Women and control

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Originally Posted by MURMAID

You should be equal partners nobody is the boss of the other, period!

Murmaid there is nothing like equality in a relationship. There has to be a leader,

[FISI_1]

Most women like a man who is in control.You be a ******* and you will be shown the door.

But the truth is,you will never make a woman happy. She will always be complaining about something.

Hope you guyz watched Chris Rock talking about this. He said the reason you will never make a woman happy is because you were never her first choice.i.e. most women end up with a man who is her second or third choice .

[MURMAID]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

Murmaid there is nothing like equality in a relationship. There has to be a leader,

OK FINE, you decide who the leader/ driver is and whoever takes the back left seat (God forbid its the man) should shut up and enjoy the ride. If the driver is horrible bumps on trees and walls, buckle up and brace yourself. If you are not happy ask him to shukisha you hapo kwa junction.

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

Murmaid there is nothing like equality in a relationship. There has to be a leader,

As long as we have a leader, even female, it's great right? Times are changing and if we are going to curb the divorce rates, we have to meet halfway. That entails both parties starting to view each other as contributing equally to the relationship. The problem we face is that people are not yet comfortable enough to let go of the old models.

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by MURMAID

OK FINE, you decide who the leader/ driver is and whoever takes the back left seat (God forbid its the man) should shut up and enjoy the ride. If the driver is horrible bumps on trees and walls, buckle up and brace yourself. If you are not happy ask him to shukisha you hapo kwa junction.

LMAO

[lynda]

Originally Posted by King20

This is a question to all Mashada women. Do women enjoy being incharge in their relationship or do they prefer their men being incharge. The norm is that the man must be incharge but what do women like. As a woman, do you feel more relaxed and more loved when your man lets you take charge and lies low, sorts of does what you tell, him how you tell him! Share.

I think to each woman her own. I actually feel loved more and relaxed with a man who runs his own life like he knows what he is doing and let's me run mine and appreciates that am able to do that. If he lays low and expects me to tell him what to do and how to do it, then that can't work. Of course we have to consult each other in what we do because we should be partners in crime...

[mtoto mzuri]

askin if a woman likes a man to be in control is like askin if u like ur chicken spicy or original. i.e it depends and varies from person to person. other that it being a personal choice (or a choice between the couple), kuna vile one party cannot be in control 247. sometimes, one takes a break and lets their significant other take the wheel. u cant be in control from january to january. that just makes one a .. ahem... ctrl freak .

personally, i wudnt wanna be in ctrl full time, or never in control. its a relationship, therefore shud be 50/50. yes, its gonna bring up fights here and there, but c'mon, control or no control, show me a genuine couple that doesnt fight for one reason or another, and while ur at that, show me a man who doesnt blame a woman for the fight and vice versa. hakuna!!

but thats just me. kila kitu kwa kiasi.