[t.D.A.]

Originally Posted by KEMINOKANA

That makes it even worse lol. What is a man doing trying to scare guys from his cuzo and vice versa other than the fact he's jealous someone's gon tap that sexy booty? I have a feeling this fella fancies this gal but coz of incest he wont touch. Accept the fate. She'll get tapped with or without your consent at the moment of her own willing. And it wont necessarily mean the first booty shaker will be her hubby.

No worries mate. Lots of cuzos introduce eachother to the game. U wont be the first.

And that brought me right down......that's scary right there! Down right scary

[t.D.A.]

By the way the little girl is 14 years old, to put this in context.

[kenyangal83]

TDA, thats where you go wrong. 14 is not little. This is a big girl who knows what she is doing.

What you need to do is be open. Be the cousin she will come to when a guy is pressuring her to have sex... the guy she will tell when she thinks she is ready etc

That will put you in a better position to advise her when the time comes, rather than scaring her, and you end up alienating her and she closes up.

[t.D.A.]

@kenyangal: Advice noted and appreciated. As a man, it sucks when you just can't defend your women, it really does! Especially when you now just how ruthless teenage boys and men can be about the coochie.

[african hotty]

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Hi,
I have a cousin who has just turned the dial and become a teenage girl. Me and her parents are on a strong campaign to keep her away from boys and we have tried to tell her that all they want is one thing pudesh.
Now of course the silly teenage girl does not believe me. And so to convince her, I thought I would ask you all to share some stories of sleezy things you have done, been done to or seen or heard done to get pudesh? Hopefully, I'll scare the poor girl into staying away from over-hormoned teenage boys.

I do not agree with what you are doing to your cousin.....here's why :

1) You are scaring the young lady about life itself
2) She must have experiences and learn from her experiences
3) She has female hormones
4) What are you going to do when "peer pressure" starts to attack her in school ?

Personally i think you advise her,talk about sex awareness,research with her all the different type of STD's.................

You can do all you want,if she really make up her mind to sleep(have sex) with a guy,she will hide from you and her parents and do it.

[vudu]

She is old enough to make choices. If you fungia her she will mess up one day because she will have the freedom but bila senses.
Let someone fungua her until she knows why men are called men.
Shuma lazima ilale ndani
From there I have no objections.
Like n our times when we were kids we used to hit each other ouch...
We were young but we came to learn about good sex, safe sex.
What about theone who post the blog were u fungiwad ama when did you lose your virginity.

[Shyloxx26]

Originally Posted by t.D.A.

Hi,
I have a cousin who has just turned the dial and become a teenage girl. Me and her parents are on a strong campaign to keep her away from boys and we have tried to tell her that all they want is one thing pudesh.
Now of course the silly teenage girl does not believe me. And so to convince her, I thought I would ask you all to share some stories of sleezy things you have done, been done to or seen or heard done to get pudesh? Hopefully, I'll scare the poor girl into staying away from over-hormoned teenage boys.

Originally Posted by sdolphin

No need to panic, Winehouse is in a league of her own. You know it's the foundation that matters so if you niece had good guidance when growing up you could try trusting her a bit and hope she makes good decisions.

In other words, give her little rope and see if she hangs herself. Don't be too harsh on her otherwise she'll clam up and close all doors of communication.

True dat, the foundation is what matters most. If you bring upo them kids bila stressing the do's and dont's and the reasons behind the two extremes - then you've thrown your little one to the wind. And by the way, no amount of restrain will keep the little gal away from men. She will want to know why am I being told to stay away and inthe process, jump in the sack and find out the hard way.

My mum has been kali for as long as I remember. It was not until I was in mid 20s that I decided to let my guard down. Eh! Wacha tu. No comment!