This is a question to most Kenyan men out there....
Why is it that men feel they can control what their g/friends do and where they go????
I know this babe who's man has to know all her moves or else...... and if so much as one minute is unaccounted for she in the firing line. He doesn't even like her going out without him. I've known him to once going to her jobo just to make sure she was working. Basically he has to know exactly what she is doing and where she is going and if he doesn't like it, she ain't going and she ain't doing it.
Yet he goes out when he feels like..(solo) and when asked where he is going, she gets the basic line, 'out with my mates' and that is all she ever gets.
Not all men are the same maybe your buddy just happened to be dating the wrong men who feel that a chic is your own property, which is very stupid and very wrong.In my case if its a date with my chic i request her in good time so that i dont inconvinience her and if she agrees or doesnt i have to understand.In the case of tracing her every move that childish she is a grownup, if she wants to mess around thats her own problem as long as she doesn't bring AIDS into my house.
thats true i agree with you..martma...mystique your chic is with the wrong guy........tell her to watch Jlo's new movie called enough and she might get one or two tips on how to deal with obsessive men.....
the quality of being overtly obssessive is just a symptom of insecurity.......now i am not speaking from a moral high ground here for i too have my own insecurities.......but some men are more insecure than they let on.......so this guy doesnt have enough confidence in himself to imagine that his chic wont leave him even if he stays just as he is......he imagines constantly that there is a better man than him out there just waiting to snatch his chic away......so the problem is with him......and the chille is training him to keep treating her that way......she should tell him to CUT THE CRAP or shell be outta there.... you can advise her to do so since you are her friend......she could also be suffering from insecurity because how come she hasnt left him?? that means she also for some reason she imagines that he is the only one who will like her and there is no hope of finding someone else...
while were on the subject lets talk about controlling women....YES THEY ARE OUT THERE dont act so shocked i am living with one right now....i didnt realise she was controlling untill she told me and it all made sense when i remembered some of the stuff she says and does.... controlling women are worse than controlling men coz they do it subtly and less obviously so you dont realise....they use psychology and sex coz they know a mans weakness is a woman....so fellaz be ware....the one thing that can destroy an african man is a woman ...not even a car crash or a disease or whateva....just a woman is all it takes so guys jichungeni...maybe i sound too paranoid coz i am fresh from my own experience but i am all the more wiser now and better able to detect such women next time...
and martma what do you mean that it is not your problem whether she does what as long as she doenst bring you HIV ???? unless you guys dont have sex regularly then that makes sense but if you do then you should be FREAKING OUT at the possibility tha your partner is bringing AIDS to the house.....
I agree that controlling people have issues about insecurity. They feel the need to cling to this person obsessively because of the fear of losing them. Unfortunately, this clinging usually accomplishes the exact opposite of what it's meant to because it pushes people away. But if this girl stays with this man who refuses to change this controlling thing, I can't say I feel too bad for her. If she sees things are not getting any better despite trying everything, she has a choice to leave before it's too late.
true that. But I also think chiks le the men controll them! If you let him do it once he'll do it again. The first time the guy tries to control you...stop him! thats what I do...I tell him I value my freedom and it's either he accepts that or BOUNCE!
It always works, ofcourse he'll never accept to bounce!
there is this saying 'give them án inch and they go a mile'.It is time she did the right thing and leave him. I dont think he is worth her time or whatever else she's got to offer.
To hell with controllin men....losers!. Tho' there r controllin chics too but not as many as men!. First of all why should one let the other control him/her? kila mtu has his/her life.I gotta do wat i gotta do, if not then too bad,u can go to hell, bye, chapter closed!:-( :-(
>Women have to be controlled.Bottom line
>is we pay for them ( bride price) thats
>makes them without question our
>property.From the day they leave the
>fathers house and enter there husbands
>home women are deprived of all rights
>and are solely to please the husband and
>bare / rare children.Please confirm with
>john:12:6.I hope i have answered your
>question.
BS...
the way I see it, it's a two way street. Besides, it must be a big ass gun this guy's putting to her head for her to stay in this relationship. You don't hold a thorn in your hand, squeeze it and complain that it's hurting you.
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05-26-2002, 05:18 AM
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