corner. Increase disagreements in your lessening communications. After a while come up with new future plans that make it harder for the relationship to carry out. Then you can easily come to a mutual agreement to call it off. Calling it off when the other party thinks everything is going great is harder to pull off.
But then, not even all that works perfectly....I've never had a peaceful, respectful breakup. So I'm accustomed to receiving all sorts of cries which turn into tantrums then harsh insults. LOL.
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eeeiiii KEMI, Ebu get serious, this might lead to someone getting lynched and i am sure it will be so painfull
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07-31-2007, 09:02 AM
[quote=fiery_preacher;440585]I think the best way to go about it is to take her or him out to a very seren place and speak the truth.be prepared to console him/her and wipe the tears,spend some time together but don't indulge in carnal activities.Yes it is going to hurt,but the person will recover and will respect you for that.
This was one of the best options, then change your sim card, go live in another place and start to imagine if you see him you will vomit. let his friends not to be your friends again. make a song "i dont want him" when ever he comes to your mind again ..shout to yourself the same words of the song "I DONT WANT HIM" and he will never again forever be in your mind. what ever he bought for you, throw it a way or give as donation in the slums . change your looks, be sexiest as never before and you will attract your forever half to share for the rest of your life ...good luck.
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For Pyscho's -
07-31-2007, 09:53 AM
If u were with a pyscho, How about serving a restraining order
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