[Americanized]

Jamaa, I'm telling you, chicks can smell desperation from a mile away. Dress to impress and be friendly to everyone, but don't act like you are desperately seeking a girlfriend. Dude, that scares chicks away faster than you can say "What is your major?" The more confident, self-assured and contented you appear, the more chicks you will attract!

[Americanized]

Jamaa, I'm telling you, chicks can smell desperation from a mile away. Dress to impress and be friendly to everyone, but don't act like you are desperately seeking a girlfriend. Dude, that scares chicks away faster than you can say "What is your major?" The more confident, self-assured and contented you appear, the more chicks you will attract!

[Americanized]

Jamaa, I'm telling you, chicks can smell desperation from a mile away. Dress to impress and be friendly to everyone, but don't act like you are desperately seeking a girlfriend. Dude, that scares chicks away faster than you can say "What is your major?" The more confident, self-assured and contented you appear, the more chicks you will attract!

[ngong]

true americanized. that woi woi story this jamaa is telling will definately not get him anyway. makes him look desperate and pathetic.

[Americanized]

Ask any married guy and they will tell you that they get approached by more chicks after they get married than they ever did when they were single! Because these guys know they have a woman at home, they don't spend all night chasing after women, and, it may be counterintuitive but women seem to dig this! Married guys can talk to women without feeling like they have to impress them, coz they already have a woman. They are therefore free to be themselves and just enjoy women's company. When women feel less pressured as when they know that a dude is probably just trying to score, they are more willing to give you a chance! Women are looking for men, too! They just don't wanna look slutty by being too easy.

Just try not to get caught in the "friend zone"! Learn how to flirt without going over the top with off-color explicit jokes. Kinda sense where she's coming from. Some girls like to get a little dirty with their flirt game, while some are more prudish. Adjust according to audience. I find that it works best to throw in a few suggestions of you getting together and then backing off a little. Throw it out there and then let the idea marinate in her mind. At least she'll know you may be more interested in more than just friendship. Give her the chance to make up her mind so she doesn't feel like she got picked up so easily.

[justus]

point taken . problem is more of where to meet them than how to handle them when found.I dont know if its only me but kenyan girls in school tend not to want to associate with their kenyan male counterparts .sasa we are in the library studying. you look at this kenyan girl ,say hi , next time they jifanya like they have never seen you. now if that happens all semester long. utado?? my school is like another college in nairobi ,its so full of kenyans we can hold a kamkunji in the library everyday.especially like tuesday afternoon !

nways am sure once I get into the programme things will be better.

[dj kevo]

>point taken . problem is more of where to meet them than how
>to handle them when found.I dont know if its only me but
>kenyan girls in school tend not to want to associate with
>their kenyan male counterparts .sasa we are in the library
>studying. you look at this kenyan girl ,say hi , next time
>they jifanya like they have never seen you. now if that
>happens all semester long. utado?? my school is like another
>college in nairobi ,its so full of kenyans we can hold a
>kamkunji in the library everyday.especially like tuesday
>afternoon !
>
>nways am sure once I get into the programme things will be
>better.
>
>
>
Sounds to me like your problem is not a lack of Kenyan girls in the vicinity, it's more that you don't know how to make an impression on them and make them notice you. I have a lot of female friends in school, and from what I've been able to piece together, they assume that every Kenyan guy who talks to them is after ******....mostly because most of the guys who approach them eventually travel down that road. For that reason, the girls become very wary of "random" guys saying hi to them and they're more likely to try and ignore you in the hopes that you'll "get the hint" and leave them alone. (Ladies, correct me if I'm wrong!) If that's the problem, then you need to somehow prove to them that you're not just looking for p.u.s.s.y (and I do notice you didn't say you were looking for a girlfriend, rather friends in general).

Otherwise, the problem could also be that you're not well-groomed/dressed, or you lack self-confidence when you approach these girls. That won't take you very far. Someone mentioned the need to dress good, that usually catches a girl's eye. Once a girl looks at you and decides that you look good enough to talk to, they will give you that chance to prove that there's more to you than the looks. Good luck!

[wajibu]

If you are as ugly as me, none of this advice will work. Your best chance is going to Wal-Mart, getting a Kamba then hanging yourself. The next best alternative is banging some old bags while you work your confidence. Start from the 40 yr olds, widowers and divorcees and work yourself to 30 yr olds. Men oh men, this old girls will rock your world. Ati smell or desperation, BS. Look at the bad boys in your school; bagging and tagging this girls like crazy. The girls know the boys are after ****** but they are always willing to spread. Know yourself then work the area where you will find success. I have the best place to cruise for easy ******. No kidding, I hate the band called Fleetwood mac, but one day when they had a show in town; my friend bought some tickets and invited me. This is more like a convention of older girls trying to reminisce on there youth. Forget Stevie Nicks, these girls were more interested in what’s in my pants. I have never sampled so much ****** like that night.

[Drakii]

>ok..lonely in Dallas.Ok there are diff churches it depends on
>which one you go and how you "carry" yourself there.I cannot
>stress enough how its is important to be dressed nicely.It
>gives you a certain glow,and can act as a gateway to people
>say hi...ok....I'm one of the few women who tell men as
>is..esp if you're dressed nicely.S'times I'm on a mission to
>raise spirits...
>
>on another note you could dress well but "sneak" out after
>church. Just get involved on the many things that go on...aiii
>si desperate times call for desperate measures.Go for those
>hikings and "singles nights etc....if that does not work-shoot
>yourself in the head and call yourself a recluse.There is no
>way you will be ignored by every soul.
>
>ok...may be b4 you shoot yourself..lol...are your standards
>above feasible level?Pengine you stds are waaaaaaay to high.

I think I penda this gal.... she always has some pretty gud advice... Lonely in Dallas, why don't you Pri her?

[justus]

.>I think I penda this gal.... she always has some pretty gud
>advice... Lonely in Dallas, why don't you Pri her?

please! good advice? yeah the first part maybe , but she sounds like someone with roho mbaya. why should someone tell me to go shoot myself just because I said that I want to get know more people in this town? seriously you tell me! anasound someone too full of herself.