What percentage of men cheat? and why?

[bible_reader]

SC governor's career launched by wife he betrayed. When South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford cheated on his wife, he also betrayed his top political adviser.

First lady Jenny Sanford told the world in a statement Wednesday that she had sent her husband packing nearly 15 years after she launched his political career.

Mark Sanford apologized to her and their four sons at a tearful press conference where he admitted a yearlong affair with a friend in Argentina whom he had visited on a secret trip.

His wife said in her own statement later that she kicked him out of the house two weeks ago and asked him not to speak to her while she tried to come to grips with his infidelity.

Why do men cheat?Even at the expense of such a lucrative career.

[bible_reader]

I wonder what took him to brasil/Argentina,and why he did not even share info about his whereabouts with his close staff or even friends.

[ronniebrent2000]

matters of the heart are difficulty, alot of people have been hurt by his other relationship, he has known the other woman for 8 yrs its not easy to just walk away.

[okiedokes]

I think the press conferences have been worse than the cheating itself. From the looks of it, he is in love with the other woman and thinks she is his soul mate. That is not something you can fight for very long. He may work things out with his wife(for now) to get past the negative press, but I forsee divorce in the future. She has handled the situation with dignity but if she's realistic, she will realize that her marriage has run it's course.

@bible_reader, he was hoping to get there and back without anyone noticing, he'd done it before. But like they say, 99 days for the thief, 1 day for the owner.

[Fraglante]

Governor's issues aside, all men cheat. PERIOD.

The sooner we accept this, the sooner we learn how to deal with it.

[Ester]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

Governor's issues aside, all men cheat. PERIOD.

The sooner we accept this, the sooner we learn how to deal with it.

Hi Frag, lol...

Although nimekataa hiyo assertion yako. Not all men cheat.

I can speak for my boyfie who I know for a fact would never ever cheat on me. From how he explains it, men have 2 "brains." A penis brain and the real brain. The former reacts to anything that's pretty and pleasing to the eye. But that's as far as it goes because the real brain "kicks in" and overrides the temptation to take things further.

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by Ester

Hi Frag, lol...

Although nimekataa hiyo assertion yako. Not all men cheat.

I can speak for my boyfie who I know for a fact would never ever cheat on me. From how he explains it, men have 2 "brains." A penis brain and the real brain. The former reacts to anything that's pretty and pleasing to the eye. But that's as far as it goes because the real brain "kicks in" and overrides the temptation to take things further.

Ooooh your boyfriend? Last we talked we didnt have this aspect remember?Good for you!

Anyway back to the topic.
I dont know whether its the kind of men that surround me but my experience tells me that they all cheat at some point in the relationship.It all depends on what we deem 'cheating'.

It could be physical or emotional.It could even be both.For those of us whose standards are high, most men fall short.In our eyes they all cheat.For those whose standards are low like Nafusi(am refereing to her recent revelation in some thread that she allows her man to have one night stands)then thats not cheating to her.

Even the saint of the saint cheats. Ofcourse he will never tell you and will do all he can to cover it up.But as long as he is a man, he will cheat. Even if its a one time event.Its still cheating.

[Governor Palin]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

Governor's issues aside, all men cheat. PERIOD.

The sooner we accept this, the sooner we learn how to deal with it.

Not all men cheat. PERIOD

If your men cheat on you then deal with it!
From your writings I can tell you are one girl I would stay away from. You sound like a pyscho obsessed with men. Stupid girl!

[YB*]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

I dont know whether its the kind of men that surround me but my experience tells me that they all cheat at some point in the relationship.It all depends on what we deem 'cheating'.

My dear, this is the bone of contention...Women seem to think that the male instinct can be switched off. Eti once you are married you will go blind and not 'see' beautiful women.

Men are not like women, a married woman may feel disrespected when a guy tries to flirt with her, for a man, he may flirt without a 2nd thought.

I know the femme fatales here may want to preach equality, but there is no sure way that shows a woman's subservient nature than an engagement ring - Even the most rabid feminist, will allow to be marked as spoken for, while the guy has nothing showing he's spoken for - she will go through life giddily, showing she is 'owned', while the man is announcing nothing - The irony of female power

Originally Posted by Fraglante

It could be physical or emotional.It could even be both.For those of us whose standards are high, most men fall short.

Even the saint of the saint cheats. Ofcourse he will never tell you and will do all he can to cover it up.But as long as he is a man, he will cheat. Even if its a one time event.Its still cheating.

Define the cheating, then set standards against it - What might be a flirt, may be construed as emotional cheating, to another emotional cheating needs to run for some time with a particular person, and not 'party flirting'.

[Ester]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

Even the saint of the saint cheats. Ofcourse he will never tell you and will do all he can to cover it up.But as long as he is a man, he will cheat. Even if its a one time event.Its still cheating.

"Even the saint of the saint cheats?" Aii, that's crazy.

But I guess it goes back to what you said about what constitutes cheating. Stuff like one night stands are a no-brainer but what about the gray areas like texting, going out for coffee after work?

The type of relationships most women envision where the guy is completely committed to her and the family, requires a man with solid principles which frankly speaking, is a rare find outside of Christianity. Anyone please correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't one-man for one-woman type of relationships a very Christian concept? No other religion that I know of advocates for this type of set-up. The male desire to conquer as many women as possible is just another lust of the flesh that Christians are equipped to deal with. The same way a man would want to become an overnight millionaire by the most pain free method of corruption, doesn't mean he'll do it even when presented with the opportunity.

Originally Posted by YB*

I know the femme fatales here may want to preach equality, but there is no sure way that shows a woman's subservient nature than an engagement ring - Even the most rabid feminist, will allow to be marked as spoken for, while the guy has nothing showing he's spoken for -

Ha ha ha so true, it's scary! I've seen the most rabid feminist transform into sweet and doting submissive wives.

Originally Posted by YB*

she will go through life giddily, showing she is 'owned', while the man is announcing nothing - The irony of female power

That's why we have facebook relationship status. I admit that's the first place my eyes land on when checking out a new guy's profile.