[ndune]

COPY AND PASTE from a diferent kenyan forum.


I am being squizzed out of my own flat

It all started the day after our first date. She left her pantie and bra in my flat. I thought that she had forgotten and rang to ask whether I should send them by DHL to London. Her reply was that it was no big deal and in any case she has plenty of them and as such I shouldn't waste my scarce benefits on such.

Ever since items of her clothing now dominantly occupy most of my wardrobes while my clothes hang by the insignicant hard-to-retrieve area of my wardrobe. This is just one of the areas that I am finding myself in deep reservation with my new found love. The other area of concern is the upkeep of the flat. Before I meet her, I used to take great care of keeping the place neat but with her recent occupation the place


looks like a hospital wing of some sort. It is so clean that I find myself taking my shoes off without being asked to do so. To my mind this level of cleanliness is not necessary and actually discourages people from visiting. I literally have no visitors these days as she has made matters so difficult for my friends, especially of the female gender.

One of my former girlfriends told me that the way she looks at them is worse than aiming a live ammunition at them.
I am also experiencing some difficulty in respect to the style of my clothing. She keeps pointing out that I am no longer a teenager and as such some of my clothing should go out the door. She has already given a few to charity and I keep wondering where this will stop. Whileas I have never had any problems giving to charity, I keep feeling that she is giving my best clothes away so that I do look as presentable as I should.

This is beside the fact that she keeps talking about how we are going to spend my money when I get a job. In my mind I keep wondering whether I am slowly but surely being colonised by my girlfriend and whether this is the time to show her the door like many others before her.

Sincere and honest advice welcomed.

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[milanya]

It is one thing to leave a bra or something small...but all that! ai!2 but then again the guy said he had to "dhl" her stuff to London which may mean she lives a considerable distance away. If she is a regularnight-spender at his house then I think if she lives far away she should be allowed to leave a few things over - not her entire life and change his home. Msichana wants to move in - that's what she wants.And the jamaa saw all these changes and he nyamazad au? If he did, shauri yake.she tested the waters and saw how far she could go. If he is so unhappy, he needs to lay down the law or move on to another relationship

[KEMINOKANA]

Kijana has been dating GIRLS and now he just met a WOMAN. From my view, she wants to take things over so that the two can settle as husband and wife....just as every woman does. Maybe he's not ready for this coz I dont see anything wrong with what she's done....altho it is too premature given they aint married.

[veritas]

Yeah I agree. Marry her or you're not ready so show her the door.