[mtotozuri]

Tell me if this ain't some ####. A friend of mine was going into a relationship with this guy but he gave her a condition before they acrually became boyfriend and girlfriend. She had to drop her best friend because he was a male and they had been intimate in their past. Would you enter into a relationship with someone presenting you with an ultimatum from the get go? Since she refused to do this does this make her selfish?

[Labell]

>>>Since she refused to do this does this make her selfish? <<<

NAHHH!!!SHE IS CONFUSED.

[Dem Gal]

@ mtotomzuri,
Think about it this way. Would this friend of yours be okay if her boyfriend kept his former girlfriend/lover as his best friend? If she is aight with that idea then I guess the boyfriend is being unfair. If she can not stand it (which is most likely), then she should understand his current predicament.

[Sweet9]

"She had to drop her best friend because he was a male and they had been intimate in their past." For this reason I see where the boyfriend is coming from. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to facilitate a nurturing relationship. Maybe the boyfriend forsees the possibility of more intimacy between the two somewhere down the line, So what's the big deal anyway, loose the friend - nicely.

Keeping it real ma peoples, keeping it real!

[kina]

I don't think she is selfish. The guy should have trusted her enough to keep her friends. I think she stood her ground instead of some nut dictating her life. Relationships come and go, one falls in love, gets hurt and learns to do it all over again. It takes alot to trust someone to be your true friend.

[Mugger T]

>Tell me if this ain't some ####. A friend of mine was going
>into a relationship with this guy but he gave her a condition
>before they acrually became boyfriend and girlfriend. She had
>to drop her best friend because he was a male and they had
>been intimate in their past. Would you enter into a
>relationship with someone presenting you with an ultimatum
>from the get go? Since she refused to do this does this make
>her selfish?


Finally......something I really think makes a whole lot of sense.
Why would the girl insist on keeping the ex as a best friend & still want to maintain that she knows nothing will happen? The dundest of things girls ever come up with. Unless of course she was booted by the dude & still has s'thing 4 him, then the dude offers friendship in turn (like they normally do....we'll be the best of friends!...) & the chille thinks of it as another opportunity. FINAL>

[slaggard]

if this chic is seriously thinkin of a relationship with this guy...she ought to ensure that its well secure. she shouldnt leave any fear, doubt or insecurity in tha guy.
surely the chic and the ex clicked and got intimate becoz of a reason...that reason still exists and guess wat.....one of them is lookin at friendship as a second chance to recapture what was lost. i think this gal needs to sit down with the ex and talk openly of what they feel for each other(honestly).......I ASSUME SHE IS STILL IN LOVE......love is endless and will blossom with time and chances

[nyawera_1]

I'm glad she kicked the insecure bastard to the curb! what would have been next....lose all her male childhood friends? anybody she ever kissed? held hands with? ***ked?
How can he ask her to change her life without any guarantee of what the future holds. Kumbaff! atleast she was honest enough to tell him about it. I'm sick and tired of all these "Men" walking around with fragile egos.

[Labell]

>>>I'm glad she kicked the insecure bastard to the curb! what would have been next....lose all her male childhood friends? anybody she ever kissed? held hands with? ***ked?
How can he ask her to change her life without any guarantee of what the future holds. Kumbaff! atleast she was honest enough to tell him about it. I'm sick and tired of all these "Men" walking around with fragile egos<<<<

@NYAWERA1.
REVERSE THE ALL WHOLE COURSE AROUND AND PICTURE IT AS IF IT WERE YOU.MOST OF THE GALS NEEDS TO MUCH OF UNDIVIDED ATTENTION AND IN MOST CASES THEY WONT LET YOU TALK TO YOUR EXS LEAVE ALONE GAL-COUSINS.THE INSECURITY IS COMMON IN BOTH SEXES AND NEITHER ONE IS PERFECT.THE BOTTOM LINE IS HOW MUCH OF IT CAN ONE WITHSTAND.

[hieroglyphics]

>I'm glad she kicked the insecure bastard to the curb! what
>would have been next....lose all her male childhood friends?
>anybody she ever kissed? held hands with? ***ked?
>How can he ask her to change her life without any guarantee of
>what the future holds. Kumbaff! atleast she was honest enough
>to tell him about it. I'm sick and tired of all these "Men"
>walking around with fragile egos.
>
>
nyawera's bashing men again with her ussual rhetoric. theres nothing wrong telling a chic to chose sides, i'd do the same, i'd str8 tell her to choose between me and her friends, its perfectly right it not being insecure ok.