[y5next]

>@isso..34 is not my age. Infact i'm about 12 years younger!


Then you have no business worrying yourself about what others think of you. You should be on a relentless mission to nail every guy that takes your fancy, no strings attached. Think of it as a sport.


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[isso]

Hey Pam...

Playing hard to get is somewhat a relative thing depending on an individual. I could refuse to use nothing of a lesser quality than Susana Pomade, and if the dude can't finance that, it may be seen as you playing hard to get....on the other hand, you could be a cock teaser that just rogers on a jamaa and when it comes to time to unleash goods, you show him the taxi rank...I don't know, pick anything in between the two...Playing hard to get is hard to define...Case in point, some babes won't go out with a jamaa coz' he ain't driving....Some may consider that playing hard to get, but I look at it like its a babe with real issues that need to be sorted out, coz' I don't see her heckling when she has to take the number 29 bus daily....

As for your age, pole....I was shooting in the dark...I had to use my fingers and toes to figure that math of 34 sijui minus 12...but I'm comfortable now.

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[Dearly]

Pam, you shouldnt care about what other people think of you.. i think you are being very realistic... theres nothing wrong with waiting until meeting the right person.. that is the right thing to do. Self esteem shouldnt go up or down whether u have a man or not, self esteem is all about what u think of yourself, not what other people think of you...

[Jnderitu]

Disclaimer: The author is no expert on the subject.

There is no perfection 'msichana'. I think its going to be a long wait and at the end of the day the perfection will still be missing. Its your choice on who you date so you might igonore friends;but they might have a varied point when they pressurise you.
Anyway as Isso said, you are young so enjoy life.
I just celebrated my birthday today(20-24 category) and i felt my knees creak and for a moment i thought arthritis had set in. So don't make the wait long :). Try and apply realism to the situation and what you want will be achievable.

Thanks.

[dudette]

Ati without a jamaa...herro naw...thats a like wheelbarrow with one wheel..like izzydumpshytt with a brain, like Al Gore being from the Bronx, like Beethoven playing kill that nigga...like..like..impossible?



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[Sweet9]

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Keeping it real ma peoples, keeping it real!

[brickhse]

@Pam...Theres a trend that is common back home where women feel that they need a man on their side to feel complete...now this does not apply to all Kenyan women , I know alot of women that are making it on their own.The only thing that you need to know Pam is that being alone does not mean you have to be lonely and at the same time, balance your life with single as well as married women, that way you can get a clear picture of the good and bad side of both and then as you said, with a clear mind, you can choose a mate for yourself...


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[K Matiba]

@Pam...

Word gal. I know what u mean about peer pressure and sometimes it even kujas from paros...especially to chics. First and foremost Pam, never forget that it's always better to be alone and happy than with someone if you're not happy. So pliz, pliz gal u don't wanna get with a guy just 4 the sake of having a boyfriend. Your friends should just mind their own business. Futhermore you're only 22! So take ya time babygal... and the right jamaa will come along.

About the "playing hard 2 get" thing, I think most of us guys respect a gal who plays hard. If a gal gives up too easy ama too fast, we tend to think that she's like that with everyone...even though it may not be true. So play hard. If a jamaa wants u badly enough, trust me...he'll persue u and he'll slow down if u insist on it. You're worth it.

[O_D_D]

Pam, there is nothing unrealistic here. Tafuta the best out there coz I also wouldn't want to be next to a brainless jigger infested toad for a chic.

[pam34]

@ Lauri..all i meant about the association between having a man and self esteem is this,... some chicks just wonna be seen with a good looking man or whatever just to feel good about it. Personally, i think this is stupid.