[luscious]

I need your opinions on this...So many times we break up but moving on becomes a b**** for many different reasons. It may not be because we don't want to but a certain fear of being hurt or just going through that traumatic breakup is an unbearable thought.
Many say that hooking up with a transitional guy, you know the one who is supposed to help you forget the ex, helps alot in rediscovering yourself.
Is this really true...anybody know anything from experience??????

[isso]

Most people don't call them transitional guys...they're just called rebound booty calls...

The thing is this....you need to decide what you want to do with regards to getting involved with someone else as a rebound....a lot of what you decide may depend on the reasons you're breaking up in the first case....The worst thing you can do for yourself tho' is get involved in a sexual relationship to prove a point to someone, even yourself....That's just a recipe for disaster.

Take your time and come to terms with what has happened. The most important thing is to be in control of what you want to do, whether its meeting new people and getting new experiences, or just getting laid until you can move on....

"But do I have to sout about it?"

[porojo]

you are not a decided individual. what you are trying to do is to break up just because you have heard people breaking up.you are tring to be like someone else.Please use your sences and setle down with that guy coz he loves you dearly.case closed.

[luscious]

sorry to dissapoint you, porojo but its people like you who make me ill. why don't you read the damn thread and understand it before you brand me senseless and gullible. if you don't have an opinion on the topic, nobody's going to put you in lock up!!!! geez!

[pipitp]

lets just say that its impossible for one person to make you forget the other ... only the experience you have with the second person can make you heal and move on.

It also depends on how you get this transitional guy .. if he had a chic then you cause them to split up or just make him a consolation instrument then you'll be opening fire .. if he was your ex's buddy then just forget otherwise if its a kawa person he can help you move on and even make you happier no matter how soon you get involved after the break up.

[Rani]

Isso, reading your posts wouldn't tell anyone if ya are a he or a she. There is another sensitive side of yours that chucks, and makes you sound like a she (and I did not for one moment say that "hes" cannot be sensitive). And of coz other times you come out in the open as a he (giving a male point of view). You are one guy whom I have lots of respect for.

What was the subject herE? Sorry I got carried away

[Rani]

Oh, the subject was rebounds. They do help a lot, and sometimes one may fall for the rebound partner, which is OK, seeing as though you already broke up with the first partner anyway.

[isso]

@Rani...

Thanks for the compliment....For the record, I am a fully warm blooded male.

"But do I have to sout about it?"

[Kamami]

My advice is stay away from the opposite sex that entices you.
Learn to love yourself again, hang out with close buddies (if you have none start searching).
Go to get together, buy a new outfit and spiff yourself up.
Read books, buy new music; change your whole wardrobe.
Revive yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally so when you step back into the game you are immune to pain coz you love yourself first and that will exude from you and attract enough of the opposite sex for you to be picky.

[pussycat]

after a break up getting to rebuilt yourself is the most important thing. your self esteem has been crashed and jumping in the sack with someone else for the sake of it could leave you depressed.

Like Kamami said, take care of yourself. Sex is secondary to your health, self-esteem etc.


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