Caring. A woman's role?

[mo-uk]

Are they natural cares(companion of men)? or are this been stilled to them as they grow aka how they are nurtured. What do you think? how do you feel? what is your understanding of this issue?

[girl82]

Caring should stop being a woman's issue. It should rather be a human issue because care and caring is universal, based on justice and fairness and, it focuses on the reality of relationships rather than the illusion of autonomy. Society initiates girls and boys into this falsehood in many ways such as buying dolls, play houses with pots and pans whereas boys are given toy weapons and violent video games. How can men be expected to be more of autonomous beings and thus excluding them from experiencing human feelings and experiences? It's like a watered down version of what happens in war-torn places where children are denied so many experiences that they end up hardened and always ready for a fight. So, no. I don't think ati women are engineered by biology to be caring, maybe engineered by society.

Okay I know all the scientists may come out fighting and talk about estrogen and testosterone but I believe that this goes beyond estrogen and testosterone because these two hormones fail to explain the varied personalities that are a consequence of the fading sexual lines. These days, men with tawny musculature and ma-squaks that can make any lunje woman jealous, sashay around in flowing skirts, hot pants and stuffed bras without an iota of extra estrogen

I will propose that some of these gender lines are created by society and labeled feminine by society. I also think that since women are only good when they are not manly (unless they work in a corporate offices - and no, not as the secretary), and men are only good when they are not womanly, men try to suppress attributes that are considered female. But for some of these crucial HUMAN attributes such as caring, society should let it flourish in the sense that all should be allowed to be who they are. Heri we supress bad attributes. I also propose that if men didn't try so hard to be macho men all the time, there would be less violence in the world?

I guess it is easy to see whether I am on Gilligan,s or Kholberg's side...

When all is said and done, I am scared sh*tless of "womanly" men! Maybe this societal thing helps semi-inspired chics like me filter out the Jonathan Plummers...

P.S. If Terry McMillan reads this - Are you sure Jonathan Plummer was that sexy and manly like how u described him in the book? How could I have had a crush on a gay guy...LOL

[Devine]

Originally Posted by girl82

P.S. If Terry McMillan reads this - Are you sure Jonathan Plummer was that sexy and manly like how u described him in the book? How could I have had a crush on a gay guy...LOL

Heartless lol just cold n heartless . I bet u've heard of all those married men on the downlow. Married gays who look nothing like floosy gay guys.

About caring and women. I'll take the different brain structure route. Women's brains are wired to be more compassionate in most situations. To have concern for the other person and try to resolve issues amicably rather than fight it out. hehehe just writing that n i'm thinking of all the women i know, seems like total hogwash. The women I know are fighters tough and don't back down, men are gentle and caring but not gays of course lol.

It's a continuum, brutal brutes to gentle lambs n everyone lies somewhere in between.