[fiery_preacher]

What has temporary financial security of a man got to do with his character,morals and intelligence.Or perhaps his ability to raise and run a good family.

Ladies aspiring for a man should face facts that in modern times a most men become financially secure at later age than before.

[Jay-R]

Originally Posted by fiery_preacher

What has temporary financial security of a man got to do with his character,morals and intelligence.Or perhaps his ability to raise and run a good family.

Ladies aspiring for a man should face facts that in modern times a most men become financially secure at later age than before.

you might want to replace fear with hate .

[dotNet]

I think it gives them some sort of security... making them feel that you can take caer of them... of situations. Also gives them space to spend more on shoes

I think money to most women also means some power.. kinda.. and the fact that she can have a lil bit of whats higher on the chain. Financial security goes deeper than just that.. to some its a sign that the dude is a hard worker.. has achieved success albeit mininal.. sumthn like that.. I really don't know but thats always been my assumption of the money issue.

[Sanaa-]

Originally Posted by fiery_preacher

What has temporary financial security of a man got to do with his character,morals and intelligence.Or perhaps his ability to raise and run a good family.

Ladies aspiring for a man should face facts that in modern times a most men become financially secure at later age than before.

I have a problem with the over simplifcation of this issue.

(assuming this is a man I am interested in)

I don’t have a problem with a man who earns a low income. However I would probably need to know what is the definition of success according to this man. Maybe earning alot of money is not his idea of success. Or Does he intend to continue earning a low income. What is keeping him from earning a higher income? etc.

Money = financial security = overall easier family life.


If you have a family, you can’t afford to say that you will remain in a certain income bracket for the rest of your life. Why? Because cost of life is ever increasing. It is ok if you earn a small income for your self but when another person enters the picture, its ceases to be just about you. Man/woman was created to work hard.

Personally I can’t live on just enough, and I don’t expect for me and my man to exist in the same space, but be on different levels, because it means we will never have similar working schedules, plus we will never understand each other on why I work hard or need to work much harder than he does.

That is why every person should strive to date a person who shares the same financial values as themselves.

Look at the current global trends, increase in food prices, declining values of currencies etc. Imagine the families that have no savings at all? Just because they felt that earning just enough will get them by.

Even in the Bible, remember the parable of talents? The one who burried his talent, the others who doubled/invested their talents?

One should define their income according to the environment they live in plus a differentiation of economic trends. (be prepared for the future)

Having just enough is sometimes not enough.

[Sanaa-]

Originally Posted by Jay-R

you might want to replace fear with hate .

Actually replace that with avoid

Earning a low income sio hoja, but does he intend to remain in the low income earners bracket?

[sdolphin]

A man earning less than me is a non issue to me.
What i would be looking for is a man who works hard and strives to better himself. A man with ambition and drive.

What if the man is just a lazy bugger and all his money and wealth is inherited? Ok so i'll never have to worry about bills, having a roof over my head, putting food on the table, etc. Without a healthy work ethic...then i wouldn't be interested.

[dotNet]

sdolphin you belong to a group that consists of 5% of women. The other 95% gauge a man by his pockets then everything all comes. Guys who live in NRB know this all too well.

Worst case scenario, ur earning more than her.. then u get sliced from jobo or something, then you have to start hustling for a job while she takes care of you... ma ma ma!! Madharau utaonyeshwa.. av seen like 3 cases.. including the one on 'Y Did I get Married'

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by sdolphin

What if the man is just a lazy bugger and all his money and wealth is inherited? Ok so i'll never have to worry about bills, having a roof over my head, putting food on the table, etc. Without a healthy work ethic...then i wouldn't be interested.

You have a point actually because extra deep pockets dont automatically transalate into extra hard working man/ambitious/with vision etc. He may as well just be a lucky heir.

In answer to the question I would say that the financial security has little or nothing to do with the mans character, morals, intelligence or ability to raise a good and stable family.
However to your second point(poster) I dont agree.Where am at the current trend is the men...or rather people in general are attaining that financial security at an earlier age,not later.And that ofcourse is a good thing.

[sdolphin]

@dotNet that's why i always look for someone with a good work ethic cos maisha can and does happen. There was a kathread once about sijui about a guys having PhD verus looks or charm... i can't remember. Guys were going on about sijui i want a guy on the same level as me, sijui maneno ya communication level....

What's the point of a degree if you can't hustle. Tutakula degree.
I have a pal who's dad is illiterate, but they are loaded like a nonsense. Which brought me to the conclusion....good work ethic...

What women are normally looking for is security and somewhere along the line they lost their way and assumed money equals security.

My pals sister married into a rich family (i'm talking old money) and in all my life i've never seen such a miserable person. Every penny she spends she has to account for.

[opiche]

hey this' the verdict..women will marry low income earners only if;
-she's not beautiful, too huge that no man to date around.
-she's desperate with kids whom she cant trace their fathers.
-she's a little educated baffoon.
-they have generally fail to secure their dream husband.
-age is catching up with her and needs to settle down.
-after having several separations and divorces.
-trying to console herself that marriage is made in heaven.

So generally women avoid low income earning men but situations see them marry these men.