Long Distance Relationship: A Lesson Learned

kemal · (#1 (**permalink**))

Through my LD r/ship i learned that people go through alot of strains. i mean long enough not to be able to see each other in 3 months and above and especally, accross borders.(maybe am wrong).The parties tend to strain themselves so much to stay in touch and keep the 'fire burning'.You become uncertain of each other's tolerance and some traces of insecurity may develop, blame also sometimes is a consequence(very dangerous like blame). You may fnd yourselves spending much time disputing than reaally loving!.Forget about delaying the other person to get married if ready. All these weakens the strength of the r/ship. Furthermore you tend to grow so differently when apart and when you finally come to each other ,its like you start all over from the beginning. I think one uses alot of energy in this situation in sustaining(making it work) love than love getting a chance to grow naturally and at is pace.It really affects the growth of love to say the least. Though many would endure in love when desperate or feel that the future is good when he/she comes back....in this case someone can cheat to wait. When in this situation (relating from a distance), be very honest with each other and look at the reality and you will never go wrong. You may decide to set yourselves free, but keep in touch. In this case u may find it easier!
Cheers.

chotadipo · (#2 (**permalink**))

blah blah blah...

Wait till you hear from a pakistani or a bangladeshi labourer working his ass off in the Dubai heat with an agency fee to pay his debts off while having to feed his wife and 7 children back home whom he has the hope of only seeing every 5-7yrs or so that is if the job is still there...

milanya · (#3 (**permalink**))

chotadipo bwana, no matter what shidaz someone has, there is always someone who seemingly has it worse.
Somebody once told me, it doesnt matter if you are unhappy and depressed because you lost a finger and someone else is unhappy and depressed because they lost a sister. At the end of the day you are both unhappy and depressed and living a quality of life much less than you should. Different things mean different things to people. You'd be surprised how many people celebrate someone's death.

I always imba LDL's are not worth it unless it is short term and preceded by a long same-city courtship.
Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

jarabuon · (#4 (**permalink**))

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>I always imba LDL's are not worth it unless it is short term
>and preceded by a long same-city courtship.
>Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

bottom line, if you are obsessed with fidelity, then LDLs are not for you.... if ur the swinger type an LDL can work great if you both hook up video cam systems next to your beds.

Okwang · (#5 (**permalink**))

Ahhh, I see one on has any faith in the power of love anymore. When did it die? How come I never read love's obituary? Why wasn't I alerted of the funeral?