[t.D.A.]

Hi,
I have a cousin who has just turned the dial and become a teenage girl. Me and her parents are on a strong campaign to keep her away from boys and we have tried to tell her that all they want is one thing pudesh.
Now of course the silly teenage girl does not believe me. And so to convince her, I thought I would ask you all to share some stories of sleezy things you have done, been done to or seen or heard done to get pudesh? Hopefully, I'll scare the poor girl into staying away from over-hormoned teenage boys.

[sdolphin]

Welcome back tDA umepotea sana.

As for your cousin....i don't think anything said here will keep her away from those boys, but i'm sure it'll help her spot the over-hormoned ones from a mile off.
Nothing comes to mind at the moment so will be back later.

[kenyangal83]

As someone who had sex for the first time in her 20s, all I can say is hope and pray that what you and the parents have taught her since she was little has made her principled enough to want to do it at the right time.
Otherwise, it's not even normal to want her to keep off boys. Encourage healthy interaction.

[nat89]

t.D.A,
The best you can do now really is actually teach her how to be safe than "frightening" her.
Make sure she knows how to do it and give her a condom.
Because most teenagers do things they are not supposed to do and if you keep pushing this she will do it and isnt it better she knows how to protect herself than going in it alll blind?

Lastly, a method that sometimes works, is get pictures of infected people.
With HIV/AIDS, people who have STD's and all those things.
Movies are good usually.
I would go to the, hmm trying to think of the place in english.
Uhm well its a place that helps teenagers mostly with issues like sex and testing and free advice, go there and ask the for some videos or some information or better yet take her there if you can. They wont talk her out of it i believe, but they would make it clear to her all the sorts of things she might get.

[t.D.A.]

Originally Posted by sdolphin

Welcome back tDA umepotea sana.

As for your cousin....i don't think anything said here will keep her away from those boys, but i'm sure it'll help her spot the over-hormoned ones from a mile off.
Nothing comes to mind at the moment so will be back later.

Kazi ndiyo imekuwa mingi. Oh goodness, I hope I end up getting a boy, I don't think I have the heart to see girls who I am trying to protect become like Amy Winehouse.

[t.D.A.]

Originally Posted by nat89

t.D.A,
The best you can do now really is actually teach her how to be safe than "frightening" her.
Make sure she knows how to do it and give her a condom.
Because most teenagers do things they are not supposed to do and if you keep pushing this she will do it and isnt it better she knows how to protect herself than going in it alll blind?

Lastly, a method that sometimes works, is get pictures of infected people.
With HIV/AIDS, people who have STD's and all those things.
Movies are good usually.
I would go to the, hmm trying to think of the place in english.
Uhm well its a place that helps teenagers mostly with issues like sex and testing and free advice, go there and ask the for some videos or some information or better yet take her there if you can. They wont talk her out of it i believe, but they would make it clear to her all the sorts of things she might get.

That makes sense about the pictures and the videos...though, come to think of it, she actually gets shown pictures of genital herpes and warts at school. Why doesn't fear work? It's so easy, so simple. Why can't she just be scared into staying in the house?

[sdolphin]

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Kazi ndiyo imekuwa mingi. Oh goodness, I hope I end up getting a boy, I don't think I have the heart to see girls who I am trying to protect become like Amy Winehouse.

No need to panic, Winehouse is in a league of her own. You know it's the foundation that matters so if you niece had good guidance when growing up you could try trusting her a bit and hope she makes good decisions.

In other words, give her little rope and see if she hangs herself. Don't be too harsh on her otherwise she'll clam up and close all doors of communication.

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Why doesn't fear work? It's so easy, so simple. Why can't she just be scared into staying in the house?

LOL that statement is very funny.

Actually fear can work.It worked with me. I heard nothing all my teenage life but how boys/men are dogs!
How they will play me!
How they will make me pregnant and leave me!
How my dad will be so furious if I got pregnant!
How he would kick me out of his house!
How he would shoot some one!
How my life would come to an end!
How I would never amount to anything thereafter!

And if I tried to get rid of the pregnancy, how I would either die in the process, or have my whole uterus ripped out and blood would gash out of me like a fountain and how eventually I would......DIE!

How either way it is a lose lose situation for me.
Boys/men where the Antichrist.
Satan himself walking on earth!

If I wanted to be doomed, all I had to do was be seen with a boy.Not doing anything...just be seen in the vicinity.No boy should come within one mile radius of me.

It worked! I didnt have sex until into my 20s

[KEMINOKANA]

You are just one jealous woman coz your cuzo is young and attractive and you are not. Mind your own business. Ati discourage her. Kwani she has no brains for herself? Mind your life man and let others be. It is her pudesh, not yours.

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by KEMINOKANA

You are just one jealous woman coz your cuzo is young and attractive and you are not. Mind your own business. Ati discourage her. Kwani she has no brains for herself? Mind your life man and let others be. It is her pudesh, not yours.

Eeeer tDA is a man.