What percentage of men cheat? and why?

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

Frag, I agree with you. You set boundaries and make consequences known. Whatever he does after that, he knows where you stand on the issue. We can't control others but we have control over what we can do about a situation.

Some men are also honest about such things e.g one guy told me that his gf's attitude about cheating makes a big difference. If she's not one to tolerate it, he tries harder not to cheat(and believes he can be faithful) but if she is lax about it, he won't try to resist temptation.

As we talk about the men, we shouldn't forget the women they cheat with. I'm more disgusted by the women who don't have enough self-respect for themselves as well. Many times women know these men are married or in relationships, yet they proceed. The Rielle Hunter types who don't like to do the hard work of building a 20 year marriage, but enjoy reaping the labors of other women are just pathetic. So, until women learn to respect themselves more, I'm afraid this cycle will continue and only get worse.

You know??!!! And this really gets to me.There is this lady who had the audacity to make an indecent proposal to my man. Ati she doesn’t mind the fact that he is in a relationship with me, she wants to have something with him and have his baby. Can you imagine that? He told me about it and we had a laugh but still there is this nudging feeling that’s accompanied by a voice…in my head. It tells me to buy myself a cannon and obliterate the bit.ch.

Enyewe this is a vicious cycle and we are the only ones who can save ourselves.Anyone know where I can get me a weapon of mass destruction?

[jogich]

I still cant believe wat nat89 said that she allows her man to have a one night stand..nat will u be my galfriend????

[Fraglante]

LOL @Nat, you see the kind of men you attract because of your low standards? Men who know they can take you for granted. Men who will only date you because they know they know with you, they can have their cake and eat it. What kind of a relationship is that? Filthy!

Anyway, to each their own.

Originally Posted by jogich

I still cant believe wat nat89 said that she allows her man to have a one night stand..nat will u be my galfriend????

No offence Jogich am just driving a point home.

[jogich]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

LOL @Nat, you see the kind of men you attract because of your low standards? Men who know they can take you for granted. Men who will only date you because they know they know with you, they can have their cake and eat it. What kind of a relationship is that? Filthy!

Anyway, to each their own.




No offence Jogich am just driving a point home.

Low standards???....No i wldnt call her that but personally if i had a chic i cant imagin myself tellin her that go n get screwed up....btw frag i have never understoon why you are so so so much against my lifestyle..am single and its not like i cheat on sm1.

[KEMINOKANA]

Originally Posted by Ester

That's why we have facebook relationship status. I admit that's the first place my eyes land on when checking out a new guy's profile.

And that's why most of us have no relationship status to begin with. LOL. That's very naive.

It's good to see women try to understand men. The assumption that we have two types of brains is ludicrous. If you can see Mr. Sanford, it's clear the woman in Argentina has stolen his heart. Why she has done so is the question...but obviously she's doing things that his wife his not doing....or they were meant to be together but the chance for them to meet didn't come soon enough. It's more complicated than just the penis talking.

[KEMINOKANA]

I asked this question in another thread:

But there are women like Fraglante and Okiedokes who seem to argue that the reason why men cheat is because the standards were not set. I asked, did Mrs. Sanford not set her standards? Yall know that's a bunch of baloney. Setting standards will not change anything. Unless the "standard" is some sort of biological reaction that will sedate him forever MJ style anytime he thinks of cheating, relying on "I set standards" will not get you off the hook. Infact, as far as I know, the most cheated on women I see are the ones with "standards". I.e women who are so controlling such that they chase away what they are trying to protect.

[McBush]

One thing you will never hear me complain in these forums or anywhere else for that matter is men or relationships.
After being in a couple of happy and fulfilling relationships, I've come to know what men want and don't want.

And one of those thing men like the most is:

A self-sufficient, secure, confident woman.
Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation -- either materially or emotionally. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. Men want a woman to be active and independent, to have her own friends and interests.

Men hate a manipulating or controlling relationship.
Men will not tolerate manipulation of any kind for any significant length of time. To attract a great man and build a wonderful relationship learn to ask without hesitation for what you want and need in every area of your life.

Those are my two cents but of course there are many other things men want/don't want from a woman in a relationship.

For more discussion, please check this thread:
What Men Want in a Relationship

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by jogich

Low standards???....No i wldnt call her that but personally if i had a chic i cant imagin myself tellin her that go n get screwed up....btw frag i have never understoon why you are so so so much against my lifestyle..am single and its not like i cheat on sm1.

I didnt say she has low standards hehehehe infact she has veeeeeeeeeeeeeery high ones. Sky high....no...make that 'Pluto' high LOL

And no I have nothing against your lifestyle per se.What ever gave you that idea?

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by KEMINOKANA

I asked this question in another thread:

But there are women like Fraglante and Okiedokes who seem to argue that the reason why men cheat is because the standards were not set.

To say that men cheat because standards were not set is very simplistic. You got me wrong. Its past 5 and am tired…mimi nimeenda home.

[jasakwa]

Men don't even know why they cheat,until recently researchers at Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, are stating that they found a correlation between genes of cheating voles( similar to a mouse) and genes of men who cheat on their spouse. The gene was present in 2 out of 5 men studied. The study shows that if you have this gene your more likely to have martial problems. If you have 2 kinds of the gene variant then your in double the trouble. However men who lack the variant are more likely to be devoted to their spouse.

The gene variant studied is believed to regulate the activity of a hormone in the brain and can affect a man's attitudes toward fidelity and monogamy. More than 1,000 heterosexual couples were studied. Researchers looked at men because the hormone is known to play a larger role in their brains than in women's brains. However, the study found that the gene also seems to predict whether women describe their mates as close or distant, and whether the men are more likely to marry, or simply live with their mates.