[lans_1]

Signs of a bad relationship include jealousy or possessiveness, feeling bad about yourself, criticism or being picked on. In a bad relationship, your boyfriend often ignores or interrupts you. You don't trust your boyfriend and he may try to control you. He may even pressure you into staying in the relationship. He could be violent or frequently display anger. He may show contempt towards women such as calling them "#####" or saying things like "they should stay at home." He may be nice to you when you're alone but a jerk when his friends are around. If he forces you to have sex, get out of the relationship at the very least, a guy who drinks too much or who likes to get stoned on drugs... get away.

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[Lolly]

Thats so true lakini i'm wondering....why would a jamaa act like that towards u and still want you to be with him??

[isso]

@Lans_1...Nice piece of writing, I'm sure it was well thought out and written from deep within.

the thing is this though...I could have almost taken you seriously were it not for the blatent bias and one sidedness of your post. It kinda brings out an arguement as to whether you're just pissed at your boyfriend or last couple of boyfriends, or whether you're providing an objective opinion. Somehow I think its safe to say that for the amount of grief given to females, I'm sure they can unleash their own drama on men, so lets be fair and stop the bias when talking about signs that make relationships go pear shaped.

"For 2 long years, I thought I was the best lover in the world...Until I found out my girlfriend has asthma!"

[Esmeralda]

For a relationship to go that bad, there should be two willing participants. Ladies complain of bad relationships but in most cases they are the ones that encourage them. Some ladies think that they should be submissive to their partners and if a man realises that he can do anything to you and you don't mind, he will keep on doing it. So, stop it the first time he gets angry at you, shows signs of jelous and possessiveness, shouts at you and God forbid, hits you. If you don't stop him at the beginning, he will think it is ok.

Some ladies have witnessed their mothers or close female relatives being ill-treated by their husbands and think that this is the way it should be, well, it is not.

Sometimes some ladies may be too dependent on a man that they will take all the ill-treatment because they think they have no choice. They should leave such a man and stay on their own even if at first it may be hard.

It is better to be alone than with someone that does not respect or love you.

[slaggard]

total bull......u really need a reality check mister. some of the things u mentioned happen to happily dating/married people coz its part of the mix. what do u expect, to date an angel? ooh puliz u politicall incorrect mufackas talking crap like oprah. u make me sic to the bone. how do people define how others should relate? people stay in a relationship because they want to, and it works for them. u dont necessarily have to be happy all the tyme, but hey we all got biff once in a while. when i look at what u define as a good relationship i say gee, this guy must be dating a baby. the truth is, heartaches and jeorpady in a relationship keep the flava. some peeps just expect too much from others...grow up

[Ian]

When you start asking yourself whether its a good relationship or not, chances are its not.

" That's my story and I am sticking to it"

[Investment]

Slaggard...gee u must be one bad guy!.Are u abusive by any chance?

[O_D_D]

Slag, Iko nini??. You make it sound like there's gots to be drama for a good relationship. But hey, I agree with you, things are never perfect. It's how we deal with the situations that arise. Some walk away while others beat the shyt out of each other.....choices ....choices....choices

[kenyanqueen]

kqueen

true there has got to be drama in a relationship BUT the kinda drama we are talking about here is not healthy the way i see correct me if i am wrong a man will treat you the way you let him .a woman has got to be in control otherwise the relationship is as good as DEAD.

[NASTY]

HE JACKS OFF IN BED.... WHEN SHE'S NEXT TO HIM READING A BOOK!