Superman Complex

milanya · (#1 (**permalink**))

Disclaimer: this has nothing to do with supermann the mashadite.

My bf is great. You know what though, the biggest thing I've seen about many relationships is the thing that made peeps fall in love sooner becomes the thing that pisses you off. My pal had a bf who was so romantic, always wining and dining and buying gifts. They got married and now he still does it but she relaized just how much money he spends on it and that is now an issue. My cuzo her bf was a very hardworking guy at his jobbo and shule and that was so attractive to her. They got married but now she is pissed because he is a workaholic mpaka usiku wa manane in the family study while she sleeps alone.

For my bf, he is super helpful. He is always running around helping everyone and lending an ear, an arm, money whatever. He's such a giver. However, the longer we've been together it has to irritate me. Yaani he makes what are in my opinion unreasonable decisions so he can help others. e.g his pal asked him to take his place at a conference. He said yes and found out that he couldn';t be there. Indtead of calling up and telling his friend pole, he decides to be superman and go anyway. So he ended up losing a lot of $$$, references, his job just so he could help his pal out. His pal just wanted to go to a seminar, nothing mandatory and wouldn't have minded the cancellation. However, my bf would rather lose his job then cancel on him.

Then he volunteers to drive people places asubuhi na mapema mpaka he is too tired to go to class and hence there goes his grades. Just coz he doesn't wanna let them down. Everytime he sees anyone sad, he dont care if it is 3 a.m he will stop and talk to the person till they feel better and then be shindwad to amka the next day. I have told him he needs to be selfish sometimes, esp because half these people he is dropping his life for couldnt care less about him and even use him. Plus, he is letting his priorites go, but nooooo! superman to the rescue. I like to play psychologist somnetimes. where do u think this complex comes from? I believe he is overcompensating for something. do you have any past/present relationship things that attracted u at first but then put you off later?
Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

Wantai · (#2 (**permalink**))

"...maked peeps fall in love sooner becomes the thing that pisses you off."

Hey Milanya, umenoa hapo na "maked", hurry u still have time to edit!

lilfox12 · (#3 (**permalink**))

Milanya, if I got a dime for every time you mentioned your boyfie on Mashada, we would be able to send aid to hungry folks in Kenya!
Like Mzungu says, people here need to quit with their 'woie woie' threads!

crazy boo · (#4 (**permalink**))

>Milanya, if I got a dime for every time you mentioned your
>boyfie on Mashada, we would be able to send aid to hungry
>folks in Kenya!>
Like Mzungu says, people here need to quit with their 'woie
>woie' threads!

:D:D:D Aki lilfox you don't come "lightly"..lol..

Mzungu-Mweusi · (#5 (**permalink**))

>>Milanya, if I got a dime for every time you mentioned your
>>boyfie on Mashada, we would be able to send aid to hungry
>>folks in Kenya!>
>Like Mzungu says, people here need to quit with their 'woie
>>woie' threads!
>
>:D:D:D Aki lilfox you don't come "lightly"..lol..

Loool. Enyewe yeye sio chache.lol@lightly tehehe.

I like Milanya,but i think her boyie is bothering her sana. Mili,shida iko wapi??

Btw,what his name is? @this rate we should know him on a first name basis :)

milanya · (#6 (**permalink**))

wololo ebu I go edit that b4 I put my degree to shame!

milanya · (#7 (**permalink**))

>>>Milanya, if I got a dime for every time you mentioned your
>>>boyfie on Mashada, we would be able to send aid to hungry
>>>folks in Kenya!>
>>Like Mzungu says, people here need to quit with their 'woie
>>>woie' threads!
>>
>>:D:D:D Aki lilfox you don't come "lightly"..lol..
>
>
>Loool. Enyewe yeye sio chache.lol@lightly tehehe.
>
>I like Milanya,but i think her boyie is bothering her sana.
>Mili,shida iko wapi??
>
>Btw,what his name is? @this rate we should know him on a first
>name basis :)

Mzungu I would say the name but need to maintain plausible deniability. Maybe now I should post happy threads so u dont think I am so troubled. It is just more interesting to make drama posts. Or else I would make u sick with our lovey-dovey-ness.

Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

KEMINOKANA · (#8 (**permalink**))

That is irresponsibility. Period! Any man shouldering other people's responsibilities to an extent that they dont meet their own are irresponsible no matter how you package them in 'niceness, caring' and all that.

milanya · (#9 (**permalink**))

>That is irresponsibility. Period! Any man shouldering other
>people's responsibilities to an extent that they dont meet
>their own are irresponsible no matter how you package them in
>'niceness, caring' and all that.
nicely put!

smart boo · (#10 (**permalink**))

your boyfie must be damn . Why would he take someone else's part in a seminar just to lose his job? That is very irresposible . Responsibility and maturity starts from one self . As they say charity begins at home .