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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 12:16 PM

Dush:
make youself look good, groom yourself and buy yourself nice clothes and nice things. learn how to talk to people, learn to socialize. find a hobby something you engoy doing.
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 12:51 PM

>dush,
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>You came to Safari that saturday when
>the mashadites were there, yet u chose
>to remain anonymous. why?

Because I do not want anyone pointing fingers at me. I said hi to you and as I said before I use this web site to say things I would not normally say to anyone face to face.

>Then you decide that nobody wants to
>meet you?

Too many curious people out there who want to just know who I am period.

>I can not claim to know what you are
>going through. I have no idea. I can say
>this, if you make the choice to distance
>yourself do not be suprised if people do
>the same.

On the contrary I do not distance myself. I am very friendly and accepting. On Saturday a friend of mine refused to touch me - my friend. Who are you a stranger to treat me better if I tell you?

>I was willing to meet each and every
>mashadite that turned up that day, not
>for any particular reason but just to
>say hi and get to talk to them. I went
>there with no expectations and if you
>had come up and said hi my name is dush
>I would have responded likewise.

I did say hi, I did not say I am dush but I was right there. I was debating weather to say that I was there then I thought oh well, no harm.

>Certainly not everyone will treat you
>well, you probably have and will
>continue to face discrimination, but do
>not use that as an excuse to
>discriminate against those of us who are
>HIV negative. Not all of us will hate
>you, some of us have the ability to see
>beyond your status. You need to meet
>people halfway.

I do meet people halfway. I told a friend in confidence about my situation and she told other people. Now all I get are phone calls and emails about my status. People do not want to touch me and even talk to me. How sure am I that you won't feel self righteous and want to "save" others from me. I do reach out, I do not discriminate against HIV negative people, I just want them to know how lucky they are and not to be scared of HIV positive people.

>I was shocked to hear that you turned up
>and chose to 'ignore' the mashadites who
>were there. I thought it was rude. You
>had your reasons but please do not try
>to second guess people's reactions.

Ignore? Do you really want to know who I am? I mingled and danced with you. Just because I did not say I am dush does not mean I did not hang out with you all.
My apologies if I was supposed to introduce myself but I felt that we would have more fun if you did not know. I'd rather not know your reaction than have people pointing fingers at me. This is still the net.

>If I decide not to put you on my who I
>would like to meet list, don't assume it
>is because of your status, there could
>be a number of reasons.

Good enough for me. Like I said it was just a thought that I had at the moment.
Just remember things are never what they seem

>I am too blessed to be stressed

 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 01:34 PM

Dush, Wakili does have some valid points. It must be hard to trust someone. but u were there and we would have liked to know u (not as a mysterious stranger, but rather as dush). But I also understand ur need for privacy. I just hope that the same way u got to know us will be the same way we get to know u
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 01:41 PM

By putting one and one together I have come into a conclusion what it is that we are discussing here. I don't know you but please take heart and keep an open conversation. By being on Mashada is already good enough coz you get to hear from different people. May God Strengthen you. Thanks for reminding our ignorant minds how precious life is....
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 01:58 PM


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>If I decide not to put you on my who I
>would like to meet list, don't assume it
>is because of your status, there could
>be a number of reasons.
>
>
>I am too blessed to be stressed


Well put Wakili________never knew you were such a brain :7 :7 been trying to tell this person the same thing just using more graphics "tough love" 'kindda' thing ;-)

 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 02:27 PM

...hehehe cybil, talk about being blunt..chill out on the chic..all she wants is some lovin'....;-)
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 03:37 PM

Hope this encourages you Dush and the rest.From my boyz Boyz II Men, here is I will get there from 'THE PRINCE OF EGYPT' sound track.....keep kickin'..

I've been wondering round in the dark
Been lost somewhere where no light
Could shine on my heart
I have known a pain so deep
But I know my faith will free me
And I'll get through this
I'll find my way again
So don't tell me that it's over
Cos each step just gets me closer
I will get there...

I will get there
I will get there somehow,
Cross that river
Nothing's stopping me now
I will get through the night
And make it through to the other side
Get there
Get there

I've been in these chains for so long
I'll break free and I'll be there
Where I belong hold my head up high
I'll stand tall
And I swear this time I won't fall
I will do it
No matter what it takes
Cos I know no limitations
And I'll reach my destination
I will get there

Well the night is cold and dark
But somewhere the sun is shining
And I feel it shine on me
I'll keep trying
I'll keep trying
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 05:34 PM

Dush,
Thanks for that article. It made me think and be thankful that am not paralysed.

As a sister who is in a similar situation as yours (HIV positive for those who may not know)I am going to tell you that being HIV+ is just a tag. You are still Dush no matter what virus or what cancers you may habour. True friends will remain loyal thus you dont have to look for approval from certain mashadites in order for you to fit in. I am sure there are many individuals willing to meet you and hang out with you (myself included)but you need to go about it gradually, get to trust one or two individuals before you tell them what you have. Not everyone can be trusted!
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 05:42 PM

Wakili might have some points but its easier said than done. Understand that Dush is scared and has psychological scars. She's afraid. Just give her time.
 
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Default RE: I will get there someday - 04-09-2002, 05:46 PM

Some day i wake up and feel low really and all i want is just to tell someone 'am feeling very very low today' and that's all no more no less.
I do not want them to pity me or to make it any better for me, I just need to feel that i have let another human bieng know what am going through.... somehow it makes me feel better but i know at the end of the day I am the only one that can make it better for ME.

DUSH, feel free to unleash right here.... I know it'd make me feel better if i had something i would not be able to share with my friends for fear of being judged. If you want to stay annonymous then am behind you 100%. And although i cannot pretend to know what u r going through... i feel you gal....

 
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