[Ester]

Originally Posted by barb

Oh my daym, is this comment coming from a woman, u know wat 5-6 yrs is exactly wat i need, n by the way i dont complain that all the good men r taken, mayb u'v been doing it uaself, hence decreasing your self esteem making u stereotype women on their age and beauty, coming to think of it this comment is not abt me, its abt yourself, you r projecting whatever fears you have on me, deal with your issues sweetie, you are not fit 2 pffer any adv.

Whatever...I was just trying to be of help. So what exactly did you want pple to tell you? Coz it seems you have everything figured out, No hard feelings btw, but you sound 'lost.'

[barb]

Originally Posted by CertifiedDimePiece

ummmmm just don't show up for dinner and if it happens that you do show up, go stay in the bathroom the whole night so you wouldn't have to say no. That way, you will still have acces to his condo and all his other riches.

Problem solved!!

wow, seems like adv from an expert, the difference btwn me n you is that i make my own living, a very gud one @ that and i dont need any body's to validate me, swity, not everybody is like u, my moral compass is facing the right direction, check yours, which obviously needs sm adjustments

[barb]

Originally Posted by Ester

Whatever...I was just trying to be of help. So what exactly did you want pple to tell you? Coz it seems you have everything figured out, No hard feelings btw, but you sound 'lost.'

U know wat ester u r rait, am confused, i know am not ready to settle down, but this does not mean that i should settle for the sake of settling down, coz a gud man comes one in a blue moon, n am not even sure am just speculating, but as the thread said, all the signs r leading 2 that direction so wat i needed from u guys is adv on wat i should, mayb sm pple hv experienced this instead pple r goin crazy, seems like i touched a lot of nerve, maybe am openiong healed wounds or sum, in any case no hard feelings 2.

[barb]

[quote=Wamax74.;678922]I'll say it again and I'll say it a thousand times. Get a life!

You tell us not to tell you the right age of marriage but you are the one who told us about your age. If you had no man in your life, I'd think your are young. But now that you have a guy who is doing everything to you except taking you down the aisle, you ARE old enough to marry.

Watch out lady, there are not many nice men going around.[/QUOTE

Sugar, do u have any slightest idea wat the term 'get a life' means, coz obviously your level of understanding has decreased with age, no wonder you r dwelling on this age thingy which by the way is not the issue, u know i just realized this replies r not abt the real issue which is me, its abt hooligans like u who r projecting their life crises on me, deal with your issues, i am not the cause of your problems.

[barb]

Originally Posted by Jibril Cessay

Peepz got to be harsh cos if we remain silent to trifle, we r abetting a crime against humanity.

Now, for the uninitiated woman still looking for Prince Charming.

It's a very big step for a man to ask a woman to move in. It's an even bigger step for a man to stop chasing skirts and settle down and concentrate on the one true love in his life.

So if a woman decides to call the jamaa a playa or a douche bag and starts panicking abt marriage then she is not worth the jamaa's time. Afadhali the jamaa moves on and eventually someone special will come along.

Just like Sex and City's Samantha, u grow old and one day u realize that u r 50 and no man had the patience to put up with shenanigans. All the things that enrich femininity such as a man, marriage, kids, bosom buddies, stable job, colorful résumé will pass u by.
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It is also a very big step 4 a woman 2 accept a man's proposal, n yes if a woman decidedes 2 call a man a playa or a douchebag he doesnt deserve her, WHICH IS NOT THE POINT HERE, i hv a gud man, just because i dont want to settle down doesn't make me a bad person, that is y if he proposes which am not sure he will, am gonna decline the proposal, which brings me 2 my original question, how do i do that? the alleged proposal maybe admist many pple, i dont think i hv the heart 2 do that, that is y your adv came in, now can u adv me on wat to do now, not wen am in my 50's

[al-zalzalah]

Originally Posted by barb

It is also a very big step 4 a woman 2 accept a man's proposal, n yes if a woman decidedes 2 call a man a playa or a douchebag he doesnt deserve her, WHICH IS NOT THE POINT HERE, i hv a gud man, just because i dont want to settle down doesn't make me a bad person, that is y if he proposes which am not sure he will, am gonna decline the proposal, which brings me 2 my original question, how do i do that? the alleged proposal maybe admist many pple, i dont think i hv the heart 2 do that, that is y your adv came in, now can u adv me on wat to do now, not wen am in my 50's

barb, i'm not getting the dilemma.
what's the prob?
dude asked you to move in. you said you don't do comewestay. natural next step kama yuko serious is for him to ask you to marry him. y u surprised?

anyway, if you're not ready, then when he proposes, tell him that.
if he does it in public and you don't want to humiliate him, tell him you need to think about it, then when you're alone umweleze.

if you just want to be honest. then have a conversation with the dude. don't need to tell about the ring. but u can talk about how you've been thinking about things and realize you're not ready for marriage at this point in your life.
y create a dilemma where non exists?

[Wamax74.]

Originally Posted by barb

Sugar, do u have any slightest idea wat the term 'get a life' means, coz obviously your level of understanding has decreased with age, no wonder you r dwelling on this age thingy which by the way is not the issue, u know i just realized this replies r not abt the real issue which is me, its abt hooligans like u who r projecting their life crises on me, deal with your issues, i am not the cause of your problems.

You are the most lost cybergirl I ever met. One thing though. Dont delude yourself about availability of good men. Its something girls with good intentions (Idont love him types) live to regret.

God gives you one very good opportunity in every aspect of your life. If you squander it, he may give you another but it will be the rare person who gets a third.

My final take: You obviously love this guy and he loves you back. You are loving the chase game more that the prize. Just cut the chase, luv. Also, from your replies, it brings you out as a self-centred, egotistical bytch, whose only reward to any good man will be heartache. The dude is better off without you. You are simply not wifie material and I wish his eyes open to see the tramp that you are.

[grip_daddy]

Originally Posted by barb

i needed from u guys is adv on wat i should.

You being a confused idiot, you can't even know what opinions and advices mean! If your post is critically analysed, you think that they that gave you such beautiful alternatives have pathetic lifestyles and rotten rationale as yours. You are a big faggot that needs to be screwed in the head. Stupid.

[Sanaa-]

Originally Posted by Wamax74.

My final take: You obviously love this guy and he loves you back. You are loving the chase game more that the prize. Just cut the chase, luv. Also, from your replies, it brings you out as a self-centred, egotistical bytch, whose only reward to any good man will be heartache. The dude is better off without you. You are simply not wifie material and I wish his eyes open to see the tramp that you are.

Thats unnecessarily harsh. How do you sum up so many negativite traits for a complete stranger.


As for the marriage proposal, I don't like hints at all, It would have been better if this man, discussed about "your future" generally with you, without pressure or expecting a certain kind of answer. Also I doubt that he played the jagged edge song to hint at you, and if he did, thats a very odd if not cheesy way to go about it. Infact when it comes to things men do, that one is nearing a deal breaker. If you love him that much, and want things to remain as they are just talk about it openly, tell him its something you've been thinking about.

Also I don't think at 24 (or any age for that matter) you should be worried about proposals. Do things at your own pace, but of course inform your partner about your future plans so you don't inconvenience him just incase he is bent on marrying you, or just settling down at a certain age. Kila mtu anazo mipango zake mwenyewe, so communicating your own is very important at this point.

[nat89]

Barb stop wasting your time giving them answers.

I think you have a good tihng going for you.
I really support what Ester said, but you know what you can also do.

Is if he does propose you accept but you do not have to get married within that year.
There are very many people who are engaged and have been together for years without getting married.

But okiedokes asked a good question i didnt see you answer.
"I have a question for ya. Are you not ready for marriage? or not ready to be married to him in particular? There is a difference ya know!"