Relationship issues

melissa1973 · (#1 (**permalink**))

Give your opinions about the following. I have had this questions in my mind for a bit of time and was wondering what you guys think about this.

1. Is there really a possibility of true friendship between guys and girls? I mean here no flirting and no sex involved but still true friends.

2. Why is that most men are rarely satisfied when they have only one girl in their life. Why is that they need a multiplying factor. Does this mean they are by nature polygamist or they need to vary experience to enjoy life.

3. This brings me to the last points for ladies and how willing they are to know they are sharing their partners.

I believe true friendship between girls and guys are rare to find. In many cases after a while confusion arises. As far as the polygamist aspect of man is concern I would say that my question arose from situations I have seen around me. It is certainly not meant to say all men are that way but most are.

Mshindi · (#2 (**permalink**))

Melissa,

This is a healthy topic that you have brought up. I hope people can express their views on this.
This is my response:
1. Yes people of opposite sexes can be friends with no sex involved. My best friend here in North America is a very pretty girl that draws instant attention from men. We do not have a sexual relationship but do many things together. I don't try to put her in a position where she could be compromised by giving suggestive hints etc. I guess you would say it has more to do with your level of maturity and responsibility for the things you do. For instance you don't wanna start up an "instant coffee" like relationship that will hurt others. It is also accepting to be led by the mind rather than the flesh.

2. AS for your second question it is a challenging one. However, in my opinion I think that most men can be trusted especially if they get the right attention from ladies. But if a man regards a lady as a fortune hunter then that man is not obligated to be loyal. Do you understand what I mean?

Nyako ber · (#3 (**permalink**))

@Mshindi:

As usual very good response!! Now if only men were truly like that.... it would surely be a breath of fresh air. Secondly the divorce rates would be halved. You are obviously one of the rare ones that can remain disciplined but unfortunately this is not the norm. Keep up the good work!

Mshindi · (#4 (**permalink**))

Nyako,
I was simply expressing my view. But thanks anyway for the compliment.

Msoto · (#5 (**permalink**))

Not that I am ingnoring the wealth of information nyako....but u have forgetten that most WOMEN do not make it easy for the MEN to have this platonic relationships.

Friendship like relationship is based on the level of maturity of both participants. Not only the Man. In addition to this....it seems like a paradox restraining from the pleasures from the flesh and seeking those of the mind.

My view...is such a relationship of true friendship between a Man and Woman not based on Sex, is not possible and not pragmatic in the society we live in.

melissa1973 · (#6 (**permalink**))

I would say that I agree pretty much with Msoto, since I have not encountered many guy/girl relationships based on true friendship. Moreover I would say that in a few cases they do exists, but I have only seen cases where sex was involved once in a while. Referring to what you said "most WOMEN do not make it easy for the MEN to have this platonic relationships.” I have to admit that I disagree with your statement. In many cases, you MEN are the ones who make it hard to have a platonic relationship.

O_D_D · (#7 (**permalink**))

I have to admit
>that I disagree with your statement. In
>many cases, you MEN are the ones who
>make it hard to have a platonic
>relationship.

And how exactly do we do that? It can be either... if you asked me.

Dearly · (#8 (**permalink**))

1. Is there really a possibility of true friendship between guys and girls? I mean here no flirting and no sex involved but still true friends.

Yes i think thats very possible, my best friend is a guy and hes the best friend ive ever had in my life.. it works out so well... i think friendships like this work out really good so long as you are not in a position where you could take it to the next level coz once you make it sexual, u kill the friendship coz you dont look at each other the same way again.. If you both have respect betw each other and know the boundaries... that its friendship and thats it, it will always work out for the best.

2. Why is that most men are rarely satisfied when they have only one girl in their life. Why is that they need a multiplying factor. Does this mean they are by nature polygamist or they need to vary experience to enjoy life.

I believe that most men know in their conscience that when they do this its not right to their galfriend but why they do it ill nver know... maybe its to have somthing different im not sure.. i once asked a friend of mine why men cheat and the answer he gave me was.... some pple cant help themselves esp if they find in the other woman something that they cant find in their current girlfriend.

3. This brings me to the last points for ladies and how willing they are to know they are sharing their partners.

Yes im very willing to know if im sharing my partner becoz if i am hes disrespecting me and doesnt deserve to be with me... why be with a person who cheats on you? For me after that trust is broken and there aint no point being with a guy like that if he cant have at least the courtesy to break it off with me and go to the other person if need be. Being with two pple at the same time is just too wrong... id nvr accept that in my relationship.

hottie_gal · (#9 (**permalink**))

thankx god finnally i found a forum which
has mature and serious ppl unlike the rest
of 'em! thanx to u mellisa nice topic :) :).
to the ques' i do agree with @dearlly
and i think i dont need to repeat it coz
she said it all.
..yeah thats right!!

memyselfandI · (#10 (**permalink**))

HE HE HE HE HE HE! :D :7

Mshindi, tell the truth!;)

She is your platonic friend and you keep it that way only becoz you do not want to mess up,you like having her around too much,sio?

If you thought you had a chance to hit you would have done so kitambo!

Speaking for myself I will be more truthfull than these suck ups!

Msoto has it right about the maturity issue!

You want to be my friend? then forget about your damned looks,sexuality and attractiveness and we just might get it on.

But as long as you need validation from every man I will be glad to provide it in the only way you seem to understand it!

....now turn over so that I can hit it again!

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