Hmm... No one could do single like I used to. A few years back when I was newly single, I lived like today was a celebration for singlehood. I loved the spontaneity of being single, being accountable to your self.. and the choices solely depended on just you alone.. I didn't have to make half choices and consider the other half for my bf.
I loved the dating esp. My dates were always so flamboyant..right from the first moment I'd meet the men right to the last moment underneath the sheets even though not all ended up underneath the sheets. The thing about me, If I was single and dating I'd do it with so much fervor.. and if I was single and not dating I'd put equal committment to it as well.
I remember fondly if not feverishly, nights spent out or those little dating escapades that left me breathless with glee the "morning after" Like this hot guy (I met in a trendy joint uptown) he'd just turned 38 and had the sexiest lines on the corners of his eyes when he smiled (some would call them wrinkles.. but ahh blah!) He walked up to me after an hour of exchanging whose going to approach who glances..across the counter and he asked if he could buy me a drink and I told him i'd let him do more than just buy me a drink if he named 8 Asian cities from the top of his head.. and to my suprise he named 9 for good measure with no hesitation!
Or how I'd spend a night at a dates place and sneak away in the morning because I had this little rule.. dawn had to find me in my bed at whatever cost I'd write on his bathroom mirror using lipstick "shall we do this again sometime?" Or how I'd lose my underwear in his bed and not want to wake him looking for it, and I'd write a little note on a paper napkin telling him I left him a little "keep sake" with a wry smiley at bottom.
Or how I'd enjoy a "package weekend" of fine dinning in a place I'd never go alone.. and drink & dance the night away.. and sneak away right before dawn with my heels in my hands..my feet too sore and I'd take the scenic walk home enjoying the feel of the warm summer sun soaked cobblestone roads on my bare feet..
I'm long past that phase, and alot of my single days after making that conscious decision to abstain from and stay away from men (until now) were spent pampering myself on weekends, shopping for antiques in little streets I never knew existed or simply scrubbing my apartment silly. Nowdays I get an orgasm just reading a good book or just indulging in some craft ..its amazing how much time you reclaim once you are single.. I could never have imagined that its possible to go on a date, catch 2 drinks with a friend and tutor a student all in the same evening.
I'd say enjoy your single days to the max, but be responsible of course and as for that man whose no longer in your life.. the good Bishop once told us that "God never meant to use anything that left" His part in your story is over.
Sometimes i would wonder if being in a committed relationship deflected all the fun , because my my my! when a girl was newly single and had very thin perimeters ..she literally spends her days beating off the men with a bat because they come in drones!
Being in a relationship has its great side but being single has its unequalled thrills.. a rule of the thumb for me is to apply as much fervor either way with or without someone but make sure you don't get addicted to the highs of being single.
I'm GLAD I'm Single! -
11-08-2007, 01:15 PM
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