[milanya]

M Kenya, I go to a Christian shule, and you'd be surprised how many, not 23 -yr olds, but 20,21, and 22-yr old men I know who are getting married this summer. These are jamaas who popped the question, some of them to a chic they have been dating since high school, and others for like 3 months! Now, I understand why a couple that has dated, like my good pal, his chic since they were 16, and they are both now 22, would want to get married. Part of me is puzzled because I feel they were robbed of a teenage life, i dunno? But part of me understands wanting to marry a chic you've been with for like 6 years. The others, who are marrying chics they've been with for like 3 months, I'll tell you what I think. Most of these jamaas grew up in very Christian homes and they slept with this chic or really want to, and unlike other people who just do it, they are so laden with guilt they decide to tie the knot in a hurry. Some of these jamaas are in school to be pastors, others are just such 'good boys' that conscience...

anyway Volina, the dynamics of sex/love/dating are so peculiar. if you want to be a virgin, do it, and stick to it for the right reasons. You WILL find a man to marry so don't worry about what majority of men want/think about virgins or promiscuous women.

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

for a guy marrying at the age of 22 is neshing big time, he is still a big toi. after 25 well then i think there is some maturity

[Volina]

Lo, this post is not about me being a virgin or otherwise, I was just asking about the abused, raped and promiscous in the clubs. How can you have sex with someone for one nite and never see them again and not even talk to them but let's do it...and delete their fone in the morning.......not care to marry them.........not care to marry u.........

[KEMINOKANA]

Musema Ukweli it all depends.

There are 22 year olds whose maturity level is far ahead of 'his years'. There are 30 year olds whose level of maturity is like that of a 12 year old.

People grow up differently. Someone who has had his fun since he was 10 will be tired of having fun by 22. On the other hand, a guy who was kaliwad by his paroz and gains his independence after high school at 18 obviously needs more time to get the excitement out of his system.

When I finally reconnected with some of my high school mates, many were long ago married, have kids and are moving on with life. Are they missing anything? Having spent alot of time with them and sharing our stories, I dont think so.

Furthermore, where I was born and brought up, anyone who's gone to university, graduated, landed a job and is still dithering around, is considered a 'boy'. Only in the US do guys brag about their immaturity to make it look cool, just the way Akatas have made not speaking/writing proper english cool, much to their disadvantage. But you do have a point, rushing into marriage can prove disastrous especially when you get into it for the sake of sex.

[KEMINOKANA]

Volina,

Would I marry a promiscous woman? Hell naawwwwwwww!! I particularly distaste those who've bedded married men. A promiscous woman is not only a potential hazard to your health, but damn, imagine raising children who've taken after her? I am not an angel, but a mother of my kids has gotta have the morals to help me raise the children to discern right from wrong.

But am not interested in a prude either. And one can be a virgin and not be a prude, a sexholic can be a prude. Adamn and Eve did fine.

How to get a slut out of a lady? U gotta be sly on that one and it takes experience. But if u have no experience with women, my guy, u gon get played and think ur getting a virgin kumbe msichana has been "Goodwilling" her pudesh elsewhere(ask kevinmaina). Unlike men who divide their Exs by decimals(e.g poko hunter), women multiply their Exs with decimals( I wouldnt be surprised if Volina turns out to be the slut of sluts)- just an example volina and poko :)

[Sleek Rick]

Volina, like any other precious commodity, it has to have one rather important quality: it has to be scarce. Now, the girl who doesn't give it up easily, the one who keeps you wanting to do it with her (not the stingy one who never ever gives it up, ni kama unamuomba liver yake) but manages how much of it she gives up is more desirable than the one who just puts it out there to be had at any time (and by anyone for that matter). Why would I wanna be with her, while at the same time, the chances that my boys and their boys have been huko? Why do you appreciate eating at a nice restaurant more than when you kwenda to your local McD's, BK or whichever other place that tickles your fancy? Besides, grip ni muhimu pia

The slutty one matters too, coz there's always a need for them...ALWAYS!!!! It's all a matter of where you are in life and what it is you feel that you need from the girl(s) you want to be with.

[Volina]

wow, this topic has become very personal indeed.


Anyhow, personally Kemi, it is a choice, we all have a will, so I can be easily promiscous, and it is the easiest thing to do, or I can do the hardest thing and not be.

Again as I said, most pple who do this are rather young really, the once who become promiscous and yes, men are promiscous too. If u get a guy who has had multiple patners it is scary too. However you have to decide which kind of life u want to live for yourself. And yes, these young men and women realize their mistakes and heal from their past, but it is sad what our society has become.

wow, it is sad of what choices we make. This revaals alot to me. Wow, this will make the best paper ever.

I see making love as losing apart of urself. So I have made the choice to lose that part to one man that I will love.


Again, sex is good. God created sex. I am ever fascinated with the animals I study and how they reproduce and I just love it, the zoology of it all is very amazing. Just imagine how children form and yes, I do agree that sex is between man and woman and it is for pleasure too.

But we cannot make excuses for what we have done or how we have been violated in the past in selling our bodies to every man or woman that we see.

Again thanks for everyone's honesty and maturity about this.

[Whitehead]

Volina how about not worrying about what boys like and pleasing yourself?

[Volina]

>Volina how about not worrying about what boys like and
>pleasing yourself?

Lo...of course I dont like worrying about what boys like, rather what u think about promiscous men and women, this women wouldnt be acting this way without promiscous men. As you can see, this discussion has turned quite personal.

But, We were not created to be animals. We as humans are sinking low and low and the guilty is within us, I mean some of the responses just makes me see what the world has become indeed.

[diezzle]

no offense to anybody but if you think sex is only for reproduction, you have a big problem, hanging out in clubs doesnt make anybody a slut and in the present days, being a virgin doesnt make you a better candidate for marriage. and volina if you dont change your perception about the world, i dont see you "reproducing" any time soon.