[Gugul]

Originally Posted by jaykam

Then again we hav parents who try and pimp their son to you by saying things like ........you guys look really good together...... or Eric go show Jaykam your room (yaani they want their son to hav som ass)...... mpaka u start feeling weird around ur friend.

jaykam....you never fail to mention sex

[jaykam]

Originally Posted by Gugul

jaykam....you never fail to mention sex

Sorry thats the last time Gugul

[adina]

now for me its the opposite, the nigga tripped and we broke up 2 weeks ago, but his mum is trying to pull me back in, with storos of "we love you", "you are our daughter", "dont make decisions when you are mad" etc...dang! i need grey goose, i should never have picked up her 1st call ingawa i still love her stupid son

[Jaugenya]

Originally Posted by adina

now for me its the opposite, the nigga tripped and we broke up 2 weeks ago, but his mum is trying to pull me back in, with storos of "we love you", "you are our daughter", "dont make decisions when you are mad" etc...dang! i need grey goose, i should never have picked up her 1st call ingawa i still love her stupid son

yours is a unique and seemingly more intersting story..

[fiery_preacher]

Originally Posted by PippyZa

Well,it has never happened to me as a Man. But I have witnessed very funny stories with serious relatives.Here comes a situation whereby you´ve known your girfriend for a time that you consider to be enough, and now you decide to introduce her to your Parents as a fiancee( all goes perfect, still)..But comes a time when your Mother summorns you to a private place to speak to you her mind about the girl and like say, " Pippy, my son, from my own observation, as the lady who brought you up to what you have become today, I think that this is not the right lady for you, I reccommend that you call an end to this relationship, take your time and search for a better lady.At this time Pippy asks, "but, Mum, just sympathise with me and imagine all the time i have employed on her for the last so and so years but the mother insists, and make her Point clearer; " My son, If you have to live with her, Then I regret having suffered all that pain of having you as my son..

Ladies, How would you react to this particular situation whereby a Man you love don´t marry you because his mother is dissatisfied???

Men, How would you react to this situation..You are in love with a person which to your mother´s opinion doesn´t belong to you???

Please, help share your ideas on this..It happens moreso in kenya and in all kenyan societies, in Kaleos as well as Luo, Kikuyus, Luhyas and everybody else..

The field is now yours..OPINIONS

As a man,a master of my mind,i would humbly convince my mum that am a christian and my view is supported by the bible.It is writen that a man shall leave his mother and father and be joined with a woman.It doesn't say that a mother will chose for her son a wife.The mere fact that the bible mentions the man shall leave his parents,symbolises an aspect of freedom.

That is my opinion.

[Camylle]

Originally Posted by jaykam

Sorry thats the last time Gugul

jaykam ungeuliza gugul whats wrong with mentioning sex!

on the matter at hand....most wives/gfs dont get along with their mom-in-laws, those who do are barely cordial alafu there is the breed which is totally friends with mom in laws..(men, this is the group u ought watch out for) coz they'll gang up against u and u'll end up feeling like an outsider in your own home..

parents shld let their kids make their own choices/mistakes jus as they made theirs...and if they have concerns, they shd raise them in a manner that one wont have to feel like its an ultimatum , u know either her or ur wife/gf.

you jamaas you shd listen to ur parents but not necessarily do what they tell u cozsome concerns are baseless and uncalled for and at the end of the day they are not worth losing a soul mate over them.

[pritijo]

ok guys, just hold up one minute.

Imagine you have a kid and your kid has come of age, ready to marry/ get married (I didn't say just met or just dating)...and you know your kid's partner's character very well without a shadow of doubt. And that character is... well, let's say that you know your baby is going to land in trouble sooner or later. What would you do???

[PippyZa]

Like a fellow mentioned earlier, it can also be difficult to take your mum´s advices for granted..I´d befriend my mum as i´ve done in my case to make her trust my choices..

"There is a comment i heard from my Mum that moved me recently, that" I would be worried of any other person´s choice but not pippy´s".. i liked it and this changed my earlier perceptions on her...It makes me feel confident of myself too..

This comment only comes if we "befriend them"..How to do it?? depends oin your mums and yourselves...

[kim007]

Well that is not as bad as what ma mum told my 24 year old Gal
She asked her, What did you see in my son? .........
Couldnt you find a man as Old as you to mess around with?
I dont think i will stand here and watch my son marry a 70 year old Grandma.................
I dont even think you are 70, you might be older than that............

She burst out from the kitchen and drove off and vowed never to come back too see my parents

[milanya]

not running to your mother like a 5 year old who's been stung by a wasp on the belly button.

kemi hapo umenijazz kweli.

Lol. Pritijo that is a territory that comes with adulthood. At a point u have to realize as a parent that though you want the best for your kids once they are adults you can't choose for them. If you are so sure they are making a mistake the most you can do is tell them or at extreme cases cut them off financially and tell them when they realize it or the ish hits the fan they know where to find you...

I know a woman whose son is always ending up in jail. She feels powerless but at some point she just has to wachilia...can a parent really? but what do you do...

but I co-sign with Dem Gal. A man who takes his mother's side over mine (being as I know myself and I am not some crazy horrible wife-to-be, and can see her reasons are pitiful) is good riddance. You will have a threesome marriage!