[patt]

LOL....ati ERTW

Never heard of that one. Was that his pick up line...ati "by the way am an ERTW". Can't stop LOL'ng. Fake ass ERTW. With that brain...i doubt if he can even rule his household.

and that bit about a chic giving you attitude over your man lazima ikome. if that man loves you...he wud bring that b u l l s h i t to an end. Oh sorry i forgot he's busy doing overtime

[milanya]

WOI. WOI. WOI.

Women never cease to amaze me. They will say "If you overlook the fact that he is an axe murderer, he really is a great guy."

Do you realize, if you date someone and they irritate you, when you get married it'll be X100 worse. That is when you see their true colors and they relax because they know you aren't going anywhere.


The man is a gambling, workaholic who is bangin' his friend. Those times he is "working" sweetie, he is actually working on gacungwa's bodily pleasures.

Swirri, run. Other things can be explained/overlooked/helped - gambling? What good is $150K a year if he gambles it away?

Msichana, you can find other good-looking rich men who will take care of you. Your friend is a real friend.

[al-zalzalah]

Originally Posted by milanya

WOI. WOI. WOI.

Women never cease to amaze me. They will say "If you overlook the fact that he is an axe murderer, he really is a great guy."

Do you realize, if you date someone and they irritate you, when you get married it'll be X100 worse. That is when you see their true colors and they relax because they know you aren't going anywhere.


The man is a gambling, workaholic who is bangin' his friend. Those times he is "working" sweetie, he is actually working on gacungwa's bodily pleasures.

Swirri, run. Other things can be explained/overlooked/helped - gambling? What good is $150K a year if he gambles it away?

Msichana, you can find other good-looking rich men who will take care of you. Your friend is a real friend.

milanya, you're practically a prophetess .

[m kenya]

Those times he is "working" sweetie, he is actually working on gacungwa's bodily pleasures.

lOOOOOOOOOOOL

[Shyloxx26]

Originally Posted by beeamah

QUOTE<A possessive female friend red flag
She has always been there for him for 3 years and has been the constant in his life.
I have to believe him and know that nothing is going to happen between them and that he can't get rid of her as a friend, so I have to live with it.> Eh! Mami, true love is unconditional, people make compromises...Red flag

I find this very disturbing but maybe its just my naive self.


want to hook up with a guy who has a gambling problem Red flag. Can you imagine what would happen if 3 years down the line the guy chooses to gamble your kidos future college fund or the last amount of cash you have in your joint account? If he is that careless with his money, he could be using it as a tool to self medicate. In psych, such extremes stem from a more serious problem. Let him kick that habit before trying to hook up with him.

What is ERTW?

Mami, tread carefully. Gambling is a serious issue in anyone's life. Ni kujitia kitanzi.

[Sanaa-]

Originally Posted by Shyloxx26

Mami, tread carefully. Gambling is a serious issue in anyone's life. Ni kujitia kitanzi.

Yep .. ama kujitia kuni kwenye tako.

[Sugaspice]

another miserable housewife in the making... marry him and get it over with.. just don't tell your kids "when I married him he wasn't like this.." because he was... they all we're we just settled for it and so will you...

[oogg]

I think the "workaholic" problem can be worked out because as relationships grow, priorities shift, and you may become more of a priority to him in the future than his job.

However:

- the 'female friend' that he can't put second to you, and you just have to live with it?????? That I find disturbing - especially if he has told you that himself and upfront. Besides, if she was really, truly his friend she should make a conscious effort to like you because you make him happy. You have stated that she ignores you and acts like you don't exist. That's a major NO NO.

-a serious gambling problem? I hope you realize that gambling is an addition, not that different from drug addiction. He needs help, or will need help in the future if he does not stop now. You must be prepared to see him through that. And, like someone pointed out before, I don't think you will find it a minor problem if in the future he gambles away your kids college money or gets you guys so deep in credit card debt that you won't know where to start.

Anyway, at the end of the day, you, not your gal pals, will have to make the crucial decision, realizing fully well that there are consequences to every choice. Even if the guy makes 150,000 K a year, is it worth the kind / amount of trouble that looms in the future? Think about it - you can make your own 150, 000 K or more a year and not have all the extra baggage that this guy seems to be stringing along.


Good luck.

[mugithimadness]

Originally Posted by Misse

Thanks Dot net, in my heart, I like him for whom he is.

I respect him, I listen to him, I want him in my life.

It does not matter what and how he does what he does.

Its silly but I know there are red flags but I want him anyways

So what was the question again? It beats me sometimes that we only want to hear answers that suit us and to hell with what doesn't....you and only you can honestly answer yourself......and please be brutal with yourself....it's your life and only you will be there when things start falling apart or going well......so weigh the good and the bad and see if you can live with it.....and make up your mind....seriously...your happiness does not depend on the bastards (me included) behind their screens at home or your jealous girlfriend...or your mommy or daddy......you see where this is going back to.....it's all about your girl.....run or burn with it!
Tough love kiddo!!

MM

"Dude, where's my car?"