[milanya]

Zamani I met this jamaa who was really nice and I was very attracted to him. I soon found out he had a girlfriend so I backed off cause I'm not one of those girls. We ended up working together and he became one of my best friends. I soon started dating this other guy and was so happy with him. Later the jamaa I'd liked before and his girlfriend split up and he was single for a long time. I was still with my man. One day that jamaa came up to me and told me he was in love with me. It got me all confused and I started thinking what if? Part of me didn't want him to ever find another girlfriend though I was not planning on leaving my man. Does the fact that he was able to stir up my emotions like that mean I was not over him, or that I was unhappy in my relationship and ignoring it or was it just nostalgia or plain normal? By the way - I never went out with the guy because he moved and we drifted apart. The jamaa I was dating and i went out for years then our relationship ended for other reasons
Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

[newedition]

RE: Does this mean it wasn't gone?

THIS ARE QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD SOLVE BY YOUR SELF AS YOU TAKE A BATH OR PEE....

IT MEANS YOURE JUST A CONFUSED GAL . NOTHING MORE NOTHIN LESS .

[Devine]

> THIS ARE QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD SOLVE BY YOUR SELF AS YOU TAKE
>A BATH OR PEE....

LOL.. Had to laugh despite myself.

Milanya, we all love the feeling we get when we know that s'one is crazy about us. Nothing wrong with that. You were in love with the feeling of being loved, not the person. You were also mature enough to respect your boundaries, that's classy, he probably loved you more for that.

[veritas]

I've dated many men, like many many many x100 or so. But, only 2 men have gotten to me. The heart is slow, moves slower than the brain. It's not often you fall in love. If you see him after all this time, and your heart still goes thumpety thump, than you still like him. But, I don't know how old you are, with age you have certain responsibilities, breaking up with your man because of him, it doesn't work like that. You need to be responsible in keeping the relationship, if you eventually break up, THEN he will be an option for you providing he is still single. You owe it to yourself and your current boyfriend to make it work. If he was really in love with you, he will wait for you.

[KEMINOKANA]

It is plain normal...at least from my point of view. I've seen most girls do that. It might also mean that u were not fully satisfied with ur relationship for one reason or another. Jealousy also plays a significant role. But if u still miss him and not the man u were with last, then ur definately not over him.

[Rumi]

like i always say, alway learn from other ppls mistakes not yours

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My dear heart, never think you are better than others.
Listen to their sorrows with compassion.
If you want peace, don't harbor bad thoughts, do not gossip and don't teach what you do not know.
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[chemical]

>Zamani I met this jamaa who was really nice and I was very
>attracted to him. I soon found out he had a girlfriend so I
>backed off cause I'm not one of those girls. We ended up
>working together and he became one of my best friends. I soon
>started dating this other guy and was so happy with him. Later
>the jamaa I'd liked before and his girlfriend split up and he
>was single for a long time. I was still with my man. One day
>that jamaa came up to me and told me he was in love with me.
>It got me all confused and I started thinking what if? Part
>of me didn't want him to ever find another girlfriend though I
>was not planning on leaving my man. Does the fact that he was
>able to stir up my emotions like that mean I was not over him,
>or that I was unhappy in my relationship and ignoring it or
>was it just nostalgia or plain normal? By the way - I never
>went out with the guy because he moved and we drifted apart.
>The jamaa I was dating and i went out for years then our
>relationship ended for other reasons
>Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

milanya...this is the chap for you...dont let him go..
reasons..you have much in common...the guy had a mama but he wanted you too...greed! now his mama is gone he has remembered you but you have a guy and you dont want him to move on...greed! at this point you can empathise with how he could have wanted you when he had a mama, cause now you want him and you have a chap...two peas in a pod!
milanya...this is the chap for you...dont let him go..