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Default RE: MEN...OPEN YOUR EYES - 01-04-2002, 07:27 PM


AAAAAAA-- -Acheni pleeeasseeee!

Ati being torn between you and his boyz? Do you actually believe that ama you are just theorising?

If the woman is the ONE the last thing I'll be thinking about is my boyz.



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Default RE: MEN...OPEN YOUR EYES - 01-04-2002, 07:38 PM

Men are so unfortunate. Trumpled and brought down to humble stool of reality by the so called 'sensitive' ladies,(why?) then demand commitment? That only helps but sow the seeds of discontent.

I wonder why a gentle lady would make a man spend his better part of life chasing after a her, then one month later demand dedication and commitment.

Why let a brother go down on all his fours for months then demand a lifetime together? If I struggled to make a girl be with me then commitment is at my own discretion.

Kenyan men out there, Have you ever realized that when you walk into a joint alone, no single girl wants to look your way. Next time walk in with another lady and all the ladies want to say hallo. (Is it petty feminine jealousy?)

For all my players and homies, keep it up.
 
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Default RE: MEN...OPEN YOUR EYES - 01-04-2002, 08:03 PM

mark twist learn to read b4 u flap ur lips. i said i stand being corrected and if that's how u correct pple, no thank u,i don't need ur help. i also started with the phrase 'i think' i neva said i know. just incase ur comp neva showed u that part lemmie quote it 4 u.

">>i think it's not fear of commitment but......"

 
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Default RE: Why does commitment scare men? - 01-04-2002, 08:04 PM

Commitment takes some period of time not just a couple of weeks. Not that men are scared of commitment but many women like insisting on it immediately after meeting and this is what scares us.

I thought commitment is supposed to come after you have been with your partner for some period of time and are ready to be more serious in the relationship.

We are not scared of commitment but please let things move in the required pace and commitment will come automatically :)



 
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Default RE: MEN...OPEN YOUR EYES - 01-04-2002, 08:10 PM

Assumptions! Assumptions! Assumptions!!!!

You will be surprised how many women value discreetness over commitment.

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Default RE: Why does commitment scare men? - 01-04-2002, 09:51 PM

Exactly Jnderitu. When one meets a lady the pressure to commit immediately does scare us away..whatever happened to a test run? :+
 
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Default RE: Why does commitment scare men? - 01-04-2002, 11:12 PM

Never committ to anything unless there is a million dollars to be gained (PS: don't enable the golddigging sections of your medulla coz that is a false alarm. if alarm = 0 you are well rounded. If alarm = 1 it means that some feedback channels are missing either because they werent installed in the first place or because they are out of repair. otherwise you belong to the general demography of the human population )
 
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Default RE: Why does commitment scare men? - 01-04-2002, 11:39 PM



The way you describe your fear is that someone will "cage you in." This has a couple of possible dangers. The first is that you may be a bit on the "hyper-independent" side of things, needing to remain a bit too autonomous in a relationship. If this is true, you need to find out what the underlying fear is and where it comes from. It could be a fear of intimacy or a fear of losing your boundaries when you are in a relationship. You need to be able to be close and at the same time not allow someone to control you. If your boundaries are too weak, then you may need to create distance in order to maintain them

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Default RE: Why does commitment scare men? - 01-04-2002, 11:49 PM

Mercedes i never got what you meant to say .
This was not a programming thread :)
Anyway I can only pick up a couple of algorithms and pseudocode which do not seem to flow.

Try this:

Sub MillionDollars()

If Optalarm= 0 Then
WellRounded() ' Call The Well Rounded Procedure
Else
Channels() ' Try the Channels Procedure
End if
End Sub

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Default RE: Why does commitment scare men? - 01-04-2002, 11:57 PM

I can't say that I am an authority on this, but it has been asked frequently: "Why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free ?"
 
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