i need ur advice pls help

[shatar]

i came to here to the us for college and making friends has been so hard for me unlike back home. u say hi to someone they dont answer u back they just look at u u try to be nice to them and talk to them but instead they just gossip abt u its been so frustrating for me and my roomate turned out to be a racist so i moved out this yr and im staying alone ,pls tell me what to do?

[mtaveta]

Originally Posted by shatar

i came to here to the us for college and making friends has been so hard for me unlike back home. u say hi to someone they dont answer u back they just look at u u try to be nice to them and talk to them but instead they just gossip abt u its been so frustrating for me and my roomate turned out to be a racist so i moved out this yr and im staying alone ,pls tell me what to do?

u need to think and start acting positively......a low self esteem is what u have self confidence will take u far and u dont have to depend on people to have this....so think behave independently and move on with your life!its all about making uself happy remember u cant please everybody u gotta pliz uself...do not force urself to be liked be uself be natural all others will come in naturally GROW UP MAN!!

[Bridgette]

Woiye i feel pity for you.if i were there i would be your friend. but now that am not let me give you some advice.

As some one said, confidence is all that. if you are confident there is some positive energy around you that attracts people. you need to not look like a geek also maybe thats why they just look at you when you say hi.take a look at yourself on the mirror.And,love yourself first then others will love you.

[TW]

Originally Posted by shatar

i came to here to the us for college and making friends has been so hard for me unlike back home. u say hi to someone they dont answer u back they just look at u u try to be nice to them and talk to them but instead they just gossip abt u its been so frustrating for me and my roomate turned out to be a racist so i moved out this yr and im staying alone ,pls tell me what to do?

Are u sure u are in the US ?

Check your VISA and entry stamp ...
You could be in China .. they dont nyita a word of English .. so saying hi to them is like singing ndombolo ya solo to a herd of goats ..

[Frisco Gaa]

I feel for you.You may wanna try a different state.Those losers assumming you,assume them too.If you are in the same class,make sure you are on the top of everything.Focus your attention on the teacher most and ask alot of questions.Get a friend even if in a nother state.Phone calls are cheap if you are in US of A.Last but not least you have such a big opportunity of turning those losers into friends by being yourself.

[Total_Balaa]

Originally Posted by shatar

i came to here to the us for college and making friends has been so hard for me unlike back home. u say hi to someone they dont answer u back they just look at u u try to be nice to them and talk to them but instead they just gossip abt u its been so frustrating for me and my roomate turned out to be a racist so i moved out this yr and im staying alone ,pls tell me what to do?

How old R U?
M/F?
State?

I got the hook up

[Total_Balaa]

Originally Posted by TW

Are u sure u are in the US ?

Check your VISA and entry stamp ...
You could be in China .. they dont nyita a word of English .. so saying hi to them is like singing ndombolo ya solo to a herd of goats ..

Thats fackking hilarious! LOL!!!

[t.D.A.]

Hey, i feel for you, i had exactly the same problem when i first came to the west. From where you are i will give you a couple of quick tips that may help you out: 1) first of all, stop and ask yourself, "why do you make friends in the first place?" if someone was outside of you and looking over your whole life, why would they say you make friends. Is it so you don't feel lonely, so you feel like people care for you, so you feel like someone needs you (like me), so you feel important why in the bluest of blue hells would this matter? you might ask. Well, when you figure out what you want out of people, at least now you know what to look for and the type of people who are worth your time. 2) get involved in something bigger than yourself. For me personally, 95% of my personal growth has come because i was once a very lonely person who felt that if i did today absoloutely no one but my family would care, and that scared me. That's when i decided that i would be so useful and unique and give so much to the world before i die that i will never be forgotten. Maybe you want to committ to do the same thing and find a place where you are needed, starving children, adoption centres, people who are lonely and need someone to talk to. 3) hang around the type of friends you had back home. Go source the churches, the clubs, the unis, the city centre, the forums. Look everywhere and anywhere until you find people who are like wasee wako wa mtaa. For myself i know this made a huge difference. Whatever you decide keep us posted and remember you are on mashada now, you're with family so if all else fails post on mashada. Be blessed the displaced african the displaced african

[Hermione]

Woiye pole sana. Give it some time and something will probably work out.