What percentage of men cheat? and why?

[Devine]

Very interesting Jasakwa...what are we heading to premarital genetic testing. Actually I wouldn't mind if I knew it's going to save me a ton of headaches later.

[Laina]

people cheat for all kind of reasons, n not jus men, women too!!!!!!

[ATLian]

Originally Posted by Ester

I can speak for my boyfie who I know for a fact would never ever cheat on me.

Those are the real players, the men who have succesfully convinvced their chics that they cannot cheat :-) ANYBODY (regardless of sex, age, wealth, race, etc) can cheat, never ever lie to yourself otherwise.

[Ester]

Originally Posted by ATLian

ANYBODY (regardless of sex, age, wealth, race, etc) can cheat, never ever lie to yourself otherwise.

Sex, age, wealth, race, etc are not the set of determining factors when it comes to predicting who will or won't cheat. The universe is governed by the principle of duality where pairs of opposites balance each other out. Using this line of reasoning, if it's 100% certain that a group of men will cheat at any given time, there must exist another group who won't. Anyone can cheat by virtue of a functional penis or vagina, but that's where the similarities end.
Even if my bf was to cheat on me (God forbid), it wouldn't change my stand.

Last week I was at revival meetings that lasted a whole week. This world has become so rotten and just by reading some comments in this thread, it's obvious that people cannot fathom a man who can keep his marital vows or purity when he can easily get away without doing so. What I saw and experienced at those meetings gave me so much faith and hope in mankind. God is really preparing His people for something "big." It wasn't fake or staged, God was in that place and the outpouring was so real. The world is slowly sinking into a delusion but God is raising up a group of people who will shake this earth to its core. Watch this space!

[jogich]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

I didnt say she has low standards hehehehe infact she has veeeeeeeeeeeeeery high ones. Sky high....no...make that 'Pluto' high LOL

And no I have nothing against your lifestyle per se.What ever gave you that idea?

High standards!!!!!..are you sayin that you too can give ur dude a pass to lungula a one night stand????

Well it was just a thot and a feeling...ooh n an instinct too.

[Eric Cartman]

Not all men are unfaithful. A lot of men who don't intend to be unfaithful get caught up in the wrong situation. A lot of men do go out there purposley with the intention to cheat. Some men are almost always in the right place and the right time (with wife, girlfriend, at work etc) hence they DO NOT cheat. I won't speak for men, or women, but I'll write in general about the steps one should take to be faithful...

1. Ask God for strength to be faithful/pure of mind. We are all human and we are all vulnerable.

2. Mortification of the senses and directing the will to higher ideals. By this I mean...try and avoid the sexual thoughts (which may lead you to cheating) by engaging in more worthwhile thoughts...family, sports, education etc Another thing, when you see a fly mama/dude on the street...admire kiasi and move on...continually assessing them will get you in a lusty situation...

3. Avoid the dangerous occassions where temptation is highest. A wise man once semad that.."in the war of the senses, cowards conquer.." If you think that you are most tempted to cheat when you drink, drink less or avoid the bar competely...if you know some mama or dude you could potentially get in a sticky situation with, avoid being alone with them etc

I think a lot of dudes have the intention to be faithful, lakini they don't know how to...lakini most importantly, ask God for help and if you are sincere...you can be faithful...

Just my 2 cents...

[Redi wa Kandara]

Damn! 2 responses on this page invoked GOD and praying! Wow, I had no idea that there were 'saved' bible-thumping Mashadites-y'know what with Paul the apostle going on and on about not being unequally yoked with unbelievers and what fellowhip does darkness have with light....yeah, I can quote the scriptures, just like Satan can manifest himself into an angel of light.

Anyway, I am glad that we have 'believers' among the wretched heathens. I am the greatest of them, so do say a prayer for my damned soul, will ya? Pure comedy up in here!!!

[jasakwa]

Originally Posted by ATLian

ANYBODY (regardless of sex, age, wealth, race, etc) can cheat, never ever lie to yourself otherwise.

Anybody can cheat but not all men cheat.Actually there are a few who cannot cheat.

[Ghetto Love]

100.3% of men cheat except me coz i didnt allow to be counted by the researchers...my 2 kenya shillings

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by KEMINOKANA

I asked this question in another thread:

But there are women like Fraglante and Okiedokes who seem to argue that the reason why men cheat is because the standards were not set. I asked, did Mrs. Sanford not set her standards? Yall know that's a bunch of baloney. Setting standards will not change anything. Unless the "standard" is some sort of biological reaction that will sedate him forever MJ style anytime he thinks of cheating, relying on "I set standards" will not get you off the hook. Infact, as far as I know, the most cheated on women I see are the ones with "standards". I.e women who are so controlling such that they chase away what they are trying to protect.

I think you are twisting my position. Yes, you set boundaries and standards - what you won't tolerate! Whatever the other person does, you have no control over but they know where you stand and the consequences. That is my position not what you have up there.

Rules and consequences are part of our society and life in general. Your parents followed similar principles which have made you the person you are today. You teach people how to treat you but you don't control what they will do, that is why we have choices: to cut them off, put up with it, forgive, ignore, etc.

Also, neither of us knows what their relationship was like, so you are being presumptious when you say that Gov. Sanford cheated because his wife was not doing "something". Besides, statistics show that about 90%(if I remember correctly) of relationships that begin in affairs end in divorce so there's no telling he wouldn't have found another "soul mate" while in Argentina with Maria. People cheat because they can and want to - it's that simple!

I tell ya, there are principles I won't break: dating a married man is one of them. For me, it's all about choices and I have no respect for women who knowingly pursue such relationships. I know someone who is dating a man engaged to be married. I have to say, I have a hard time calling her my friend. I've found myself not calling her as much b/c of her choices. She gets sad and sh*t dring Valentine's Day b/c he doesn't acknowledge her gifts. Duh?