[Mswahili]

Dock pole sana.

Life goes on and I know its hard at first but take it a day at a time. You know first you have to stop and think about the relationship you had penda usipende. Think about what could have gone wrong and what did or did not happen. From there acknowledge the mistakes and then you know what not ot do and what to do in the next relationship. Secondly take time and deal with yourself. Alot of us fail to realise that when we jump from one relationship to the next we carry alot of excess baggage with us and hence we repeat the cycle from the previous relationship and take on each others baggae.
Dock I would suggest that you try to find out why you are attracted to mama whoever ( your ex) and what it is that you failed to reconginize from the beginning. Am not saying the relationship was your fault but am just saying that once you establish what it is that took you there is the first place could be the same thing that you need to avoid in your next relationship. Dock after doing bootlegg psychology, we are taught that most of us react to situations based from our experiences in our childhood and at the same time we get attracted to characters that carry out some personalities we hate. ( strange huh?) Anyway Dock if it helps get into a room alone and imagine that you are talking to "whore tendencies" ( she was on K street) let it out, let the imaginary person know how you feel, shout if you have to but let it all out. This is the first step you need to take before going on. After that dont turn your situation into a grievance story ( which you already have from the post) where you want sympathy and act like the victim . You are a victim by choice. Accept that is happened and nothing at this point could have change that but be thankful if did not happen later on when other elements such as marriage would have been involved. Learn from it and next time when you date a girl first and foremost make sure she is not in the three catergories listed.
1. One with whore tendencies bila whore activites ( a flirt who just sponges on any teenie and looks at the with glowing eyes but does not sleep with them)
2. Whore activities without whore tendencies ( I believe your ex was in this catergory, one who looks inoccent and quiet but is all over the place catching jamaas seeing as to how shocked the two of you were)
3. One with both whore activities and tendencies ( straight up langa )

Be careful out there and avoid getting caught up in a fantasy and dont look for a woman that was like you ex in any form or character.

You will be alright and if all else fails beat the crap out of her. :) Dock once you understand and let go of a few things you will be able to fall in love again but do it when you feel ready for it.

[Nyako ber]

Time heals wounds so painful. We have all been there. :) Pole for your pain. :) Keep playing the piano, I find that it's isolating and it helps transcend peace. :) Remember five years from now you'll look at this day and laugh in hysteria at how taken you were by this Jezebel. :)

[evekiki]

@Dock trust me u will!!!

[muombaji]

how many brothers $ sistas have gone through this...so many...and life goes on....

[masaa_always]

Pole sana Dock.

You know what Dock!!! You should take this experience positively, you are far much better than those who have not felt this pain, because this experience sharpens your understanding & broadens your reasoning as far as love is concerned. You have to feel this pain otherwise one day it will explode. Do not suppress or repress it inside, feel it! Do not bury your head in the sand. You have to be mature enough to take consequences for your actions, pay the price for not taking precaution when goofing around with this chic. Do not blame the chic on the other hand, she has her life to live, you have yours, everyone has a freedom to CHOOSE.

Many people confuse love with emotional dependency. One can dislike someone and still want to be with him/her. One can place undue pressure on a loved one for his or her own personal emotional gain. Co-dependency in a relationship can be a major obstacle. Being dependent on your beloved for your own sense of self-worth and happiness places undue pressure on the one who loves you most. Resolving these issues will go a long way in assuring you and your beloved that undue pressure upon him/her will no longer be an issue. To ignore co-dependency tendencies may indicate that you are not willing to deal with those things that very well might prove to be the seeds of destruction in your love relationship. On the other hand, facing these same problems can bring personal healing and further closeness between you and your future mate. The best gift that you can present your future beloved is a whole being who is not fettered by a need to be too dependent on him/her. Take time to investigate those resources that can best meet your need for more understanding and insights regarding this important issue. Dock, if you were not too much emotionally dependent on this chic, this pain will go away with time. Take time to read about Co-dependency in relationships. Remember, you have to feel this pain otherwise you will be asking for trouble.
Ask yourself this, do you feel like going back to this lady? When that feeling comes along, remind yourself what pain this lady can cause you. Make choices. Go back to this lady and you will anguish in a lot of pain. Feel the pain and accept it in your heart that it was a painful passing cloud that was meant to serve as an eye opener and you will be at peace with yourself and learn from the experience.

[menace]

Rule #1:
when u start dating or find that someones attractive to you... DO
NOT dive in with emotions first!~!
the minute u attach urself-and the other person sees
it,it immediately shifts the energy making u the b*tch!
in simple terms u freak them out.

Rule #2:
project an image of "liking" the person, caring,
this way even if u do find out shes a hoe u can bail
out...SAFELY!

*listen and learn next it could be your turn...*

[the pleasure is mine]

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
- Unknown

You gotta dance like nobody's watching, dream like you will live forever, live like your going to die tomorrow and love like it's never going to hurt -- Meme Grifsters

Buddy,don't give up!

[dr evil]

well.hell nigger stay black. hate the game not the player. coz pac said he just need to be a nigga and be mob. money over bcheesss. love is a feling and felling can go. the only ploblem is that those fellings are tied up with the brain which cant go. so learn to find new azz alllthe time. and God gave diffrent clours to choce from. but i.m clolour blind in this game. no remose, no gulit but i,m not gonaaa cry ati coz felling are not there no more. i will make new felling somewhere else but guess wat. if i need hlep from a hoe then i will go get it evn. pretend if i had too. so dont get stuck we left love back home this is hell out here. iknow guys who would take your gal right infront of your eyes and ask you wat you wanna do? so if you gal dont love you that much she will go. and you will end up ending your life for nonsense.i hear you bro play on play on.

[melissa1973]

>It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to
>like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a
>lifetime to forget someone.
>- Unknown
>
>You gotta dance like nobody's watching, dream like you will
>live forever, live like your going to die tomorrow and love
>like it's never going to hurt -- Meme Grifsters
>
>Buddy,don't give up!

These quotes are so right..but so hard to fellow. I have been hurt before because I lost someone I cared for.. but it's not the end of the world.. Today I think there is no such thing as love.. you may like someone, appreciate someone... but love make us blind.. and we see what we want to see... I wonder when someone is truly in love, if he likes the other person or if it's just that he likes or loves the way he sees that other person through love.

[vase]

hey imagine to begin with if u loved someone and they didnt love
u bk,or yet they know how u feel but they still didnt respond to that
it hurts bro. but thank god for time.