RE: Bottom Line! -
01-23-2002, 07:15 PM
This was fwded to me by a pal!
Men and Marriage
Last month we threw a bachelor party for one of our good friends and then on Saturday afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he and his fiancee' said their vows. As I stood up there looking across the crowd, I decided that my next topic with my boyfriend on this page could definitely talk about marriage. I also realized that alot of women may not want to hear the truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple that they could not accept it without qu estioning their own relationship.
But I am here to tell you - "DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED."
The sad thing about it is that it took a woman to bring it to my
attention.
I had a close friend of mine tell me that she was pursuing a stable man
with a girlfriend (not a wife). When I asked her did she feel wrong about
that she said "Sh_t, a girlfriend ain't nothin' -girlfriends come and go.
If the man is established and he isn't either married or engaged to her
yet, then he is not that serious about her and he's fair game!" I thought about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion:
"IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE, IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH."
He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason that a man will get married after that lenght of time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definately what he was doing all of those years. So if you should happen to find yourself in one of those "long term" relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that you're missing that this man is not willing to fully commit. Don't make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's waiting til he gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school" or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house".
DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED.
Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or fiance' by your
side?
So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that
you are living with. Or the one that you spend many nights over his house
or him over yours. Think about your baby's father that you are still in a
sexual relationship with. Think about your "ex" that you are in a sexual
relationship with. Think about your "boyfriend". And definitely think
twice before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of years long and you still have no commitment.
Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've been there
and I know that we can come up with some extremely reasonable excuses,
but.....DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED!
Can I get an Amen??!
....mdhaniaye ndiye kumbe siye.....
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