[nandi]

ok
i have a chic and she totally like trusts me.
every weekend i usually play her like a probo and she gets to hear gossips about my escapades but when she confronts me i lie to her in the most amazing manner.
do you think shes just dumb ma what is happennin?

[xplaya8]

u continue doing ur thing,.....but!!!


I'll tell u a thing or 2 based on xperience!,....u can only get so far b4 it occurs 2 U that that is a human being with feelings just like urself that u r messing with and sooner or later u willpay 4 what u r doing!!

U may think I'm just saying this 'coz of ........whatever but 4 real!!!! take heed!!!

That is a very very short road u r treading!...and the payback is PAINFUL INDEED!!!!!

[Papa_Lefty]

HOW TO BE A LIAR!!Avoid lying to people who know your "baseline behavior"

Many years of research have proven one thing: it's incredibly difficult to know if someone is lying unless you have prior exposure to his or her baseline behavior. What is a baseline? It's the back of the box on a tennis court. What is baseline behavior? It is how you act when you're not lying. You know, the way you normally act, the way you talk and behave when you're having a casual conversation in which no attempt at deception is taking place.

The greater the number of interactions that the target of the lie (we'll use a "he" in this example) has had with you, the more familiar he will be with your baseline behavior. Because he knows how you usually act, he'll press you on the veracity of your statements, and be more likely ultimately to figure out that you lied. This is why the old maxim: "a liar never looks you straight in the eye" is bull. If the person doesn't usually look people in the eye as part of his normal non-lying behavior, he very may well look you in the eye when he IS lying. (This would be a change from his baseline behavior.) Lots of other little clues that all of the fogies down at Shady Pines have provided (e.g., liars talk fast, their eyes dart around, or clear their throats a lot) are also pretty much useless for this reason; if the old folks really knew how to spot a liar, they wouldn't get ripped off in those crazy phone scams all the time. It doesn't matter what someone does when (s)he lies, it only matters if such behavior is different from how she or he normally acts.

It's easier to lie to people you don't care about

There is another important justification for having as little contact with the target as possible: it is easier to lie to people about whom you don't give a damn. To understand why, consider this: many studies have shown that it's relatively easy to lie to someone over the phone because the sense of personal connection is very small. You can't see them; they can't see you. As a result, you are less likely to feel guilty and, therefore, give visual clues that you may be deviating from your baseline behavior. If you were closer to the person physically, you would have a greater personal connection. Consequently, you would be more likely to "leak" (reveal in some way that you are engaging in deceptive behavior).

The same reasoning applies to being close to a person psychologically. Think about it. If you try to lie to your girlfriend or boyfriend, there are numerous psychological pressures (you'll think about what happens if you get caught, feel guilty about lying to someone you care about, etc.), and it will be more difficult to focus on mimicking your baseline behavior. Trust us; you'll probably leak all over the place (in all senses of the word). This phenomenon is often called "liar's remorse," and it's usually what people are talking about when they say a liar "wanted to get caught."

So how does knowing this aid your ability to lie well? The answer is this: if you're going to lie, try to lie to someone who doesn't know you very well. They will be less familiar with your baseline behavior, and you will be less like to care about them. In the event that you need to lie to a close friend, family member, or other loved one, try this trick: lie to someone who doesn't know you as well, and have them pass the message along.

[APPLE]

Yo! Nandi Man,

I think you are the dumb.






"Ogopa Mungu"

[zimmy]

Papa_L for your info, this baseline thingi of yours just don't work at all and what i'd call it is a theory that merely xists on paper. Look around you and you'll see a whole lot of pple who cheat on their wives/husbands/b.friends/g.friends without the other detecting a thing. now this are pple who you've spent a better part of your life with and if your theory works fine they should be having your baseline on their fingertips, yet they don't. why ?? i think it's because of trust. i don't need any reason to doubt what someone i trust tells me..... not unless it's too farfetched.

[Omosh]

Mr. Nandi,
Well Well Well.....have you ever heard of the saying, "Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you?". When you are out there feeling sly, I can assure you there is another jamaa kamataring your chic vibaya sana. So, when you get home and start unleashing your "Smooth lies", she is just wondering how dumb you are. One of these days you will get home and be "pleasantly" surprised. I guess what I am trying to say is that you are basically lying to yourself. Keep this in mind the next time you are out on one of your escapades.

[Lady P]

First of all, Papa L's theory is correct. Zimmy, the thing you are forgetting is that the people being lied to arent going to think they are being lied to. They are in denial. After awhile things come to light for them and then they realize when it all started and such.

Nandi...this is whats going to happen to you. It may not happen with this chic...but its bound to happen. You are playing this chille now...she may know it and not care or she may be naive and not know. Either way, in the future, you are going to fall in love with a chic...and you are going to get played. You will be furious and angry and wonder HOW you...YOU, the one who is supposed to be the player, could get hurt like that. So, chill on the lies and isht you got going now. Its a benefit to yourself, if not others. And besides, lying is a sin.

[zimmy]

Lady P just how is it possible for someone to be in denial for something they even don't know. like me to be in denial over my g.friend cheating on me yet i don't know or suspect a thing.

[MsJackson]

Nandi!
Something is in store for you! I smell it!

...and you ought to be ashamed of yourself! :(

[Machua]

Ati you are playing your chile????

Let me tell you, no human being is dumb without feeling...LadyP is right...they may be in denial meaning there are clues but they are not looking yet...but one day they will.

I had a friend like you who used to play his chick all the time...he was a Maragoli guy and the chile knowing that the guy hated to know his chile was with a Luo, she slept with one, came home admitted to it and went back for more...It took a week to convinve this guy not to commit suicide (which I was tempted to to let him do, no time for dawgs)...So chunga...labda your chile amepata dereva aendeshaye vema...