[wanaume]

Originally Posted by simple-n-clear

I'm not a guy but i'm a chic who recently went through something similar and my question to you is, so he needs time that's great at the very least we all see that he can identify what his problem is with some allowance for grey areas which you are now supposed to fill in the blanks for yourself (or atleast that's what he's hoping you will do) but how long are we talking about, and what are you supposed to be doing while he's "taking his time"? If you answers are not pleasing to you BOUNCE ON THE MAN, HE'S NOTHING BUT A JOKER, He's got jokes for days and unfortunately you will not be part of the group enjoying the joke coz the joke will be on you.

This is my philosophy, if a guy likes you, he will pursue you and not come up with ridiculous excuses such as i need time. If a guy is confusing you and when you ask him for clarification he give's you such a shady reply there is a reason and the reason is not positive leave him with his confusion and go find a man who cant stand to confuse you coz he's so crazy about you!

Men are not complicated we (women) are the ones that complicate them in our heads hoping if we complicate their responses to us they will somehow match the profile of the man we wish they were!

Exactly. now thats a gal who knows men, just wish there was more like her. You have just made my day, and thank you very much. Do you know how rare it is to find a lady who is willing to admit that she understands men and goes on to prove it??

[Billy Mayas]

Originally Posted by heshimu_wasichana

I'm 25 and currently seeing this guy who is 7yrs older than and I am so confused.
.....rewind
I stopped dating guys younger than 25 because I never found a guy that i have the same interest and also that is serious about realtionships so i thot that I should try older guys.

I have been with him for 13months, love him so much but scared to admit it to him because of fear of heartbreak. I do show him that I love him in many ways and he knows that. I am faithful to him and I really thought that THIS WAS IT, MY MR. RIGHT. lately I have seen change and my suspicions advanced when some gal called him to which he stated that it was a friend and nothing more. After I perisistently kept requesting about the gal, he said "I lOVE YOU BABES, BUT I NEED TIME"
what exactly does he mean?.

Darling, which part of I NEED TIME dont u understand?

[Fokojembe]

Originally Posted by heshimu_wasichana

I'm 25 and currently seeing this guy who is 7yrs older than and I am so confused.
.....rewind
I stopped dating guys younger than 25 because I never found a guy that i have the same interest and also that is serious about realtionships so i thot that I should try older guys.

I have been with him for 13months, love him so much but scared to admit it to him because of fear of heartbreak. I do show him that I love him in many ways and he knows that. I am faithful to him and I really thought that THIS WAS IT, MY MR. RIGHT. lately I have seen change and my suspicions advanced when some gal called him to which he stated that it was a friend and nothing more. After I perisistently kept requesting about the gal, he said "I lOVE YOU BABES, BUT I NEED TIME"
what exactly does he mean?.

He needs what???? Did i hear u mention TIME???? OMG That guy could be my brother or something and what we thought each other is, Ukianza kuboeka na Manzi na u want to dump her u Drop the "I NEED TIME" line and fortunately enough it always works on many innnocent unsuspecting girls.I reside in Coast and there is unbooked local saying that goes if you dont care of your man another willing charming and attractive woman willl.You had the chance to impress your man and take care of him so that he could feel loved and you lost it.Now another woman on the side is stealin your man and you gotta do something more fast than the speed of light.and if you eventually get your man back even though i cant promise you mpe yote usibakishe hata kama ni kwa balcon and spoil him with all that you learned in this world since the days of kalongolongo and baba na mama.and if the other girl proves to be good enough move on with your life and learn a lesson from the whole experience.

[BKVO]

ati kalongolongo na cha baba na cha mama..uve made may day..those days! LOL!

[chungwa]

simply when we guys say we need time,it means that,wewe upeani vizuri so i see somebody too. give well once and see,if he doenst respond move forward and look some other pple,sisi uko na we want serious women too,mbona ungaaika sana when your options are so wide and open!

[Bawgy21]

It means he is keepin his options open in case something better comes along. Never stop being yourself, just keep both eyes open in case you see something better.

[sperm]

Tafuta mwingine kabla ujajinyonga been in that gamefor long dont hate the player hate the game huyo jamaa atakuwacha kwa mataa

[JINIKALI]

I have never seen two people deeply in love. Love is one sided. It's usually one person in love and the other strolling along. To love is to ask not to be beloved and I think you have spoilt rotten your boyfi. He thinks he is the macho man now but, at that age he needs to be careful. Men are naturally polygamists and once it's available, they will hit it, no matter how perfect their relationship or marriage.

[Shyloxx26]

I smell a break up in the air. Sio kwa ubaya. There was a thread about sth similar. The guy has back up and he feels its time to bring the backup upfront.

That's a red flag already.

My 2 cents

[oumps]

u ryt.i'd still do the same. si chics always tell guys "wuiye si wi just be friends".thats usually bul****.