[milanya]

You are right chotadipo that I did not explain the consequences the woman faces as a result of her husband's workaholic-ness.
I just put that part in to describe how something that attracted you to a person at first can eventually put you off after you get to know them better and learn more. That is why at the end of my post I asked if anyone has had a problem where they were attracted by the surface appearance of things and then later on they learned what was below and it made them angry.

Like you I believe that my bf is trying to run away from or make up for something by playing superman. I don't believe he is running away from me, because I have made sure not to be neglected and he has tried not to neglect me.
I don't know what it is, but hopefully he or I can find out what exactly it is.
Or maybe like someone said, superman is his calling. He just needs to learn how to balance his hero duties and his life as well. I speak as a person whose mother learnt too late that she needed to look out for herself as well as other people. Sometimes we like to delude ourselves that we live in a wonderful world and we try to help people and sometimes allow ourselves to be doormats
Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe