I need HONEST guys' opinions

[Black pearl]

MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!

You will hurt byut you will heal ....the guy is still searching so when he says he needs time what he means is "am seeing other people besides you and
I need time to decide which one I like most ."HArsh as it may seem, its the best place to be, its better to know a guy has seen all other chicks and made he decsion its you he likes and well if it aint you , well there are guys who lik eyou but you dont like them ataht much too. Thast the CIrcle of Love. But, there is nothing worse than being uncertain of your positin in a relationsip afadhali you let that bird go, if it comes back to you , it was meant to be yours.If doest, atleast you know where to start .

[Shyloxx26]

Originally Posted by Black pearl

afadhali you let that bird go, if it comes back to you , it was meant to be yours.If doest, atleast you know where to start .

There's nothing as TERRIBLE as getting back with the ex-factor. If he/she goes, let them go roho safi. If you let them back, they always come back different and you can't handle them.

[kichapo]

from his answer, i think that jamaa is not serious...put the cards on the table for him. ask him direct swalis bout this chic n who she is to him..chances are that he wil lie bue from his reactions u wil know where u stand..

[ReGGaE4LiFe]

Originally Posted by heshimu_wasichana

I'm 25 and currently seeing this guy who is 7yrs older than and I am so confused.
.....rewind
I stopped dating guys younger than 25 because I never found a guy that i have the same interest and also that is serious about realtionships so i thot that I should try older guys.

I have been with him for 13months, love him so much but scared to admit it to him because of fear of heartbreak. I do show him that I love him in many ways and he knows that. I am faithful to him and I really thought that THIS WAS IT, MY MR. RIGHT. lately I have seen change and my suspicions advanced when some gal called him to which he stated that it was a friend and nothing more. After I perisistently kept requesting about the gal, he said "I lOVE YOU BABES, BUT I NEED TIME"
what exactly does he mean?.

he means by give me some times if he wants to check his priorities whats he realy wants ,if his ready ,his maybe only flirting with woman to see if he still has the flar,it hard for a men to settle down and accept commitment so maybe his taking his last flirting shots dont stress him about it,give him time he settle down soon am sure,and you hav to know even if you guys are commited womans will always flirt with him ,so get used to it .

[ReGGaE4LiFe]

Originally Posted by heshimu_wasichana

I'm 25 and currently seeing this guy who is 7yrs older than and I am so confused.
.....rewind
I stopped dating guys younger than 25 because I never found a guy that i have the same interest and also that is serious about realtionships so i thot that I should try older guys.

I have been with him for 13months, love him so much but scared to admit it to him because of fear of heartbreak. I do show him that I love him in many ways and he knows that. I am faithful to him and I really thought that THIS WAS IT, MY MR. RIGHT. lately I have seen change and my suspicions advanced when some gal called him to which he stated that it was a friend and nothing more. After I perisistently kept requesting about the gal, he said "I lOVE YOU BABES, BUT I NEED TIME"
what exactly does he mean?.

he means by give me some time if he wants to check his priorities whats he realy wants ,if his ready ,his maybe only flirting with woman to see if he still has the flare,it hard for a men to settle down and accept commitment so maybe his taking his last flirting shots dont stress him about it,give him time he settle down soon am sure,and you have to know even if you guys are commited womans will always flirt with him ,so get used to it .

[fry]

In life you either fail or succeed. Since nothing's guaranteed follow your heart and go it all the way. We waste so much time at the crossroads wondering which way to go than actually living.

If you truly love the guy, give it your all. The second you doubt him, it means that you don't truly love him so leave well alone.

If he's preoccupied, it doesn't necesarily mean another girl's on his mind. Other problems exist, you know e.g. money, sickness,work, etc

So girl, decide what you really want and go all the way (to him or from him) You're either living or not.

Success!

Originally Posted by heshimu_wasichana

I'm 25 and currently seeing this guy who is 7yrs older than and I am so confused.
.....rewind
I stopped dating guys younger than 25 because I never found a guy that i have the same interest and also that is serious about realtionships so i thot that I should try older guys.

I have been with him for 13months, love him so much but scared to admit it to him because of fear of heartbreak. I do show him that I love him in many ways and he knows that. I am faithful to him and I really thought that THIS WAS IT, MY MR. RIGHT. lately I have seen change and my suspicions advanced when some gal called him to which he stated that it was a friend and nothing more. After I perisistently kept requesting about the gal, he said "I lOVE YOU BABES, BUT I NEED TIME"
what exactly does he mean?.

[Faceless]

He is not interested in you. He is only taking you for a joy ride. Sorry to be point blank but just damp him before its tooooooo late

[Hassen12]

Originally Posted by heshimu_wasichana

I'm 25 and currently seeing this guy who is 7yrs older than and I am so confused.
.....rewind
I stopped dating guys younger than 25 because I never found a guy that i have the same interest and also that is serious about realtionships so i thot that I should try older guys.

I have been with him for 13months, love him so much but scared to admit it to him because of fear of heartbreak. I do show him that I love him in many ways and he knows that. I am faithful to him and I really thought that THIS WAS IT, MY MR. RIGHT. lately I have seen change and my suspicions advanced when some gal called him to which he stated that it was a friend and nothing more. After I perisistently kept requesting about the gal, he said "I lOVE YOU BABES, BUT I NEED TIME"
what exactly does he mean?.

It means he does not love you and he is only with you coz of kuma. Get real!

[Makosaimefanyika]

But 13 months is such along time. Very few men indeed will stick to one woman for 13 months if that woman is not his loving wife. Now even if you decide to leave him as some are suggesting here, you will still be the loser and the mourner because 13 months is enough time for him to have throbbed and excavated you until nothing much is really left of you. May be just move on and get some pig who is able to do with the crumbs.

[jmburus]

Originally Posted by simple-n-clear

This is my philosophy, if a guy likes you, he will pursue you and not come up with ridiculous excuses such as i need time. If a guy is confusing you and when you ask him for clarification he give's you such a shady reply there is a reason and the reason is not positive leave him with his confusion and go find a man who cant stand to confuse you coz he's so crazy about you!

.. just to correct your philosophy kidogo ..

" .. if a guy likes you, he will pursue you and not come up with ridiculous excuses such as i need time UNTIL you mention the M word .. after which he literally does 140mph